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Jesus held on the cross with nails in his hands

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TaFox · 20/03/2024 21:43

DD5 is in year 1 and has been learning about Jesus at school. Great stuff in the spirit of Easter.

The RE teacher told the class how Jesus was NAILED to the cross.

This is quite graphic for a little girl who believes that the Easter bunny will leave eggs in our garden.

Should I tell school that this is too much info for little ears?

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LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 11:49

phauxtox · 21/03/2024 10:52

Every Catholic on Mumsnet is like, she got to 5 before hearing this? She'll be fine seriously.

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Attitudes like this are is why I am an ex-catholic!

BIossomtoes · 21/03/2024 11:50

Wait til she hears about Salome asking for John the Baptist’s head on a plate for her birthday.

Prunesqualler · 21/03/2024 11:51

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 11:47

A generalisation as per most posts on here- I was at church every Sunday from birth and found it hugely upsetting, I broke down crying in mass once and had nightmares - not all kids are the same.

I chose not to subject my kids to this, and they learned about the Easter tradition in about year 4 - community school not religious - in a much nicer way.

Appreciate that
Which is why I said ‘I think a lot of people’ ….not all. Any two people will have different thoughts and reactions to a single situation.

Devonbabs · 21/03/2024 11:51

IsthisthereallifeIsthisjustfantasy · 21/03/2024 11:06

"Wholesale lifted" is an oversimplification. The ancient Mediterranean was a melting pot of cultures: Greek, Roman, Jewish, Persian etc. It was a multi-lingual, international context. There was a dense cultural matrix of myths and legends and they influenced each other. From this unique context, Christianity emerges: a particular amalgam of Jewish and Greek/pagan influences. But not unique in that respect; if you look at a Jewish writer from a similar time and place like Philo of Alexandria you'll see that he was also deeply influenced by Greek thought.

Jewish was Jewish and spoke Aramaic. The New Testament is written in Greek. It then gets translated into Latin.

I appreciate people's point that there are clear similarities and influences with other ancient near eastern religions and mythologies, but it's ignorant to just say that Christianity "wholesale lifted" things.

Great post

BeaRF75 · 21/03/2024 11:53

We all learnt this as small children - it's fine. The whole point is that Jesus had to die.
It's also fine not to believe in Christianity, but children definitely need to understand the meaning of Easter. They absolutely must realise that it's not just about chocolate and fluffy chicks. Well done that teacher, for allowing children to learn.

LookItsMeAgain · 21/03/2024 11:53

Tlolljs · 21/03/2024 09:31

If we get a bank holiday for all of those I’m in 😀

That's one way to get a 4 day working week every week of the year 😆

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 11:57

Prunesqualler · 21/03/2024 11:51

Appreciate that
Which is why I said ‘I think a lot of people’ ….not all. Any two people will have different thoughts and reactions to a single situation.

Thank you - exactly what I think. No two kids will have the same reaction so it's wrong to assume all five year olds will be 'fine' about it.

Obviously, some kids are fine - my daughter was completely fine about Horrible Histories type gore from around eight, but wouldn't even watch a Disney Film aged five.

Someone earlier said that they will come across worse in real life or on the news - I really hope not!

phauxtox · 21/03/2024 11:57

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 11:49

Attitudes like this are is why I am an ex-catholic!

Is that when you converted to being a self righteous bore? 😂

LookItsMeAgain · 21/03/2024 11:59

Whereareallthemillionaires · 21/03/2024 11:45

Not just biblical stories either.
History in general.

Im thinking decapitated body parts on spikes on London Bridge and city entrances
Beheadings
Pirates left to rot in cages strung above streets.
They didn’t have Asbos and tags and a bit of community service in those days

They really took the crime and punishment to the next level so they did.

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time/punishment!!!

Hanged, drawn and quartered is another gory method of punishment.

Something I've wondered ever since I learned about the guillotine. Once the head is removed from the body, can the head still talk? I don't know if it was something I watched in a programme like Horrible Histories and a head was talking from the basket but as the brain is in the head, and there would be blood in the cranial cavity (at least for a very short time) could the head still talk?

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 12:00

phauxtox · 21/03/2024 11:57

Is that when you converted to being a self righteous bore? 😂

No, it's when I decided I disagreed with indoctrinating children.

leafinthewind · 21/03/2024 12:02

purplemonkey12 · 21/03/2024 10:56

I've always thought that if any other religion had as its main symbol a man NAILED TO A CROSS, the Average Brit would be completely and utterly horrified. It's weird the way we all shrug, oh yeah, totes normal.

Exactly!

Whereareallthemillionaires · 21/03/2024 12:05

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 11:57

Thank you - exactly what I think. No two kids will have the same reaction so it's wrong to assume all five year olds will be 'fine' about it.

Obviously, some kids are fine - my daughter was completely fine about Horrible Histories type gore from around eight, but wouldn't even watch a Disney Film aged five.

Someone earlier said that they will come across worse in real life or on the news - I really hope not!

Exactly.
I got really upset by stories of animals being killed and sacrificed. Romans killing lions, zoos and animal slaughter and seeing dead animals strung up outside butchers shops or bits of meat packaged and for sale in supermarkets. That felt more real to me.

Unfortunately that’s all part of life and world history or part of some religious traditions. We can’t avoid it being taught.

Kids watch these things all the time, Watership Down, Bambi etc. It can’t all be banned because some find it upsetting.

