Mothers day

[Winniethepooh88]

I'm 5 months pregnant with already two children, Mother's Day coming up and every Sunday I normally cook but as I knew Mother's Day was coming I booked a table and even paid deposit for us all.
today I found out that his favourite football team are playing the same time I booked this meal 5 weeks ago.
he's now said we have to cancel and he will go food shopping now so I can cook us a roast tomorrow instead.

let's not forgot the fact that I've never had a Mother's Day card in 7 years or even a bunch of £3 flowers.

aibu for being annoyed?

@ilovesooty That's really quite saddening.

As you have a man-child for a partner it would have been better to talk to him before you booked it.

There's no point anyone telling you what you already know. That he's a selfish prick.

What's saddening about it?

She did talk to him. He failed to plan properly and seemingly didn't care enough to check.

@ilovesooty It's a bloody game! For fun! As far as I'm concerned, football is for kids & teens. His wife is grieving. His behaviour is abhorrent choosing a game over supporting the closest person to him on an important day when she's emotionally vulnerable. Really sad

football is for kids and teens

In your opinion. My friend and I enjoy watching our team. She and her husband are season ticket holders and I go to games when her husband is happy to let me have his ticket. We watch on the TV when they aren't attending. We've been supporters for 50 years and we enjoy it.

You have got to be joking. It's her job to check on his entertainment for him now? The poor little man-baby can't even manage that for himself?

The bar for men is so very low on here.

I have expanded on that and made it clear that it isn't her job.

Do feel free to RTFT.

And I'm sure OP would have been happy with a profuse apology coupled with him booking a babysitter and a romantic weekend away for a week later. Or whatever else she feels up to in her condition.

What is sad here is that OP has put up with this behaviour for 7yrs, that's she's gone out of the way to gift and deliver to her MIL, KO is at 3.45pm so there is PLENTY of time for cunty selfish man to go out for lunch with his family first, bearing in mind his DW is grieving and its an emotional day. Or is he heading to the pub with his mates at opening time and watching the match there?

OP, you do not deserve to be treated like this. I bet you go all out on FD, his birthday and Christmas? He should absolutely be supporting you, especially under the circumstances.

Ffs, I'm travelling 2hrs odd tomorrow, including ferry travel and public transport for MD. Table is booked for 1pm and I've got a 4pm ferry booked home which is 45mins from the venue. So bags of time for a meal out. He could easily take you out with your DC, OP, and be back in time. He could watch the match at home, bath the kids, read them a story and make you tea and toast in the evening whilst you put your feet up.

Definitely get legal advice on Monday. Don't be a pushover.

This.
Don't miss out, and don't be cooking that roast!
Bollocks to that.
Let him bugger off to football and go without him.

I'm so sorry for your loss 💐💐
You deserve a lovely day out with your children, I'm glad you've decided to do this
If he moans, tough shit - he chose football instead so he'll just have to sort himself out.
His choice, his consequences.
Have a lovely meal with your kids tomorrow x

I think this is a unanimous YANBU

not one single person thinks you should cook a roast tomorrow OP

I agree with this op. He is a twat but you’ve been a bit of a mug and continue to be one. Why on earth have you bought his mum the Mother’s Day present? I also agree re the remote too.

If your mum is around, invite her. Not sure why you think he should have bothered with flowers/card. You are not his mum.🤔

I did talk to him, 5 weeks ago I booked this meal and asked him he said it's fine. Every week since then I mentioned it and I even brought it up Tuesday and mentioned I want to go to my mother's resting spot before hand by myself. So I did speak to him and he's had a chance this week to even tell me.

Try reading her posts then you can see why she can’t invite her mum.

My mom isn't here she passed away 2 months ago. My children are 7 and my youngest is 2. A simple card for once from my children would've been a big deal this year, I know I am not his mother! But my children can't go to the card factory by themselves?

Every now and then on MN I am genuinely shocked at the arseholery some women put up with from their spouses. Some threads really do highlight the very worst of men-kind, and this is one of them.

OP I hope you have a lovely day with your children tomorrow and that the pain of your mum’s death slowly becomes less raw. And then, I really hope you find yourself a shit hot lawyer and take this selfish cunt to the cleaners.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mum @Winniethepooh88

I think that under the circumstances your partner should be being a lot kinder .

That aside - I can see a little bit from both sides, but only because my DH is a mad sports fan so I could see him also wanting to cancel a meal to watch a match . I guess they have added importance with the end of the season approaching .

But - he is totally unreasonable in expecting you to actually cook a meal . Given your DC are too young to do anything for you themselves, he should be taking them to get you a card/flowers/whatever and then ordering a takeaway so you can all sit down and relax .

And he should be being especially kind and thoughtful as you have just lost your mum .

If your mum is around, invite her. Not sure why you think he should have bothered with flowers/card. You are not his mum.🤔

At least make an effort to read the OPs updates!!

And no, she isn't his mum, she's the mother of his young children who need some help arranging a card and present.
Children aren't born with the innate knowledge and ability to acknowledge important events. They need to be taught that by their parents!!

If you'd read the thread you would know that she lost her mum two months ago, she's feeling fragile and grieving. And that's why she thought the man who's supposed to love her might show her a little care and acknowledge the mothering she does for their little children, who are too young to organise anything on their own.

I hope you have a lovely Mother’s Day lunch with your children 🌺 and just maybe it will send a message to your dh that he will think about.

I did talk to him, 5 weeks ago I booked this meal and asked him he said it's fine. Every week since then I mentioned it and I even brought it up Tuesday and mentioned I want to go to my mother's resting spot before hand by myself. So I did speak to him and he's had a chance this week to even tell me.

Then he's an even bigger dick than I first thought. Hope you manage to get something good out of today