Didn’t bring a gift for the baby

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Friend A met Friend B’s baby this weekend but didn’t bring a gift.

However, Friend A gave a gift at the baby shower and posted a small present on arrival.

Baby is 2 months but friends don’t live close.

Is Friend A UR?

@fauxpasfriday no reply?

A third baby gift is very much not required here.

I’ve been Friend A and been told off by a (now ex) Friend B. Friend A is NBU.

I do know a few people who expect gift at baby shower and gift at birth. People see each other as cash cows nowadays.

Friend A is a CF.

How?

Why? She already provided two gifts, which is more than plenty.

Have you mixed up, I think you mean friend B is a CF for not being grateful for the gifts she's already received

I hope the OP isn’t friend B, but I have a feeling we may not ever know…

No you didn't need to give another gift to your friend. Hormones etc, let it slide unless she's being really mean about it.

I would, yes. You can pick up a little toy or book for a fiver. But I certainly wouldn’t be upset or angry if someone else didn’t bring a gift under these circumstances.

@CrappyBarbara where would it stop? If you'd already provided two gifts, the woman had already been showered in gifts, and then you bring some more tat, would you be buying crap every time you saw the kid? If not, why the third gift?

How many gifts does one baby (who is literally sleeping, feeding and pooping) need??

Absolutely no other gift required. And any new babies that I buy something when they are born and not before.But then I'm older and my own DCs think the whole baby shower thing is unnecessary .What is this obsession with 'stuff'.A good friend can do lots of other thoughtful things for a new mum with feeling obliged to buy something surely?

What prompted the post OP?
Did friend B give out that friend A ONLY gave 2 gifts?
B is a CF

A has already given 1 gift more than necessary IMO.

So who are you OP?

Really? I meet with friends who have kids all the time- this is crazy.

It's a friend not a relative or godmother.

They have given two gifts already and have given up their time to go and visit.

Is b one of those women that thinks their baby is the second coming and should be the centre of everyone's universe?

Baby gift is either at the baby shower or post birth. Not both. She's already had both and expects a third?!

Of course she wasn’t unreasonable, she gave gifts at the baby shower! This is one of the reasons why baby showers are bollocks, people get all entitled expecting extra presents.

We had far too many presents when my son was a baby. He ended up with more baby outfits than he could wear as they grow out of them so quickly. The expectation of getting a present every time someone sees your baby is daft. Them making the effort to come and see you is surely the present, apart from in the first fortnight after birth when visitors are more of a hassle than a welcome break.

In that I meant friend B is a CF!

Friend A has given too many presents already. One is enough.

My friend had a baby shower and I got her a present for her, the baby didn't need more, plus what I like in clothes maybe wouldn't be her taste and then you are buying stuff that will never be worn.

Yes indeed! I'm easily confused these days!

Friend B is an ungrateful sod, isn’t she. How many gifts does she feel entitled to?

which one are you? Friend A has been very generous and I certainly didn't expect two gifts from every friend with every baby! Let alone more.