AIBU - Weeing in lay-bys is anti social and fines should apply

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Item in the news- Dacorum Borough Council have stopped issuing fines for wild wees in lay-bys.
I know that this is on a technicality (anti littering law used and wild wees not classed as litter) but I think people weeing in lay-bys is appalling. It should be subject to fines. I can forgive toddlers/ young children but not adults. There are solutions for those with medical conditions that mean urgent wees are a symptom. And it’s always men. Women need urgent wees too (possibly more so, pregnancy etc) and we don’t pull up in lay-bys and squat in front of passing traffic. AIBU?

And yes usually men.

Yes just awful

Without sounding self righteous my dc would never throw litter and nor would I, find it so hard to understand

My frail elderly parents both had to have a wee Ona slip road the other day. You must be disgusted, OP. Their car broke down a mile from home, they had only been shopping locally, and Green Flag took an hour and a half to get to them. They are both on diuretics, and as they are both disabled, were unable to walk the 200 yards to a car showroom to use their toilets. They felt humiliated by their inability to reach a toilet, and by having to go in plain sight. In my opinion and experience, people don’t have a wee outside, unless they really have to.

During my childhood, my parents would pull over next to a field gate and we'd climb over and find ourselves some privacy in the hedgerow.

The last time I peed outdoors was in the Cairmgorms. It was a long journey with nowhere to stop and I was desperate. OH pulled over and I nipped up a steep bank and over the other side, out of sight. Pulled down my trousers and let go, then looked around me. It was glorious - sunny day, warm breeze around my nethers, a valley full of flowering heather, absolutely beautiful and the best al fresco pee I've ever had.

I have had many a wild wee - don't be such a judgy pants.

When you've got to go you've got to go, if I get caught short I'll happily go in the nearest layby 🤷‍♀️

What's the issue? Usually it will be into foliage and in pavement areas it will be washed away by the rain.

Genuinely believe that the people who moan about this sort of trivial stuff have zero understanding about any kind of bowel/bladder incontinence issues. Educate yourself.

Wild wees are fine. Volunteering for a litter collection finding bottles full of wee isn't. Please carry on wild weeing. Your bottles are heavy emptying them very unpleasant

Someone earlier asked me
Why am I stopping in lay-bys? Strange you feel the need to challenge me on that but if you want to know then reasons like this:
to make a phone call
to find a tissue in my bag
to have a drink
to find and take a paracetamol for a headache
to tune in my radio
to get out of my car to have a stretch
What a bizarre response.

Pets wee outside far more. It seems a bit pointless to ban humans without banning pets. I wouldn’t bother.

I can't get annoyed with wees in lay-bys.

I can get annoyed by weeing in public places like city centres. Almost always men.

@UseOfWeapons
No I’m not disgusted by that. Read @TheGhostOfKatesProlapse post. That’s the kind of thing I’ve witnessed and am referencing. No one would want to shame elderly or disabled people in that situation and I’m surprised you haven’t read greater nuance in my AIBU.

I was just curious to know how you knew they all stink of wee as I think most people rarely stop in lay-bys, except in an emergency like the need to wee urgently. You have explained. Thanks.

Who cares when we are paying water companies to dump our shit in rivers and the seas and they are paying themselves handsomely for their own con job.

Weeing in laybys is a bit yuk, granted, but far bigger issue for me is the people who poo in my local country park all summer long, not even bothering to try bury or hide the poo & used tissues/loo roll.

I'm fascinated I wouldn't know the difference between human poo and dog poo. How can you tell?

Ugh @Kelvinator1 that is super gross and should also be subject to fines. To be honest I’d be surprised if technically it isn’t. Anything actually being done about it is another thing of course.

I assume it's the used tissues & loo roll @justasking111 - that's so grim @Kelvinator1 & should be punished harshly!

I don't care why you stop in lay bys. My question would be why do you feel the need to judge people without knowing anything about their medical history? Not everyone stopping for a wild wee is a lazy pig. Some people have medical issues. I used to have crippling anxiety that would manifest itself in bowel/bladder urgency. It was so bad that I stopped going places too far from home because I was so scared of being in a situation where I might need a wild wee and be judged by some nosey Parker like you.

Yep, the piles of tissue/loo roll gives it away, and the fact my dog ignore other dog poo, but will happily chow down on a human one.....

I got a tick doing that… 😬

I'm a woman and mastered the art of the alfresco wee during the pandemic. You can always find a bit of cover if you really need to. And there's something quite sensual about the touch of leaves on your naked bum. Watch out for nettles though.

@bubblebutt88 have you actually read my post? Where did I say everyone doing a wild wee is a lazy pig??

What part of finding it antisocial to see men openly pissing at the roadside and finding the smell of urine unpleasant makes me a nosey Parker?

Indeed. Unless and until we have enough public loos, you can't fine people for wild weeing.

I nearly had to do this once on the A303. I was driving and driving and driving and my bladder was getting fuller and fuller and fuller. Thank goodness, glory be, a sign saying service station 2 miles away! I was saved. But I was absolutely going to stop in a layby, open the two passenger side doors and wee between them!

(Of course, after that one there are about four within the space of about 20 minutes. But there was a good 30 minute gap between the last one which I foolishly drove past and td the one I finally got to.)

Oof, not nice!

I work outside and keep a tick remover in the car, though have yet to use it.