I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

When a woman asked me if I was on Facebook I told her no I'm not and shrugged my shoulders. There was uncomfortable silence as if I was subnormal for not adding myself on it and I never will. If I want to see how someone is I will go to them not Facebook. Twitter is a bizarre world and don't you get me started on Instagram I can't stand the site. TikTok was full of weirdos seriously I deleted my account as quickly as I set it up. LinkedIn is a good site for connections but it's still used for people to be nosy. My only poison is Mumsnet and even this site has it's downsides.

The irony is that FB is usually the sweetest/nicest out of ALL the sites you listed bc everyone on it knows everyone personally. Unless you hang out with a bunch of online drama mongers but then real life meetings with them probably aren't great either

MN is genuinely the nastiest and most low key spiteful out of all those sites you listed btw lol. Like there are probably terrible corners of Instagram, Twitter, Tiktok etc but just in terms of the mainstream, everyday experience

Completely disagree. Although this man has said some unforgivable things to you, it wasn't your right to forward this onto his employer. You have a report feature on tiktok which was your only place to do this, but it doesn't make it right for you to be hurt and to hurt him back (get revenge). People go through a whole range of issues and problems in their lives and sometimes you've no idea what goes on in their lives. I'm not condoning what he has said to you, but it still wasn't your right to affect his life, his income, his kids etc

You are condoning it though. Poor angry man, he must be going through stuff to even contemplate threatening a woman…

lots of people have jobs where online conduct is monitored. You cannot threaten people.

They don't threaten rape though, but these men always do, and its always totally irrelevant, says a lot about them i think!! Gross.

It wasn't his right to say such vulgarity to the OP either. We're all going through shit its called life!!!

YANBU I would also be reporting to police. 'You have made a fatal mistake' sounds deeply threatening.

I disagree. What he said shouldnt come out of anyone's mouth (keyboard) ever. He didn't say shut up you stupid cow (unpleasant) he threatened rape and murder (illegal and abhorrant) I hope he does lose his job the vile man. It's not societies job to excuse his behaviour because he's had a bad day or has kids. It's up to us to set the bar (well over his head).

This happened to my colleague. It was great cause he was a prick and without someone reporting him he wouldnt think he was doing anything wrong. He spent more time on social media being a self righteous poo bag than doing any work.

Thankyou for reporting him maybe now he will think twice about being a t###

Also no one is owed annoymity online, no one is entitled to a space to behave like this and keep life seperate. The annoymity is why ppl think they can behave like this.

One of my child friends once did a tik tok, age 11, say they were hard knock kids and being abused and I reported it to social services.
He works with kids, so you 💯 did the right thing . I'd of done the same

lots of Karens
🙄🙄🙄

and had lots of K* in his comments telling him it's not funny and he's horrible for his idea. Mind your own damn business sometimes.

Next time you comment, think if you would say that to someone to their face and if it feels audacious, shut up.

Oh the irony. And utter misogyny of course. OP can have an opinion on whatever video someone chooses to put up on the internet. If people like you have too much anger issues about ‘dooin it fo the kidddiess’ then perhaps you shouldn’t be on the internet.

Make sure you have blocked him too. You don't want him to be able to access your account and friends list.

What sort of lunatic builds a slide so his children can pretend to die? Unhinged doesn't begin to describe him. You must also report him to the police, he not only called you vile names, he threatened you. You don't know if his employer will take any action so please protect yourself.

He could be out of a job now.
A jobless father because of your precious feelings.
Not okay imo.

It’s a recognised misogynist term, when you use words directly to insult a group of people based on their sex, race, sexuality, disabilities etc, then it’s an offensive term. Do you also use racist/sexist/ableist etc words or is it just women you feel deserve to be called derogatory terms when they hold opinions others don’t agree with?

Do you genuinely not see the irony in telling the OP to "mind their own damn business" and to "shut up" while sharing your own unsolicited (and rude) opinion?

Remember women, don’t hold opinions, don’t express opinions and if you do you, are fully accountable for the male violence directed towards you. Poor man, why should he suffer the consequences of his own actions 😞.

Has MN banned the use of "Karen"? I think they delete posts that use it if reported?

Poor man, he abuses a woman but should not face consequences of his actions. Poor chap. He's a grown up adult who was vile, the things he said to a woman who merely didn't like his post were extreme. This man needs flagging up.

Would you be happy to work alongside a man who had sent death threats and wished rape upon a women just because she held an opinion he didn't like?

I'd be very grateful to have men like that removed from my workplace to be quite honest.

So the answer to my question was a resounding 'no'.

You people on this site are braindead

How audacious of you, you should really shut up an mind your own.

I'm out.

I very much doubt that.