Mothers day

[Winniethepooh88]

I'm 5 months pregnant with already two children, Mother's Day coming up and every Sunday I normally cook but as I knew Mother's Day was coming I booked a table and even paid deposit for us all.
today I found out that his favourite football team are playing the same time I booked this meal 5 weeks ago.
he's now said we have to cancel and he will go food shopping now so I can cook us a roast tomorrow instead.

let's not forgot the fact that I've never had a Mother's Day card in 7 years or even a bunch of £3 flowers.

aibu for being annoyed?

Go without him. Bad enough that you've had to organise it.

My husband watches every single game, even goes to games while I look after the children. It's my first Mother's Day without my own mother and I didn't want to spend it at home. He expects me to look after the children while being 5 months pregnant on a day where I miss my own mom and can't even give her a hug.

I know football is a big deal in his world but one day wouldn't hurt.

I wanted to see if Ive over reacted simple. I've decided to just go out and take my children. I'm seriously considering my future with him but that's another post.
it's not a bait post.

Sorry OP but what are you after from this thread? Yes he's being VERY UNREASONABLE! However it sounds like he's always been a selfish twat so what your expecting from him isn't in him to give you, either except that or leave and stop having children with him.

@Winniethepooh88 you're dealing with very raw grief and I'm sorry you're going through that.

This isn't just "one day" in football terms though. It's the biggest game of the season and it's something that your husband should have been fully aware of. It's just very unfortunate that it's been scheduled for mothers ' day with your particular circumstances this year.

He does sound horribly uncaring though.

I'm sorry he's shown his true colours op but when you need them the most is when they step up or don't. He hasn't.

Will you be home before the match is over? I'd do a lovely lunch with your kids and then drop them home with Daddy whilst you take some time out x

I am sorry to hear about your mum and that is what makes his actions even more selfish.

Had he said about the match and said how about I cook us lunch at home, that would have been a bit more reasonable, but wanting you to run around to cater to him on mothers day is awful.

Im not someone that makes a fuss really about mothers day at all, I think its commercialised rubbish, but this sounds like the bigger picture is the man is selfish, he doesnt put you first so the death of your mum hasnt changed that for him.

I think you considering your future is a sensible one because he will never change, so you need to think are you happy with the way things are for the rest of your life.

Especially when it's a 2023 ZOMBIE thread I am sure the LFC v City game never crossed her mind

I've decided to take my children by myself and seriously considering our future.
also when some of the comments about having another child seems not very nice. I've never said he's a bad dad, we're married and I fell pregnant before my mother passed away and that's now causing cracks in our marriage as I'm dealing with grief.

note to my former self in the future to never get with a football fan again because watching a match is more important than being with your wife on Mother's Day when it's her first one without her own mother.

What do you mean?

Apologies for last comment. There is a zombie that's been resurrected with same title and I though I was on there 🤣

see my later comment .

You can’t blame all football fans for your husbands crap behaviour. Glad you have decided to go without him though.

He is unacceptable. My god, the selfish wanker. Please go for the meal with your children and perhaps a friend. And reevaluate what you deserve.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP.

It says 2024?

Edit:nvm cross posted

I think the reason people are saying that is your first post says he hasnt done anything for 7 years of mothers days. So its not new behaviour, the man has shown you before that this isnt important to him.

How is he day to day as a parent? Is it just mothers day he is a bit selfish (maybe its not important to him) or is his hobbies always a priority over his family?

Grief is going to affect you in many ways but what people are noting is that this isnt new behaviour from him, yet despite knowing this you continued to stay together and have more children.

To be fair though it's THE biggest match of the season and as a LFC fan it would be my priority to ensure I had the best mothers day to be able to watch it. Its a 3.45 kick off so plenty of time for an early lunch or to go to dinner. Mainly though on mothers day a lie and breakfast in bed with a home scribbled card is what mothers days tends to be for us. And dinner being cooked (but thats not unusual anyway).

I wouldn’t mind him watching the game but not a cat in hells chance I would be making a bloody roast dinner on Mother’s Day! What a twat to expect that of you!

Can't he record it and watch later?

Go for the meal tomorrow with your children and file for divorce on Monday if you're married. If you're not married then do a happy dance and make plans for your life as a single mum. I'm a single mum of 3 and it's far, far easier than dealing with a twat of a man and father. You deserve better. I was pregnant with dc 3 and completely on my own from before I found out I was pregnant. It was so much less stressful that pregnancy, birth, recovery, everything.

We are unfortunately married but I will be contacting the solicitors. For the football fans on here I am not divorcing him because of watching the match, I think it was the last step in how much I can take.
thank you for the positivity, least getting divorced it's one less man child to look after.

Absolutely this.

It simply isn't the same as watching live. Any football fan knows that.

If he'd had anything about him he could have booked a later (early evening) meal and it wouldn't have conflicted with the match. @Winniethepooh88 shouldn't have had to book her own meal.

No, I didn't think it was about this match. It was always about more than that and I can see where you're coming from.