To think this was massively out of line

[Linguines]

DH just randomly smacked me so hard on the arse that it almost reduced me to tears. There is a huge handprint on my bum now and I just feel bit like, what the hell? why did he do that? why did he think that was ok?

I say this very, very rarely OP, but I think you need to leave, and I'm glad you plan too. His explanation of it being that or a punch to the face is horrifying, and that coupled with him getting in your face before and you not being sure if he was going to go further tells me he isn't safe, for you or your children. Wishing you all the luck in the world moving forward - you deserve so much more than this

He’s never hit me, it’s just talk. I think it’s his humour which I don’t understand but I don’t mind because he’s never hit me. I sometimes say it back but not often because that kind of this doesn’t come into my head immediately. If I said it back to him he’d probably just laugh. It’s a weird kind of humour isn’t it, I feel like he’s probably had some kind of trauma to come out with stuff like this. He wouldn’t mind at all me doing the same

It's not weird kind of humour at all. You are the wrong person to 'advise' on this as you see nothing wrong in it, bizarrely.

So already starting to convince yourself that you shouldn’t leave him and it’s a happy environment for your children?

@Annymania and these interactions all happen in front of your children?

I’m 25, he’s 44 and our son is 18m.

I suspect you’ve had a very very troubled relationship history for you to think that how this 44 year old man is behaving towards his son (although on another thread you say you’re a single mum?)

This is not OK. At all.

@Linguines oh no op I'm sorry for your troubles good luck hun

Yeah, no. He didn't misjudge, much as you'd like to think so. He was testing you out to see if he could ramp up the level of abuse.
Which is what the OP's partner is doing.

He doesn’t hit me and I know he wouldn’t. We don’t live together but we’re still ‘together’ in my mind. We both have issues so I totally respect that I’m the minority (if not the only one) who finds this quite normal. I think we’re just a very unusual family but we’re happy, I’m raising the child on my own and he’s well looked after.

Use your brain and don't be so fucking patronising

you have a very disturbing posting history about your relationship

The police? Really.

Why do t you hit him back just as hard randomly later in the day? Really belt him one and see what he says?

wtf

fgs

no

Oh wait, let me think why this is not a good idea. I'm sure there's a really OBVIOUS reason. Something to do with not provoking the nasty violent misogynist bigger more powerful partner?

@NotbloodyGivingupYet just seen the user name of the moronic and reckless PP. Male?

To the bin with him.