AIBU for not wanting to sleep in the garden

[Captaincarnoustie]

Sounds a bit obvious when you put it like that 🤣 but opinions welcome. Being intentionally vague on age genders etc as SIL is on Mumsnet.

YABU - suck it up and sleep in the damn tent
YANBU - the only thing I like to bring camping is a hotel room

We’re a mixed family but have been together a while (5years) and we have a big family get together coming up over Easter hols and it’s myself, partner, and a bio kid each, attending. Hosted by my partners parents.

Lots of family coming from a very drivable distance but we are not - at least 3h drive one way and it’s very rural so no airbnbs etc nearby we have always just stayed over at the hosts house and it’s been good.

we got told today that because “older family members are coming over and they want to drink and have to take priority” we have to set up a tent in the garden instead of having an actual bed, hot water etc. I’m thinking … nope 👎 That sounds like my personal definition of hell, and just no. I am just keen to make our polite excuses, however partner thinks we should still go.

I’ve suggested they go themselves but they think it would cause “drama and speculation” about our relationship if they go and I don’t (tbf it would) and offend them if we decline because they told us about this months ago.

AIBU?

Presumably you could stay at the property of the people who are staying in the bedroom you should have been staying in?

Suck it up. You have hot water inside for hot water bottles, and a shower in the morning. A car to load with bedding. Blanket on the floor, then air beds, then blanket, then sleeping bags and extra blankets if needed.

I love camping. We're already booked for two camping holidays this summer. But a last minute tent in a relative's back garden in the Scottish Highlands so other people can get pissed? Absolutely fucking not!

Oh hang on I missed Scottish Highlands.

No chance

How old are the kids?

One night? Wouldn't bother me but I grew up camping and like it.

I like camping but that's neither here nor there really.

Can't you just duck out of it by saying, "No thank you, I don't fancy sleeping in the garden in April. Have a lovely time though."

They can't make you.

I slept with the kids in a tent in the garden a couple of times, during warm summer nights, and it was hell on earth! 😂
In laws are crazy to even suggest it!

A tent in March? Would I fuck! And I'm down south, it'd have to be one hell of a party to convince me to go right up north full stop 😂

Can you go & stay in the elderly relations house?

You're just going to have to tell them, sorry I am not doing a tent, so if there's no other alternative, I'll bow out but H is game!!!!!

I’d just camp, not biggy. And drink enough glasses of wine /gin to soften the ground I was sleeping on…😁

Yep. A tent in this climate at Easter holds no attraction, especially as I'd need loo breaks, possibly a late snack and hot cocoa and a bit of a wander (I'm insomniac) and possibly watch some catchup TV or do some mumsnetting. I'd rather people coped (or not) with the drama and I had time and space to myself in a nice warm comfy bed. 🌹

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I suspect even the SAS on one of their training sessions would say FUCK NO to camping in the Highlands in March.

If DP wants to suffer then tell him to go, you stay in a nice warm, dry bed with zero beasties.

You keep mentioning Airbnb, have you tried hotels and bed and breakfasts?

Could you sleep in the house of one of the driving distance relatives, that are staying over?

If not, then don't go. No need for suspicion. If anyone asks why you're not there your DH simply says you didn't want to sleep in the garden.

This situation has happened to me (friend's party) & I said 'I don't do tents, sorry. Have a lovely party, but I'll pass.' Yes, people will have a go & but I reply 'it's easy to say that when you have a warm bed that night. Come join us camping & I'll come.' 😂 It stopped (to my face anyway)!

Your DH can go, but tell him to stop treating your wishes like they don't matter in order to keep his family happy. If I'm not respected enough for an indoor, private sleep space for I'm not coming.

Given that they have designated you to the garden like the bins yanbu to revoke your attendance in the affermative.. . Cfers indeed.... Them not you op. And your dp is a sap to agree to this.

I camped in (southern) Scotland early May and there was ice on the tent!!! No way would this be 'fun'!!! Just decline and say sorry but I don't want to die of hypothermia 😂

NW soon, well it hasn't stopped raining since bloody June all gardens are swamp like.

Too cold, too damp, just no.

Blimey.

Is the tent a standard overflow offering for them? Have you heard of this being used before?

Not for me, OP. I'm with you 🙈

Drive up early, leave at 8pm, home at midnight. If there's nowhere to stay, you should t be forced to stay in a tent

Time to fake a sickness bug and stay home

I live camping and live in Scotland. This Easter is too early for a tent - it could very easily snow.

I regularly camp in a tent...but no electric in March...hell no

Oh what a shame you’ve just come down with covid, poor DH is thankfully testing negative but has a tickle in his throat and feels a bit delicate

Sounds fine to me but I regularly camp in my own garden for fun