Didn’t bring a gift for the baby

[fauxpasfriday]

Friend A met Friend B’s baby this weekend but didn’t bring a gift.

However, Friend A gave a gift at the baby shower and posted a small present on arrival.

Baby is 2 months but friends don’t live close.

Is Friend A UR?

Daft comment, she didn't say she was taking plastic. She could be taking food or other consumables. Even if she took a cardigan, the baby has to dress in something.

Honestly if I send a baby shower gift then there’s no way another gift will be sent when the baby is born, never mind a third gift being sent! Ridiculous!

If friend B wants a third gift, then friend A needs to phase friend B out.

The OP is friend A.

I’ve had 2 babies, some people bought / sent gifts, all were gratefully received but none were required. No friend should feel obliged to bring or give a gift IMO.

A is not at all unreasonable

No one is entitled to gifts, not even a new baby.

Also, friend A has already been more than generous.

Friend B would stop being my friend if she seemed to expect more than TWO gifts for her baby. The idea of bringing a gift every time you visit a baby is insane. I'd just never visit, in that case.

Friend A is not being unreasonable.

If Friend B is being at all "off" about the lack of a 3rd gift then they are not actually a friend and should be dropped.

C ( baby) doesn’t require another P from A
B needs to relax
So, UR N B UR

It's a baby. It's not having consumables unless you are going to arrive with milk or nappies/wipes, which are not exactly typical gifts unless you think the parents are struggling.

It's going to be rattles/cuddly toys - just tat for landfill. Perhaps an item of clothing when the baby has plenty. You don't need to buy something to visit someone -that is ridiculous.

If you must give the baby something £5 for their bank at least won't stress the parents about endless clutter/tat or end up in landfill.

You would or you do?

Say the last five friends who’ve given birth -
you’ve given a present at the shower, then posted a present when the baby was born, then taken a third present when meeting the baby?

That’s what you normally do?

You are very unusual indeed.

She literally says it in her first reply in the thread 🙄

You’ve already given one more gift than I would have.

You're unreasonable for the A and B shite.

Did B forget the present that had arrived in the post ?

A totally needs to give a third present, as she has clearly forgotten either the gold, the frankincense or the myrrh.

I value my friends for who they are, not because of the gifts they give or don’t give.

I think you did very well at giving two gifts. If Friend B is complaining because she wants or expects more gifts, then she is treating Friend A more as a mug than a friend.

Friend B needs to cash her reality check before it expires.

Nobody has to bring gifts at any stage, ever. Grabby.

If I had already received a gift at a baby shower from someone I wouldn't expect another gift. Even if their family you can only have so many first size outfits.

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I panicked this was about me as I met my friends 3 month old at the weekend and didn’t bring a gift, but did give a gift at the time of her arrival. I also live a distance away and this was my first opportunity to meet her. I feared I’d caused an upset!
I truly don’t see anything wrong with this OP.

I wouldn't bring another gift for baby but I might bring something for mum if going to her house like biscuits or ready meals (although baby is juuuust out of newborn stage)

Friend A (@fauxpasfriday) has done MORE than enough

anything so much as a peep from B suggesting you should have given more is absolute greedy grabby fucker