To think this woman shouldn’t have interfered in the restaurant?

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We are away at the moment and went to eat last night in a family pub with an indoor play area which seemed to get my ds (3) a bit hyper. He’s normally really good in restaurants but was admittedly being really silly and swinging back on his chair and running off and not eating. I was doing my best to deal with it.

It really wasn’t helped by a woman sitting at the table behind us who kept interfering and shrieking ‘he’ll fall!’ every time he was swinging on his chair and making comments about him and us. I don’t think it was coming from a bad place but AIBU in thinking it really wasn’t appropriate? It was stressful and meant we couldn’t deal with DS properly as she was taking our attention. (By the way ds was far from the only badly behaved child there.)

You don't know how she was feeling, so you don't know if you did or didn't ruin her evening.

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"As long as you were dealing with it"

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The thing is, there is nothing more distracting and annoying than disruption behind you. Be it in a cinema, restaurant, whatever, if someone is fidgeting or being noisy behind you when you can't see them it's 10x more annoying than if you can see them and keep an eye on them. I guess it's because your back feels vulnerable if you don't know if someone is going to hit you from behind.

Poundland Freud ⬅️Sweet Christ! That’s funny
I'm going to shameless steal that little gem

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Some right dicks on this thread.

I don't see the analogy between breastfeeding (✔️ ) and a badly behaved child 🤷

edited: sorry - I see you were being sarcastic

How was her 'interrupting' making it harder for you, OP

You are most def. not being unreasonable! Right, your child didn't behave as well as you're used too - children are often unpredictable. But being in a restaurant with a play area that other person should've kept to herself and not commented on yóur child. If a person isn't capable of sticking to their own company and minding their own business they shouldn't be out in a child-friendly restaurant.

How do you think she can be firm with the lady when she can't be firm with her child?

He shouldn't have been swinging back on his chair though! Sort your kid out, or eat at home !

Why would you have stayed and ruined other people's evenings instead of taking your ferral child out of the restaurant. My DS is 6 now and has never been allowed to behave in such an abhorrent way in a restaurant. It doesn't matter if it was the first time it shouldn't have been allowed to happen. I'm with the other lady except I would have asked you directly why you were ruining my evening by not parenting your child.

What absolute rubbish, you need to take some responsibility. You don't let kids run around restaurants, he probably upset lot of people.

Because I don't know her and neither do you. Which is why I said what I personally would have done.

Feral, abhorrent? Is this how adults really talk about children, he's a hyper 3 year old with no boundaries not Charles Manson.

I don't think you would! I think it's easy talking nonsense about "abhorrent" (from a 3 year old , how do you cope with real life?) behaviour and you'd say this or that as a keyboard warrior. But actually doing it, is unlikely.

So other children were not behaving so that makes it ok? I feel for the woman.Having sat in a restaurant and watched a 2-3 year old wander unsupervised, finally leaving the restaurant by the main door. People from 3 other tables rushed to rescue her from the busy main road. Parents and friends too busy enjoying themselves to keep a watch on her. No thanks was offered, just grabbed the child and left - had finished their meal. They had had a lovely peaceful time. No regard for others anxiously keeping a watch on their offspring.

Did you at any point politely suggest to the woman that she turn round and stop commenting? I’d have had to say something to her. Even if that was a ‘Yes, thank you but your input isn’t wanted/needed!”

Also I don’t think parenting from the chair is adequate, you or your husband should’ve gone after him when he ran off, returned him to the table and told him off. Maybe sit him so one adult is either side of him so he couldn’t just run off, and be ready to grab his arm should he try. Also sat each side of him you both could’ve stopped him f tipping chair, I’d have sat with my foot on the ring or hand on the back of the chair so he couldn’t tip it, it sounds like you’d both eaten and paid so I’d have taken his food home and fed him there.

If your child gets hyper because there is a play area then I suggest you don’t take your child to a restaurant with a play area in future. If he behaves well in normal restaurants, stick to those until he can behave.

This thread is ridiculous.

the replies here lol, if I wanted a child-free experience I wouldn't go to a pub with soft play ffs. She was being unreasonable and should have butted out.

When our DC acted up at that age, and it was a lot, we were very on the ball the moment it started. We woukd take it in turns to take outside and eat, wasn't ideal but wouldn't dream of allowing poor behaviour to spoil for others. It was hard work and sometimes we would leave the cafe early or not even order a meal. Also in other places, usually me on my own, I would have to cut short a day out with family and friends, it wasn't easy at all.

Nowhere in the OP's post does s/he say that the woman did or did not have children with her at her table...

Given how this woman had moved her chair so she could concentrate on someone else’s children I don’t think she had children with her
If she had then her dc must have felt completely ignored