Didn’t bring a gift for the baby

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Friend A met Friend B’s baby this weekend but didn’t bring a gift.

However, Friend A gave a gift at the baby shower and posted a small present on arrival.

Baby is 2 months but friends don’t live close.

Is Friend A UR?

She's already given 2 gifts ffs! Are you friend A?

Friend A has been generous already another gift is definitely not needed. I wouldn’t hold it against a friend if they didn’t give any gifts at all! Everyone’s financial situation is different.

Im guessing, and hoping that you are A, in which case 2 presents is already generous. If unfortunately you are B then wobble your head and stop being grabby and cheeky.

Friend B sounds like a bit of a knob if she keeps expecting gifts.

This ridiculous ‘baby shower’ culture of expecting gifts is as shallow as it is grabby & chavvy. It is materialism gone mad. Friend A is absolutely not U.

End of.

No baby needs two presents, let alone more.

A has done gifts already. I'd maybe take a tin of biscuits or bunch of flowers along for the in person meeting.

I hope you're not friend B...

Friend B is a greeeeeeedy girl.

It’s becoming ridiculous. You never know what the etiquette is for all these ridiculous baby showers/gender reveals. I paid for DB and DSIL’s pram, then felt obliged to buy more gifts for the baby shower because I didn’t want to turn up empty handed, and the same again when DN was born. Where does it stop?

Why on earth would she need to get a third gift?!
Sorry but this is bonkers and very grabby! Would the friend expect this every time they meet up?!

If you are Friend A then you have been more than generous. No need for anything more.

If you are Friend B then you are being unreasonable, grabby, greedy and ungrateful. Give your head a wobble.

You’re talking shite and you know it!

That is nuts. I certainly don't have that kind of money.

2 gifts in basically 2 months? And A wants more?!

What friend B expected a gift??

Friend A = kind and generous
Complaining friend B = entitled prick

Friend B can get in the bin. Friend A, find a new friend, let's call her C 😂

I am assuming that as the OP has used the word ‘bring’ instead of ‘take’, OP is friend B.

Sounds like the OP is the first person in her friendship group to have a baby and thinks everyone should be as invested as she is.

This is what I don't understand about baby showers! I would feel uncomfortable not bringing a gift when meeting a new baby but also would feel a bit put out to have to think of/give two gifts!

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Honestly, I don't understand the expectation of needing to receive a gift from people visiting the baby. It's lovely and should be gratefully received when they do, but visitors shouldn't have to feel they owe some sort of payment to visit the baby because presumably you invited them as you have a reasonably close relationship with them? In my opinion, two gifts was lovely of Friend A and expecting more is grabby.

So B junior got the gold and frankincense, but missed out on myrrh?

Sounds like B expects a gift from everyone every time they see the child.
B needs to grow up and stop being so materialistic.