Being called Mrs *-*

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I'm married and a Ms My Last Name - His Last Name (hubby also double-barrelled when we married).
So why do so many people insist on addressing me as a Mrs?! AIBU to be annoyed by this?

Good grief! Now just imagine if your title was actually “Lady” and someone called you “Missus” and you chose to write a post about it - I would bet that most of the posters on her would hand you your arse on a plate for being so stuck-up!

Master still gets used on post all the time- the dr, dentist, hospital, bank, dla people all address DS as master.

‘mr’ is commonly used in speech for all male children and ‘mrs’ for all female children (as in, “come on mrs, we will be late!”)

@Notlikeamother I have had a male child for 23 years. He had never, to my knowledge, been addressed as Master by anyone.

And the missus for girls thing is just irrelevant. You might as well say all girl children are addressed as Princess!

@CurlewKate I’ve just had a look and all my son’s hospital correspondence (he broke his arm a while ago) is addressed to Master. It may not be done consistently but it does happen.

@ZebraDanios Fair enough. Not my experience, though. Maybe you ticked a box somewhere.

It doesn't say anything about his marital status, does it?

I definitely haven’t gone out of my way to register him anywhere as master- so unless at some point there has been a form where you have to choose a title, places must be doing it automatically.

@ZebraDanios "I definitely haven’t gone out of my way to register him anywhere as master- so unless at some point there has been a form where you have to choose a title, places must be doing it automatically."

There are plenty of forms like that. I would be absolutely amazed if it's automatic anywhere these days.

Master, by the way, says nothing about marital status. It is not equivalent to Miss.

I have had a male child for 23 years. He had never, to my knowledge, been addressed as Master by anyone.

Oh, I must be mistaken… maybe I can’t read? Or maybe I’m making it up?

@Anyotherdude Explain to me how in earth my title of Ms is "being stuck up"?!!

Yet again we have another Mumsnetter who asks the group what we think, more than 3/4 disagree in the poll, and the OP is still out here in these streets arguing with the 3/4+ majority more than two weeks later…

@CurlewKate You’re quoting @Notlikeamother ’s post there, not mine.

(Although I’m pretty sure I don’t recall ticking any boxes requesting the title of Master either - and he’s only 6 so I think I can remember back far enough…)

@Notlikeamother "Oh, I must be mistaken… maybe I can’t read? Or maybe I’m making it up?"

Of course you're not. But you suggest that it is commonly used- I was just pointing no out that in my experience it isn't.

@ZebraDanios apologies.

About a 100 years ago

I've been Ms for over 40 years now

And I've been Miss for over 50.

Honestly, it's maybe old-fashioned but it exists.

@Chatonette Why are you posting then?!! 😆

The bank refer to my son as “master” as do the travel agents when I’ve booked his holiday.

Which is ironic. He can’t even master his own sphincter.

He is2, for the record.

Yes, my sons (3 and 5) are frequently referred to as Master. In the doctors' surgery, for instance- they announce 'Can Master Bobby Surreygirl please make your way to Consulting Room 1'. They announce everyone's titles in this manner.

It is strange little boys are called Master, it seems like that should be the more senior title.

I'm Mrs! Woah, betide if that isn't used, or I'm not asked.

Though I think I'm more sensitive now as I was unexpectedly widowed 6 years ago.

I'm very much a married widow in my eyes. My late 2nd husband was and is an amazing man.

The local council had me down in one dept as Ms. I told them to change it. He said "Ah I understand. Your age group like it traditional"

Appropriately, I wiped the floor with him. I told him, "I am widowed and not to make assumptions as to why I want my proper title used."

I'm far from traditional. However, on my title, I am.

It used to bug the hell out of me when my adult children were young, and I got called by my 1st/ ex-husband surname after I left him.

They, too, were put in their place as then I had gone back to my maiden name.

I still got the ex name occasionally, even when I remarried if someone had rung up for one of my adult children.

My daughter goes by Ms. Her children have dual-barrelled names of her partner and her