To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

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I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

I have a lodger who has 2x 15 minute showers a day. I can’t wait for her to move out.

Thanks F you are not my landlord and I don't need to rent.

i think it’s time for the overgrown chick to be pushed out of fly the nest.

😂😂😂

I think both mine and dps showers are about 15-30 minutes each 🤷‍♀️

The walls must be sopping wet by the end of 15 min! Imagine that x 6 occupants.

I don't think 15 minutes is unreasonable.

Takes me a few minutes to properly scrub myself, then there's often hair washing, conditioner, and shaving. Plus a minute of cold water at the end each time. Over a whole week it probably adds up to 15 minutes a day.

You've got to remember that a lot of Mumsnet users say they don't wash their legs or their feet, so I guess that cuts the time down, and I suspect many just duck under the stream and wash their face.

Idk why everyone is assuming that £100 a week is a small amount of rent for a room. In many places outside of cities, it's standard.

If you have teenagers then you will know all long showers.
They even put the shower on to 'heat up' then go to loo dilly dally around before getting in. 🙄

I said free pass to have no responsibility, ie. Not having to worry about the stress or reality of the cost of running a household. Also, a free pass to act ungratefully with little regard for her fortunate position. Not free as in without paying rent. Perhaps instead of falling over yourself to be purposefully obtuse and argumentative, actually read what I wrote. Manners cost absolutely nothing, she doesn’t appear to have much of those judging by the way she’s putting herself across. £100 is absolutely nothing to have a secure roof over your head and three meals a day. Just because not all of us would be content with paying pittance and being rude about our privilege in life it doesn’t make us wrong despite you appearing to be adamant to the contrary. Plenty of people are in the position where they are not able to support their adult children and they have to jump in at the deep end to stand on their own two feet. You clearly must be in a privileged position yourself to think that just because OP is someone’s child that they’re entitled to live at home for next to nothing despite legally them not having to be cared for. I understand being a parent doesn’t end at being 18 but many people don’t have the luxury of keeping their adult children at home. The fact you can happily excuse the rudeness of the OP shows more about yourself than it does about me to be frank. Therefore, we can agree to disagree because you’re entitled to your opinion but you’re in the minority and I won’t keep arguing about it. I stick to my original point, her parents are making sacrifices for her. That’s the end of it.

I can't believe some people's DC take an hour in the shower 😱.

@Zoreos - don't get rude and personal.
No need.
It's entirely possible to disagree with a viewpoint.

I think you should get a gym membership and shower to your heart's content there.

I'm in and out in under 5 mins.

Anyway OP. Goo luck.
Perhaps you could suggest monitoring your toilet usage and pay more for the water bill.

I suspect these posters saying 15 minutes is unbelievable and £100 a week is so little have not washed themselves properly nor rented anywhere for at least a decade.

Is the flannel woven from your own hair? If not you can't possibly win.

Your comments about your mum's choices in life are unpleasant. She can do what she wants and request that people living with her, using the money the household has a whole, comply with length of shower requests. It's not too much to ask someone to conserve gas/electric and water in this day and age.

If you don't like your parents choices, you can move out. It's that simple, isn't it? Maybe grateful rather than looking to be critical, eh?

Quite. Is the thimble full of water your own tears from your parental sacrifices? I hope so.

Dermatologists (eg dr Reyka Taylor in the DM, who actually runs a clinic near me) says no more than 10mins as you deplete your skin of natural oils. UK average is 6.7m.

And there are few places in the UK you’d get room and board for £100 a week. Parents house, parents rules.

£100 a month is a tiny amount! I bet it doesn't cover your share of utilities let alone a share of any mortgage or rent and if you are expecting them to buy and cook your meals out of the £100 then you will be having a laugh as the saying goes😳

What are you on about? I rent and pay less than that so including food it must be about £400 a month.

You don't even know where op lives so idk why you think you know how much it costs better than she does.

Edit: It's £100 a week according to the title. Is that why you're confused?

I agree 15 mins is quite long - I don’t like to hang around, I’m aware of the cost / environment impact and would rather cut down on length and have one every day more or less.

I actually think £100 a week is a lot for living at home but you say your parents aren’t well off so it’s a difficult one. You should be able to compromise, maybe use a timer and aim for 10 mins max?

Is it 15 min literally showering, or 15 min in the bath in the morning, cleaning teeth, using loo, showering and drying yourself etc?

I wonder how they work out the UK average showering time?
If the people on here were asked it's surely under 5 minutes.

Per week.

And my parents never charged me anything, nor did any of my friends' parents. It's a very British thing to charge your own kids rent.

I was neither rude nor personal, I don’t know anything about you. I’m just speaking as I see it as much as anyone else. I’m also entitled to my opinion just as much anyone else. If you’re offended by anything I have said then you really should look at how what you write makes you come across because people will comment and make assumptions on it as people have for myself on here many times before. I said we would have to agree to disagree so that means that yes, people can disagree perfectly well but it doesn’t mean I have to then accept what you’re saying is right in my mind. If anything I’ve written breaks the talk guidelines then Mumsnet will delete it. Im confident that they won’t though. If you don’t want people’s objective opinions or can’t accept criticism then don’t post on an online forum. It’s as simple and straight forward as that really. If you’re not willing to accept a difference in opinion then I’d recommend not tagging people’s comments. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve not posted anything massively dissimilar to many other people on this thread. In fact, I originally quoted a similar comment and agreed. I’m not sure why you’ve taken exception to my comments but nothing you’re actually replying is adding anything to the discussion so may I suggest humbly moving along. Thank you.