Didn’t bring a gift for the baby

[fauxpasfriday]

Friend A met Friend B’s baby this weekend but didn’t bring a gift.

However, Friend A gave a gift at the baby shower and posted a small present on arrival.

Baby is 2 months but friends don’t live close.

Is Friend A UR?

Friend A has already been kind, friend b is taking the pee.

I think a gift at the baby shower is fine. First time I meet the baby, I usually take the mum something for herself.

When I had my babies I did not care whether people brought me gifts or not. I just wanted to show them the baby. It was lovely to get gifts but we didn't need anything.

Baby showers, gender reveal parties etc are all simply grasping events, it used to be the norm to give/send a gift once a baby was born and that was enough!

If I give a gift at a baby shower then I don't take another. I will take a card round when I meet the baby.

The last time a friend had a baby, she had a baby shower. Me and another friend went to meet the baby, we had both attended the baby shower and gave presents there. We both went empty handed to meet the baby (aside from a card) so I assume that's what most people do.

2 presents and you still want more? Drop the grabby attitude OP, it won't fare well for you. We barely received any gifts for our DD but we didn't expect any.

Why? Nothing in op’s post suggests this at all.

Friend B only taking the pee if they've actually complained about it - op's posts don't actually say that friend B did this.

Is friend b upset?

Don't you care about the planet at all?

Where? I didn't see that in either of her posts.

Huh?

Friend B is a cheeky and greedy fucker for expecting three presents. Are you friend B. If so you need to wind your neck in and stop with the silly expectations.

The OP is friend A who gave the presents.

I think it’s normal to give a gift to a new baby but you’ve done that already twice at the baby shower and by post. A third time is unnecessary and if the parents expect it then they are being very grabby and unreasonable.
if you are just doubting yourself then don’t worry you’ve been generous enough

The op is the gift giver

I didnt do a baby shower for either of mine and still wouldn't have thought there was anything weird about someone turning up to see my baby without a gift. It's not obligatory

I'm thinking Friend B has seen this thread and Friend A is now extra foundation support for the local car park construction! 😅

Really??? You didnt see it in the second of her 2 posts?!

😂

Then you can't have read her posts at all.

I actually clicked on YABU instead of YANBU. Friend A has been very generous already.

not Unreasonable. I’d probably have brought the new mum a bunch of tulips or some chocolates if it was the first time I’d seen her since she had the baby. But not anything more for the baby.

Gift been given already ..

God no. I had friends who just gave nothing! Shouldn’t be expected.

Yeah This!