Menopause is really not that bad.

[DaisyRayi]

Misleading title kind of hoping for more traffic.

I could probably do some research and read up about it but what exactly is it that happens to women when they go through menopause.

You hear about women having their careers ruined etc.

Not comparing things but during pregnancy and post patrum I was feeling very doom and gloom but only realised the feelings were due to the pregnancy hormones now that I’m back to normal.

"I could probably do some research and read up about it"

You could and probably should.

Bad things.....
I've put on weight.
I am always too warm.
I have terrible insomnia.
I have terrible motivation to do anything.
I am frequently irritable.
I am frequently anxious.
Some days I want to stab everyone.

Good things.....
I have learned not to give an f what people think about me.

Edit : I forgot about the farting. I only have to move and farts come out.

It's uncomfortable for sure. But I do wonder how much the issue has been created or whipped up in order to sell us stuff. Or to keep women medicated and compliant. Of course there will always be outliers who really suffer (just like some women are crippled by periods). But I honestly question the current narrative.

It's so different for different women. Some sail through, some don't. Loads of books/online info - check it out.

@MrsBobtonTrent I haven't taken any medication for mine and not bought anything for it.
So I have that as a plus. Yay 😂

I don’t think you can compare it to any other stage of your life.
I had a surgical menopause after a hysterectomy and it was brutal . 5 years later despite HRT I am not the same person emotionally or physically. Don’t underestimate the impact it has for many of us !

SORRY WRONG THREAD ALERT!

Given how your post is written I am assuming it is larger than you think it should be for your measurement's?
Knowing what mine are, and I'm taller and heavier, I would say 32"

Some women suffer horrible symptoms, not all do. Both my mother and I sailed through ours with just one or two hot flushes and no other problems at all, although we’d both had a history of heavy periods.

I agree with this completely.

There are lots of people getting rich off the current rhetoric around menopause.

Read about brain fog and how it impacts your career op.

It's different for everyone. Dm took black cohosh for hot flashes and such, said it helped tremendously and breezed through it. Friends dm had to be sent to mental health facility for several months. Went from a very tidy happy woman to living with dead cats behind furniture, trash to the ceiling, crying constantly. Very sad. She may have had underlying problems that menopause exacerbated, but he wasn't aware of any.

From what I've heard about 25% of women barely get any symptoms at all, maybe another 25% have severe symptoms and the rest it varies.

I'm 46 and I have had a few years of relatively mild symptoms - itchiness, occasional insomnia, sweaty at night.

Hot sweats, crippling insomnia (which obviously takes toll on day to day life and work) weight gain, brain fog, rage, palpitations, vaginal atrophy, low libido, itchy arms and dizziness. All of the above have had a massive affect on me, my husband and kids. It started at 39 and no idea when it’ll stop.

I had my ovaries removed so I went through menopause overnight, rather than over a decade like most women so the signs were really stark. The things I noticed first (within a few days of surgery) was a constant migraine (lasted months!), my joints all seized up and I struggled to get up out of a chair. The pain was awful. I had hot flushes every 30 minutes but tbh, these were a walk in the park compared to the other symptoms. I also immediately developed tinnitus and restless leg syndrome, both of which are very annoying. I began to have allergic reactions (including anaphylaxis) to all kinds of things - food, medication etc that I’d never had before. I aged about ten years in the first year of menopause. My skin is dry and itchy. I’d wake up at 2am every morning and didn’t get back to sleep until 6am.

HRT has helped the worse symptoms but I still feel constantly tired, my arms, legs and back ache all the time, and I still have tinnitus and restless legs.

ETA: The brain fog!!! I genuinely worried that I had dementia. It’s terrible and frightening.

It’s a bit like covid. Some people didn’t even know they had it, some felt a bit rubbish, some were totally knocked sideways. There were common and typical symptoms; some people got them all, some got a few, some got totally individual symptoms. However, I don’t think anyone has died from the physical symptoms of menopause but it can cause mental health problems.

You really can’t generalise!

Every woman has a different experience.

You could read the Menopause Board or do some research or, you could just hope that your experience does not mean that one day you will consider driving your car into a wall - which is what happened to me. HRT saved my life after I had a radical hysterectomy and went into a dreadful menopause virtually overnight.

I cannot believe I even survived on around two hours sleep everynight, getting up to change the bed with night sweats, sleeping on towels - it was bloody shit and I would not wish it on anyone.

I have about a week a month that I don't have brain fog.
GP won't provide any help as still having periods.
Its affecting my income as I am self employed.

A teeny bit of research, coupled with a large dose of respect, will enable you to realise that everyone is different.

Your post is dismissive, rude, and pathetic.

Don't say that you used an inflammatory title 'for traffic'. It's insulting.

Everyone is different..some have no or limited symptoms some it's hell. Do your research

Some women go through it fine or with minimal issues. Other women it's awful.

I had The Rage, v bad depression, weight gain, crushing tiredness, aches, flooding, night sweats which meant I had to change the sheets 3 or 4 times a night - everything really apart from hot flushes.

HRT really helped.

I've had to come off HRT and at 55 most of the above have stopped but hot flushes have started. That's OK I can cope with that and the insomnia.

It was really debilitating for me.

I'm 49, in peri. I no longer have greasy skin and am no longer constantly cold. I can't wait to be in full menopause and to not have any more fucking periods. Bring it on!

I was going to say either i agree with you or don't know,
I am not sure,
I am 50 yrs age so either peri menopausal or menopause

and i then i thought about my health disorders,

Oestro athritis

It's linked to lack of estrogen or and the menopausal or post that women are suspectible to this can be excruciatingly painful degenerative health disorder

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ive got the hump now

How old are you OP ? Wait until it hits you; insomnia, anxiety, weight gain, hair loss. Mother Nature hates us women for sure !

Have been peri-menopausal for 4 years now and it has definitely adversely affected me. HRT has helped but it hasn’t put me back to where I was before I started. I can see why it would ruin careers because if you get bad brain fog you can’t function (and before any of the “menopause is just made up” crowd say you just need to write down reminders, you need to remember to write down the reminders!). Anxiety, insomnia, brain fog, muscle/joint pain, rage, crushing tiredness.

It might not suck for you OP, but all of my friends who are peri-men have experienced “severely adverse” symptoms. I haven’t tried any of the non-prescription things available as I think they’re snake oil, but if I found something that worked I would be spending every available penny on them.