Mischance · 21/03/2024 12:07

but children definitely need to understand the meaning of Easter. They absolutely must realise that it's not just about chocolate and fluffy chicks. - well, no they don't. For many children fluffy chicks (new life) is indeed what it is all about.

Later when they are older they need some understanding of Christianity (and indeed other religions) in order to make sense of cultural references - art, music etc. Until then, let us spare them this barbaric stuff.

Mischance · 21/03/2024 12:08

Whereareallthemillionaires · 21/03/2024 12:05

Exactly.
I got really upset by stories of animals being killed and sacrificed. Romans killing lions, zoos and animal slaughter and seeing dead animals strung up outside butchers shops or bits of meat packaged and for sale in supermarkets. That felt more real to me.

Unfortunately that’s all part of life and world history or part of some religious traditions. We can’t avoid it being taught.

Kids watch these things all the time, Watership Down, Bambi etc. It can’t all be banned because some find it upsetting.

It is about being age-appropriate. Small children do not need to be subjected to the barbarism.

TediousMansplainer · 21/03/2024 12:08

The only bible story that really scared me as a small child, and gave me nightmares, is the one where God tells a man to kill his own son with a knife and he goes along with it (and we were taught that he was correct to do so). The fact that God told him at the last moment not to do it was not much consolation to me at the time.

TinnitusEar · 21/03/2024 12:08

TaFox · 20/03/2024 21:43

DD5 is in year 1 and has been learning about Jesus at school. Great stuff in the spirit of Easter.

The RE teacher told the class how Jesus was NAILED to the cross.

This is quite graphic for a little girl who believes that the Easter bunny will leave eggs in our garden.

Should I tell school that this is too much info for little ears?

I'd be more worried about them spouting religious twaddle full stop

Whereareallthemillionaires · 21/03/2024 12:09

LookItsMeAgain · 21/03/2024 11:59

They really took the crime and punishment to the next level so they did.

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time/punishment!!!

Hanged, drawn and quartered is another gory method of punishment.

Something I've wondered ever since I learned about the guillotine. Once the head is removed from the body, can the head still talk? I don't know if it was something I watched in a programme like Horrible Histories and a head was talking from the basket but as the brain is in the head, and there would be blood in the cranial cavity (at least for a very short time) could the head still talk?

I hear a chicken survived for over a year once it’s head was taken off.
Mind you this was on Richard Osmans Game show

I wonder if they kept the chicken on a drip

HoppingPavlova · 21/03/2024 12:10

We all learnt this as small children - it's fine. The whole point is that Jesus had to die**

Exactly. And not just ‘die’ but suffer immensely while he died. That’s the point.

Whether you are a Christian, Agnostic, Atheist or any other religion, it’s an historical fact that a dude named Jesus (translated over the ages) did exist and wandered around that area and was crucified. Pretty much everything else is up for debate, from the details of his conception, to certain acts he may have undertaken that are now termed miracles, who his ‘father’ was in an ongoing sense, whether his ‘father’ is ‘real’, what happened after he died etc, but irrespective, the fact is he was a real person who was crucified which involved torture. To pretend otherwise or make out to kids he was some dude who died peacefully while being held by some form of velcro to a cross is really odd.

Vanessasbag · 21/03/2024 12:11

It's no big deal. Children have been told that story for years and I don't think any lasting damage has been done.

Justpontificating · 21/03/2024 12:13

Mischance · 21/03/2024 12:08

It is about being age-appropriate. Small children do not need to be subjected to the barbarism.

I agree.
But I assume a lot of parents walk around the meat section in supermarkets or dish up the odd chicken carcass, leg or whatever before they reach the age of 4.

Some Butchers still have carcasses hung in their windows or pictures on the walls. I’m guessing parents don’t blindfold their kids when they walk past.

phauxtox · 21/03/2024 12:18

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 12:00

No, it's when I decided I disagreed with indoctrinating children.

You do understand that all culture indoctrinates children don't you? Do you disagree with that also?

Vanessasbag · 21/03/2024 12:18

We're indoctrinated to be consumers, for one!

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 21/03/2024 12:20

LoreleiG · 21/03/2024 11:57

Thank you - exactly what I think. No two kids will have the same reaction so it's wrong to assume all five year olds will be 'fine' about it.

Obviously, some kids are fine - my daughter was completely fine about Horrible Histories type gore from around eight, but wouldn't even watch a Disney Film aged five.

Someone earlier said that they will come across worse in real life or on the news - I really hope not!

They will. Kids need to toughen up or shall we scrub out all the upsetting nasty bits of history?

Gettingonmygoat · 21/03/2024 12:21

Andthereyougo · 21/03/2024 10:20

This happened at my very first teaching post almost 40 years ago. A nursery nurse was put in charge of teaching RE to my Reception class on the basis her dad was a vicar. I went off to teach another subject to an older class, last lesson Friday.
Monday morning I had a stream of parents complaining about crying children, kids who couldn’t sleep, nightmares. She’d described VERY graphically nails, dripping blood , stigmata (?) to five year olds.
Afterwards my version of Easter was always bunnies, chicks, lambs, flowers and blossom.

Was it only the Christian Holy book that you ignored ?

Bromptotoo · 21/03/2024 12:21

It's literally what Easter, the most important celebration in the Christian calendar, is about.

We learned it at 4/5 the first time it came up in Primary 1, though possibly I had been told before, with no harm. This at a time when we'd only in the past year hung the last two people where a death sentence was carried out in the UK.