Dh just called me a fat fuck

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He was stood a bit away and looking at me in such an awful way and mouthed it as Dd was in the room, he’ll likely deny he said it.
This was because I’m ill at the moment and he took Dd to the park, he didn’t offer this and seemed moody about this too.
They were gone a good few hours and when they arrived back, he stormed in and Dd looked sad and cuddled me. I asked what was wrong and Dh launched into a tirade about how Dd went on a bouncy castle and wouldn’t get off and asked for a toy and when Dh said no, she started shouting how he was a bad daddy etc etc (she’s going through a stage of saying this to us, me too when angry or saying we’re not coming to her party) He was really angry and looking at me and gesturing and saying ‘She can’t act like this!’ Obviously waiting for me to step in and tell her off too. I would have if he’d just give me a second/calm down and bearing in mind I don’t feel well either. He then said he was exhausted…after 4 hours at a park (nothing to do with being at his friends until 1.30 am)
I said ‘Why are you so angry?’
He went to walk out of the back patio and said the above, with a nasty look on his face.

Absolutely disgusting abusive bullying behaviour to your dd as well as you. This fan't be a one-off. I would send him packing.

Yes, 5 saying he's a bad daddy because he wouldn't buy a toy. Typical behaviour. It doesn't mean he's a shit parent.

Not really. The child is pissed off as she didn't get a toy. Comes home saying bad daddy. Really. That doesn't make him a shit parent. 4 hours is too long on your own with a kid in a park. It's enough to piss anyone off. Maybe talking about the insinuation of being a bad daddy rather than presuming the 5 yo is correct that he's a bad daddy would be better. He is obviously a shit to be calling his wife a fat bitch.

@Onlybbtolookforwardto

him saying 'for fuck sake' makes much more sense than 'fat fuck' but it's a completely different mouth movement & you were there, i was not.

However, he's saying that's what he said, so either he didn't say it or he knows he was way out of line & is denying saying it.

bad daddy, naughty mummy, go away, I don't love you, you're not coming to my party. It's quite a normal phase kids go through. I'm guessing he's taking it very personally (it's quite hard not to, you need not to. They feel upset & angry & haven't yet learnt to express that in a better way.

clearly he needs to learn how to better manage this stage.

you said

He took Dd to the park, he didn’t offer this and seemed moody about this too.

so did you ask him to take her? Did you ask him to take her for 4 hours?*

id be a bit moody if I was basically told to take her to the park for 4 hours.

Whats he like normally?

I hope you feel better soon 🌷

That’s really not what happened is it now. Please reread the op rather than try to minimise like none of us can read it either.

I did reread it!

What have I missed?

The above is for @Freakinfraser

I have to say, your post did make me worry a bit about how your husband might behave to your daughter when he is on her own with her. He might be conveying quite an aggressive tone.

What is your marriage like generally,? Is this behaviour out of character? Is he normally supportive, helpful, understanding and loving?

@BusterGonad
What have you missed???
The title of the thread Pet

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@threadfan ?

It's his child. His wife is ill. You don't thank someone for taking their own child out for a few hours.