Being called Mrs *-*

[LorlieS]

I'm married and a Ms My Last Name - His Last Name (hubby also double-barrelled when we married).
So why do so many people insist on addressing me as a Mrs?! AIBU to be annoyed by this?

Well you're married so it would be Mrs. You've decided to change the norm and say you're a Ms, but people aren't going to know that.

But it is commonly used. Admittedly the majority of my friends are Mrs (and I find that bizarre) but a significant minority use Ms.

Actually I find Ms irritating and hate being referred to as Ms.

When the title first appeared 50 or so years ago it was seen as being used by a female with a 'dodgy' background re relationships

Appreciate males never have this problem!

But you are a Mrs. Like it or not

Wrong!

I'm married but not a Mrs.

I have the surname I was born with and am a Ms.

It's not until women do things differently that things change. I'm not Mrs anyone. Don't presume to call me that. You will be corrected (nicely).

I get called Miss and Ms instead of Mrs all the time by parents. It’s never occurred to me to care.
Same here, or Mum. I had sir on a few occasions, which was funny.
Most teachers don't make this a hill to die on.

I've never been married, and I've lost count of the number of times I've been called Mrs. I've been a Ms for a long, long time. Not because I've had a dodgy relationship background. Purely because I refuse to be defined by my marital status for things where it just doesn't matter. If people want to assume I'm diverted or whatever, I don't care. That's on them.

It does come in handy when you get scam or sales calls. 'sorry, there's no Mrs Smith here'.

@Tetsuo you can try to make a stand, but at the end of the day, you're married so you're a Mrs. Imagine feeling a strongly about something so insignificant

Nonsense.

Women have the right to choose how they are referred to after their marriage. They don't have to choose Mrs.

I'm not sure OP is making it a 'hill to die on', more firmly expressing her preferred title. Why is that a bad thing? Why should women be defined by their marital status and why are they seen as some kind of weird radicals when they ask not to be?

Bloody hell, you'd be chased out of town for using incorrect pronouns in an educational setting but Women's titles are 'whatever' (you silly bint).

This is funny I'm on a c of E school and EVERYONE calls me Ms reliably. They correct themselves if they say Mrs. To the point I feel like saying 'alright everyone it's not that big a deal I'm not married!' I guess people can't win 😂

It's not insignificant, and I'm not Mrs anyone.

I am Ms me!

I find it incredibly annoying

I mean, my passport and all official documents clearly state that I am Ms Testsuo.

So why are you insisting that I'm not?

Oh by the way op I do think it matters, it's your name and people should call people the right bloody name!

I would be correcting but I do think start with the children.

The title Dr is one of those options too, depending on profession/qualifications

It's not insignificant. There's so much bias in the use of Miss and Mrs the more people that use Ms the better. Even worse is when women are dr and people assume they are male

And Rev

I hate that teachers are called by their title anyway. What is a better way?

What do the children call you? Because that is what the parents will use.

I was a Miss, then a Mrs. Then I got divorced, went back to my maiden name and went back to being a Miss.

Everyone refers to me as Mrs. Literally everyone. I used to correct them but now I just accept it. I'm 49. I must just look like I'm a Mrs (but hearing Mrs MiniEggs still makes me think of my mum and grandma)🤷‍♀️

Ooh and Lady, Dame, Her Honour, Professor.

I'm a recently married teacher. It really bothers me that I'm 2024 female teachers are distinguishable by their marital status - but men obviously aren't! Can't see it changing any time soon as soon many women embrace it (fair enough I guess) but it does reek of sexism if you think about it.

And Dame, Lady, Vicountess, Duchess...

Princess, Queen