Boss wouldn't let my mum go to gym

[EmsHugs]

So my sister is a live in nanny to a very wealthy family. She has done this for over a year and loves it. The family treat her well, pay her well and she has her own 2 bed cottage on their estate. My mum went to stay with my sister this week and the shit hit the fan over my sister's boss not letting my mum use her gym and pool on Mother's day. My sister and I both think my mum is being utterly unreasonable in her reaction but would love to know others thoughts.

Background. My sister works in a very rural area. Her employers are more than happy for her to have people to stay with her but just ask that she lets them know in advance. My sister stays here rent and bill free as part of her package. Being Mother's day weekend, she had the weekend off and my mum chose to go visit. It is a very rural location so my sister's boss asked what food she would like for her and my mum (a weekly food order also paid for by employer). She also gave my sister a bottle of champagne to enjoy with my mum. Essentially my sister's boss also paid for mum's food for weekend. Anyway while my sister is free to wander around the private gardens, gym, swimming pool etc and use as she wants on her time off, Her boss has said when she has guests to stay she prefers to agree a time for my sister and her guest to use the gym/pool for both her privacy and my sister and guest. This seems to have been fine and the arrangement worked on the Saturday but on the Sunday my sister's boss asked my sister not to use either the gym or pool, sauna and to not come across to the house as she wanted the place to her and the family. My sister was fine with this but my mum seems to have hit the roof, as she was looking forward to a swim and sauna. She apparently kept badgering my sister to text her boss to arrange a time as she didn't think she would be using it all day and it was unfair to change the agreed plan last minute. When my sister refused she threw a strop. Her boss later text her and said that she was sorry she couldn't accommodate my mum but her own parents were visiting and she wanted it to be free all day because she didn't know when her mum and dad would be using it. It turns out my mum had just gone straight to the house and asked. My sister had a go at my mum, as she said her emplyer was already being nice letting her nad mum use her facilities but mum did not see it that way in the slightest. My mum is now telling my sister she is a mug and is being really horrible about the family she works for and that my sister is pathetic for being such a walkover and letting another adult dictate her life.
She phoned me thinking I would take her side but personally I feel my sister's boss is very generous to my sister and was very accommodating to my sister's guest.

Would be curious to know what others think.

Your poor sister.

Your mum is out of order and if she doesn't know it she is a fool too.

I think it is generous of them to allow your sister to use the pool, gym sauna and the fact they allow her guests too is, well they must be saints.

No wonder your sister spent Christmas away.
Your mother went way over the line here, almost like she wanted to prove something, but at your sisters place of work? I’d be raging!!!

Mum is an entitled twat who is endangering her own daughter’s employment. Your sister needs to tell your mum that she is potentially endangering her job. It is not her holiday home or a hotel, but the private residence of your sister’s employers.
*If it were me, I would let the employers know that I was utterly mortified at mum’s behaviour and apologise profusely while letting them know I would explain to her that she is no longer welcome on the property, and that I would personally be the one calling the police should she decide to drop by or contact the employers in any way.

Your poor sister. Good point about this ending up in the media. You should get any identifying posts removed.

I thought you were saying the nouveau riche wife shops in Lidl 🤣

The Lidl shop in an M&S bag is indefensible, your mum is a piece of work.

@EmsHugs - I agree with others. If your sister's boss is on here she may be unhappy about this thread. And it's prime DM fodder. You should get it removed.

Your mum has behaved dreadfully.

Your sister's employers are entitled to privacy in their own family home. While they may choose to share the facilities outside work hours with your sister, who they know and trust, and let her guests use them if they don't need them, it's entirely understandable that they should want uninterrupted family time alone with their relatives.

Your mum is so entitled she doesn’t care if she jeopardizes your sister’s job. She also seems to lack basic social skills. If I was your sister I’d make sure she doesn’t visit again. It’s just too risky and absolutely cringeworthy.

Just wow, your mum sounds nuts! Does she really think that these people have spent millions on their private facilities to not have them to themselves on Mother's Day or indeed any other day they choose.

They sound like very fair and generous employers and I would never let her near the place again.

I'd get this thread pulled.

I know you didn't mean it this way but if your sisters boss sees this thread she's going to think that the family is full of thoughtless people who can't keep their traps shut one way or another and may reconsider your sister's position.

If this is true this cannot have been an isolated incident. No one gets to be her age and hide such cheeky fuckery. Perhaps OP is the DD of the Mexican house thieves.
I'd cut her loose if she was my DM.

Mum is a CF and l would be apologising to the boss on her behalf and ensuring that she never visits again. It seems mum was more interested in the facilities on offer than actually being with her daughter on MD.

Your mum is a CF of the highest order. I can only hope your sister read her the riot act on learning she had ballsed up to the house herself to impose/ask. How mortifying, and it risks your sisters job. I would also think this is a lesson to your sister to never ever have your mum to stay again, and tell her exactly why.

The thing I hate worst about humans is people like your mum .. she has nothing but is a snob and acts like Mrs bucket ..

How embarrassing for her !!!

Your employers sound lovely , make sure they know she won't do it again .

Yikes. Pretty outrageous on your mum's part tbh. Sounds like your sister has a gem of an employer there.

If I was your sister's boss, I would not be happy about this thread - remove it.

CF mum wants the thread pulled?

Absolutely agree! You should (at least!!) edit the holiday destinations out.

Is discretion and confidentiality particularly important to your DS‘ employers? I would delete this thread if it is. Not because others might identify them. But because they would recognise themselves!

Why is everybody so bothered about privacy on this thrrad suddenly?

Would be curious to know what others think
Your mother’s an entitled twit.
Your sister must be mortified.

I wouldn’t invite her again - ever! How entitled! And what an absolute dick, she could have cost your sister her job!

And possibly because it may well be picked up by the press.

What do you mean suddenly? Posters are pointing out that the rich family may be identifiable and it's not fair on them, that's a valid concern is it not?

What would be better is if the mum found it and saw that everyone knows what a horrid old bag she is

because of this:
sister is still embarrassed as she feels it reflects badly on her.

the situation most likely won’t be improved if her employers read about themselves (be it on mumsnet or some sort of newsoutlet).