Dh just called me a fat fuck

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He was stood a bit away and looking at me in such an awful way and mouthed it as Dd was in the room, he’ll likely deny he said it.
This was because I’m ill at the moment and he took Dd to the park, he didn’t offer this and seemed moody about this too.
They were gone a good few hours and when they arrived back, he stormed in and Dd looked sad and cuddled me. I asked what was wrong and Dh launched into a tirade about how Dd went on a bouncy castle and wouldn’t get off and asked for a toy and when Dh said no, she started shouting how he was a bad daddy etc etc (she’s going through a stage of saying this to us, me too when angry or saying we’re not coming to her party) He was really angry and looking at me and gesturing and saying ‘She can’t act like this!’ Obviously waiting for me to step in and tell her off too. I would have if he’d just give me a second/calm down and bearing in mind I don’t feel well either. He then said he was exhausted…after 4 hours at a park (nothing to do with being at his friends until 1.30 am)
I said ‘Why are you so angry?’
He went to walk out of the back patio and said the above, with a nasty look on his face.

@WhatWhereWho When I was looking at him I could see him saying it

in our house we would say thank you to each other for letting the other sleep in or if we took DD out to allow the other to rest or work. It works equally.

However, this is not the issue here.

Insults/ gaslighting/ anger is.

If my husband called me a fat fuck, it would no longer be DH - ExH perhaps

I know its parenting his own child, but I would thank my DH if he took dc out when I was sick, so I could rest, but only if he was nice about it, and treated dc well. We do thank each other for doing chores etc If he did it reluctantly and came storming back with upset dc as he mishandled their normal childlike behaviour then I wouldn't be impressed.

I just find it odd that you say he's never said it before and you think he did now, especially when it was not said out loud.

But i was not there, do not know the relationship or people involved. Best wishes.

Sounds like he was expecting a united front with the parenting and you failed to deliver on that.

He shouldn’t bad mouth you, but I do understand his frustration.

Does your husband like breadsauce? If so it looks like he may have found your thread!
YANBU.

Another bloke pissed off because his wife is poorly and he has had to parent. Just divorce him now and save yourself years of misery.

@katy1111 ?

@Gettingonmygoat Yes I reckon it’s this, are other men really like this? Exhausted after doing a bit extra all weekend because their wife is ill? I just find it so pathetic

No amount of frustration justifies being called a fat fuck. You have really low standards. I feel sorry for you. My dh would never call me insulting names. Because he loves me.

Wtf🤣 don’t be such a wet lettuce

Raise your standards. Frustrated or not, it’s never ok to call someone you love a ‘fat fuck’. ‘Failed to deliver’? What if she didn’t agree? You sound like a stepford wife.

@katy1111 ?

I'm agreeing with youOP. Just meant that the comments from the poster who said you should have thanked your husband for parenting when you were ill (Ilovebreadsauce) sounded more like comments from a disgruntled husband!

Yeah I have to confess we would thank each other for some of that list posted above . For instance after a meal: “thanks, that was delicious”; or “ did you book parents evening?” “ yes I’ve done it. “ “ Thanks.” Or we might say to dcs” what do you say to DF for taking you to the bouncy castle so I could rest?” I honestly think that’s normal. Mouthing insults at each other is not.

Why are folks trying to gaslight the op. She saw him say it. Take her word for it, bloody hell.

and it does make sense in this context, he was insulting her as she didn’t back him up.

op, I’m sorry he did that. I’ve no advice to be honest. He’s also tried to gaslight you by saying he didn’t say that. When you know he did. Making you question your reality like some of the people on here.

Yea, this.

Well fortunately im not married to one who is like this and none of my friends are, but yeah it seems some folks on here might be.

@katy1111 Ah sorry, I see 🩵

Have a word with yourself.

My standards are QUITE HIGH, thank you.

Quite high?🤣

Tomorrow morning before he goes out mouth 'tiny dick' and then close the door and arrange for the locks to be changed.

another man who thinks he can opt out of being a parent, whilst enjoying all the benefits of having the status of father
is he a chiseled adonis himself?

Are you on drugs?

What the flip. Are you joking. Have I misunderstood.. you're being sarcastic I'm sure because why on earth would you need to thank the Father of the child for taking them out ... it's his child. Its his child. getting rest when you're ill isn't something you need to be thankful for. It's a given.