Bookclub fall out

[Jeanie1666]

I've been in a bookclub with friends for a few years now. Recently one of the member's has been bad-mouthing someone I know and deeply respect. I called her out about it in the group recently and it was (understandably) upsetting for everyone.

I don't feel that I need to apologise but other members are apparently shocked that I 'humiliated her in public'. We don't like to upset the boat in the UK but I felt that she needed to be told and now I feel that I am in the firing line.

I see it as me trying to keep our bookclub conversations friendly and non-confrontational. However, this seems to have backfired and people are upset at my questioning her right to say these things.

I am considering leaving the club over this now. What do other people think?

Was that the one where they had to squirt each other with rubber toys or some such nonsense?

Yeah but no but yeah but no AM I BOVVERED

I really needed a laugh today thank you heart this cracked me up

Did your 'friend' self publish a book and you made the book club read it?

Omg I do remember that now!!

I think you should probably write a book about it...

I'd apologise to the group that you did this in front of them all and that your feelings got the better of you.
Not nice hearing someone being bad mouthed but you should have confronted her privately, just because they aren't discreet doesn't mean you can't be.

😂😂

Was there wrestling? 😱
Terrible when you just want to talk about the book, and they make you wrestle...

Yes. The OP in that case was disappointed that new members were asking her to leave because they didn't want to get soaking wet in order to join a book club.

As far as I remember, she was upset because she had been removed from the group WhatsApp.

They had to what now?
Is book club code for something else?

That thread was right up there with Sistine Chaple

It really was. And by the end of it, the OP was still being obstinate and sticking mulishly to her point.

😆

Does sound humiliating for her and awkward for everybody else. Not saying you shouldn’t have pulled her up but it has nothing to do with anyone else.

Please can someone post a link to the other strange book club initiation squirting thing thread?!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4738336-to-be-upset-at-how-ive-been-treated

🔫

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4738336-to-be-upset-at-how-ive-been-treated

You confronted someone in the book club for being confrontational? Is this real? Sounds bizarre, the whole thing!

Oh my word, this is surreal!!
I've just stripped my bed, I'm never going to make it now, I'm invested 😮

Fuck me the OP of that thread is a nutjob.

is the person you admire JK Rowling?

Impossible to answer without some context! What did she say and what did you say?
I’m sure nobody gives a shit if you leave the book club by the way so just do what you want.