Upset about Mothers Day card

[Strawberry06]

Before I start I probably am being unreasonable but I can't help the way I feel.

Today is my first ever Mother's Day and my husband usually gets me a nice card for other occasions and writes a personal message inside.

Anyway for some reason he decided to go down the moonpig route and he made me a personalised card using a photo of me and the baby. In said photo I look horrendous, I've had no sleep, no make up on, not even brushed hair and the card is the whole photo. I couldn't help but cringe when I opened it and then burst out crying. Then there's just the most basic line of text inside.

I know I probably sound so ungrateful and there are much more important things but all I wanted was just a normal cute mummy card with a handwritten message inside for my first Mother's Day and I can't help but think he's ruined it and I'm so upset about it.

He knows the cards are important to me I don't ask for or expect anything else but a nice card I don't feel like it's a lot to ask!

@Josette77

in that case why would you ever bother to wear it? You wouldn’t surely.

most people feel and indeed look prettier with makeup than without because it is designed specifically for that purpose!

At least you got a card

But he can't have had many photos to choose from, can he? The baby is 2 weeks old?

I don't disagree with you that women would prefer to look their best in a photo but, OP's husband has picked this for mothers' day, so a photo with the baby and OP in it. Not a random one from when OP had hair done and make up on because that wouldn't be relevant.

Nobody's being disingenuous here because nobody, including OP, knows what was in her husband's thoughts. We're giving different perspectives, mine with the hope that OP perks up and doesn't let her sadness over this card ruin the rest of the day.

I get you op. I'd be the same but also when you look back in a few years it won't be an issue.
Also my ds is 5 and the best thing is whe he comes to the shop with me and picks me a card. The ones from ds actually don't hold much value in comparison like they used to.

Let it go and treasure the fact you are a mum and get to celebrate this lovely day. Take some lovely photos and treasure those instead

Yeah, what an absolute prick for not being a mind reader. Honest to god. Are people really this precious now?

Oh for heaven's sake get a grip. You got a card. He meant well. Yabu.

@Itwillallbealright

saccharine 🤢

we all know when we look good and when we don’t!

and so what if he thinks she looks beautiful in it?? Op doesn’t and it’s a card for HER to show appreciation for HER so surely it’s HER opinion that matters and a photo that SHE likes should have been selected!

it suggests he values you as the mother of his child regardless of how you look or feel about yourself. I think that says a lot.

OP

You've had a few harsh replies here. You're two weeks postpartum. You're going to be exhausted, emotional, fragile and hormonal. However... you are only two weeks postpartum. How can he write lovely gushy messages when your journey of being parents has only just begun?

Two weeks ago you weren't even parents...

Those gushy, lovely thoughtful messages will come in time OP

Just tell him next time that you don't want anything special or unique, you just want the same mass-produced card that thousands of other women get.

@DanielGault

yep!

op is! I am! Others on here feel the same!

us high maintenance, demanding women eh??

Burst into tears? Over a Moonpig card and a photo you’re not keen on?
Im not intending to sound unkind but is there a possibility that you could be suffering from depression?

YABU.

@SecretBanta

up your standards ! Of course she should have got a card. At the very least.

God forbid females have high demands!

But you aren't his mum!

Honestly there are loads of special firsts to come on future mother's days, this won't even matter once you experience them. The first time your child says "happy Mother's Day" in their cute little toddler voice will mean more than any card. The first time they make a Mother's Day picture at nursery and school. When the child really understands it is when the magic is there.

This year was the first year my 6 year old made a card and wrote his own message in it in his sweet scribbled handwriting and it read "to mum thank you for loving me and looking after me"
I will treasure that card forever and it means so much more than whatever card dh wrote me when my baby was 6 months old.

Thank your dh for the effort he did make and forget about it. He probably felt awkward writing you a message "from" the baby.

Why don't you get some card or paper this evening and do a little handprint? Your handprint in one colour, then your baby's print in the middle of yours? Write Mother's Day 2024 on it. You can make your own memories too.

YABU sorry but he made an effort and tried to do something nice, you're choosing to ruin the day now. He probably chose the photo because he likes it and doesn't think you look horrendous at all!

Maybe she should organise HER own present if she's going to be this ridiculous over it. The guy tried to do something nice, it fell flat BC the OP is feeling a bit fragile. It's one of those things. She needs to get over it.

Bloody hell I didn’t even get a card. Count yourself lucky.

I can’t even believe this post. And I’m losing any sympathy the more you respond OP..a moonlight card is not personal but a card that 100’s of other women will have from Tesco is? Any other cards and messages in them will have been how your dh is feeling which ia why they have long personal messages in them…this is a Mother’s Day card for you when you’ve been a mother for a matter of weeks..what heartfelt message were you hoping to be in there? YABVU and ungrateful

You sound like hard work

I'm a woman and I don't get it, honestly. What exactly is required? I can't see what this guy has done wrong for the life of me.

It's the thought that counts.I was lucky if I even got a card. When they got older it was usually a card made at nursery or school.

The photo is of you and DC after you gave birth. He probably thought the photo would be sentimental value. Nobody looks like a supermodel after giving birth FFS. Most of the newborn photos of my DC got lost. Back in the days before digital photos so couldn't be replaced.

First DC I went to collect them and they couldn't find them. The second a family member had took them without my knowledge then lost them. I can never get them back. I wish I had a mother's day card with a photo of me and DC on after their birth.

@Minniliscious

your situation is not ok. You absolutely should have got a card. At the very least.

just because you didnt does not mean that op does not have the right to feel disappointed.

She probably looks ten times worse now she’s been crying 😩Your eyes go all puffy and weird don’t they?