Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

[candragonsbepurple]

My partner is childless. I have two children (A son who is eleven and a daughter who is seven)

My ex husband moved to take care of his Dad six months ago but before that we had been divorced two years. Exes Dad has cancer and he's alone (Ex is an only child and his Mum died way before I met him) I'd have moved myself and my children to be nearer to ex so they could see each other but Ex was completely adamant they stay where they are for school and their friends.

One of the ways my children communicate with their Dad is through video games. I dont know how it works but they talk to each other while they play. They do this every sunday for a few hours before tea time. Sunday just gone my son wasn't well but really wanted to play games with his dad. I said that was okay and I'd save him some dinner (I made him some eggs and soldiers)

My partner cut the wifi when my son didn't come to the table. His reasoning was my son was being disobedient but I'd told him three times that DS wasn't feeling a hundred percent and I don't force my kids to eat big meals when they are unwell. My son was understandably distraught thinking his Dad had ended the game without saying goodbye and my partner kicked off.

He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect. I reminded partner that we live in 2024, not 1924 and the house I owned was mine that my Mother left to me.

I ended up kicking my partner out - He went home in a huff and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect.

AIBU in thinking it's not my partner's place to parent my children - he's not a live-in boyfriend, we've been together ten months and that his Mum should keep her nose out

Blimey, bloke and his mum really think they've got their feet under the table

You have 100% done the right thing! So glad you have let this man control and dictate how your children under your roof, well done. Your child did nothing wrong, you Dh sounds like a controlling bully.

WTF is his mum doing getting involved? Sounds like you have dodged a bullet.

She wants shot of him as well!

it’s obvious!!

My mum moved my stepdad in quite quickly and he also did similar power grabbing shit. He used to bang on about turning the PC off AT THE WALL. So one day I turned it off at the wall as well as every other switch in the room.
When I came down he had taken the computer and hidden it.
A grown arse man playing power games with a child.

It was the first indicator of many and my relationship with my mum became SO damaged and took years to repair as an adult at her never ever putting us before her boyfriend.

@DottieMoon what 'dh'? This is a very new boyfriend.

yeah this is the only comment needed really. he is out of line and well done you for sending him packing. your children will remember you had their back

What a horrible man and the cheek of his mum!

@candragonsbepurple your mother left you that house, this gives you and your children security, do not disrespect this by being with such a horrible man.

Please end it with him. It’s a no brainier.

He's a cock
He's a cock lodger
Cock cock ... cock lodger

(To the tune of Rock Lobster by the B52s)

pity OP hasn't been back.
I ended up kicking my partner out - He went home in a huff and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect.

roffle - I'd be telling partner's mum (because she made contact, it goes for his dad too) that she did a poor job of teaching her son respect in another person's house. And leave it at that.

The dickhead partner sounds like an absolute cock. Red flag red flag red flag.

Meant to put DP

PS: The bloody cheek of his mum telling you that you should teach your son respect, when she failed so spectacularly in teaching HER son respect

What 'authority' do you think he should have?

The boy was spending quality time with his dad, not just playing social video games ffs.

Are you the mum?

He sounds awful and it is one reason I never moved any man into my house after my divorce and never will. My house. My money. my children. My decisions.

So, he wants to go all old fadhioned on you?

Your ex husband is obviously there for his children so he can explain mzno a mano to your STBX why he and his mum need to keep their distance on a permenant basis.

Show both the boyfriend and his mum the requisite amount of respect by telling her to mind her own and him that under your roof he minds his ps and qs.

He should also never darken your doorstep again. He's already claimed your house as his so he will not stop until he controls all that you have, including yourself. Bin him.

He's a dick and you did the right thing with kicking him out. You had an understanding with your ds and he's tried to be billy big balls and it's not worked and he's took the huff

Especially when it's not even his house! What a cheek! He's trying to get his feet under your table!

I think this is the most perfect response I have ever read on a MN thread 😂

I'm so glad you kicked him out, OP. I hope he's not coming back!

Does he live with his mum?

no wonder he refers to your house as his. In his mind he’s moving in. What a cocklodger

She says in her OP that he doesn’t live there. Stop moralising about women having relationships.

What is this thing lately of calling boyfriends "partners"? I can understand it when referring to someone who lives with you on an equal basis, possibly shares child/ren with you, you love and respect each other and plan to be together always, as that's what you are. You may be married, may not be, but you have each others backs and share a life together. But when people are referring to someone they barely know, it just sounds odd!

WHY OH WHY!! Do women move men in to their children's lives after 10 months.

You have a 7 year old daughter you crazy lady!!

So in her eyes, it’s ok for his mother to defend her adult son, but not ok for you to defend your young son. Wrong, wrong, wrong, especially when you were looking out for your sick son, in your own house and being a caring parent. Please never have this loser and his mother back in your life, this is just the beginning and will only get worse. Your poor son.

It's a silly word, they're neither a boy nor a friend. But partner rather than boyfriend means no one is a teenager or in their 20s any more.

I say partner because I’m an adult and boyfriend sounds quite childish. My partner is not a boy and I am not a girl. Partner doesn’t have to mean living together at all - that would be cohabiting partner.