AIBU for not wanting to sleep in the garden

[Captaincarnoustie]

Sounds a bit obvious when you put it like that 🤣 but opinions welcome. Being intentionally vague on age genders etc as SIL is on Mumsnet.

YABU - suck it up and sleep in the damn tent
YANBU - the only thing I like to bring camping is a hotel room

We’re a mixed family but have been together a while (5years) and we have a big family get together coming up over Easter hols and it’s myself, partner, and a bio kid each, attending. Hosted by my partners parents.

Lots of family coming from a very drivable distance but we are not - at least 3h drive one way and it’s very rural so no airbnbs etc nearby we have always just stayed over at the hosts house and it’s been good.

we got told today that because “older family members are coming over and they want to drink and have to take priority” we have to set up a tent in the garden instead of having an actual bed, hot water etc. I’m thinking … nope 👎 That sounds like my personal definition of hell, and just no. I am just keen to make our polite excuses, however partner thinks we should still go.

I’ve suggested they go themselves but they think it would cause “drama and speculation” about our relationship if they go and I don’t (tbf it would) and offend them if we decline because they told us about this months ago.

AIBU?

Why would op spend stupid dollar on a camper van to appease rude hosts?

Hell no. We camped in Whitby in August, and at night it was fking freezing. No way on Earth would I be camping anywhere in the UK at Easter, let alone the north! Your in-laws are barmy to suggest it.

Absolutely-fucking-not. Hard pass from me! 👍

I absolutely love camping but Easter is too early. It's miserable when it's so cold. Seems like a wildly unreasonable suggestion. Surely they can squeeze you in somewhere on an air bed?!

😂😂😂 designated to the garden like the bins.

It is like that isn't it! At the end of the night they'll hear "ok party's over, time to take the rubbish out to the garden, C'mon @Captaincarnoustie that means you too" 😂

No to the tent for me - hearing all tge rustling and scratching and noises would make me poo my pants 🤣

Hire a campervan for the night(s), you'll be fine then!!! It'll be fun :) Enjoy....

Given the reason is so that people who live nearby can drive home, NO. Dh can call and say we aren’t sleeping in a tent. Happy to drive and taxi people, or invade some nearby drinkers empty house and sleep there, but not sleeping in a tent.

That’s fine if you’re a teenager, but no, I wouldn’t be cool with that arrangement either.

Sorry so that people who live nearby can crash instead of driving home. Dh can fix it or accept you won’t be there.

This

I love camping so id be ok with it, I’ve camped in November time in Scotland and will sometimes just pitch the tent in the garden or sleep on the trampoline 🤣 most of my family and friends however would absolutely back out if camping was involved.

If I were you, I’d pull out for definite! It’s not your thing and you likely wont enjoy it.

Bollocks to that. Its bloody March for christ sake. So to get this straight, you are driving 3 hours, to somewhere you dont really want to go and get to sleep in a tent in the garden......in March. No, sorry. Some people might love that sort of shit but not me and I would be telling them to. Fuck that

And yet they can ask you to sleep in the garden? You need to pipe up OP

I have a campervan so I'm kinda outdoorsy, I drive somewhere scenic and sit looking at the scenery from inside my van with the door open drinking tea, don't venture further than that 😜
No way would I sleep in a tent in someone's garden, you'll be uncomfortable, cold, damp and miserable.
The only reply is "sorry Sandra, I'm not sleeping in a tent in your garden, I'll see you at the next get together when there's room for us"

Hard no from me

In other words, you mean "OH MY GOD DON'T" @OhmygodDont ...??!! 😁

Hire a campervan and park it outside.

Escapee from the relatively balmy West Coast of Scotland.

I need an Artic-level sleep system* to be reasonably warm in most indoor accommodation when an area is fairly damp. The pelting the Highlands have taken over the last few months means the ground is sodden and way beyond damp.

*Something like this but with an extra bag/module rated for more extreme temperatures than -32C and a waterproof cover/module. Even so, tbh, I pop in a couple of hot water bottles (there are special pockets inside the bags for these.
https://goarmy.co.uk/products/british-army-3-piece-modular-sleep-system?

It can't be worth several hundred pounds to hire mobile sleeping accommodation/campervan to accept this invitation.

"Dying of hypothermia in a tent in your garden is not on your bucket list. No worries, we'll visit another time if there's no room."

I love camping. I ain't camping in someones garden in the freezing cold so others don't have to get a taxi or carpool.

Who is providing the tent, air beds, sleeping bags? Do you or your partner actually have this equipment? It's not totally unknown to have snow in March 'up North' so unless you are keen campers you would probably be warmer sleeping in your car!

I would suggest asking if they know anyone with a caravan or campervan they can borrow - still likely to be chilly. Or offer to pay towards a taxi for someone who lives closer? Or borrow their house, if your partner will drive?

Hey OP, I like to camp for fun. Not at this of year though, it will be freezing. I wouldn’t do it.

Maybe DH can go and just sleep in his car?

3 hour drive to kip in a garden ? Nopety Nope
Stay home in your nice warm bed.

It would be a firm no from me whatever the time of year.

He may need one of those silver foil survival blankets which mountain rescue use