Mothers day

[Winniethepooh88]

I'm 5 months pregnant with already two children, Mother's Day coming up and every Sunday I normally cook but as I knew Mother's Day was coming I booked a table and even paid deposit for us all.
today I found out that his favourite football team are playing the same time I booked this meal 5 weeks ago.
he's now said we have to cancel and he will go food shopping now so I can cook us a roast tomorrow instead.

let's not forgot the fact that I've never had a Mother's Day card in 7 years or even a bunch of £3 flowers.

aibu for being annoyed?

Why would OP check the fixtures?

Oh yes - I forgot that the kick off time changed. He still should have been aware that the match was always going to be on the Sunday due to Liverpool playing in Europe on Thursday night.

Well if he did nothing with the first child why would it be different now?

If she's aware that her husband is a Manchester City or Liverpool fan it would have been common sense to check.

Exactly.
My husband is a Liverpool fan and even when fixtures are published far in advance he can tell me which will be moved based on other fixtures, TV rights etc.

I asked him and he said it was obvious the time was going to change.

OP, I'm very sorry to hear about your Mum.

Are you married to him? You haven't specified and it does make a heck of a difference; not to the selfish and indifferent way he treats you, but to your rights and options.

He's been like this for 7 years yet you continue to have children with him, can't muster up much sympathy for this one...

No. My husband is a Doe hard liverpool fan. And also a fully functioning adult.

When organising things we do try to work around key games. He is aware of any changes and other obligations.
It's his hobby. It's his time. And so it's his oigation to balance that and his home life.

Wives are not nens personal secretaries. She asked for a date he gave one. That's the end of her job.

Go with the kids.

Sorry to hear about your mum.

So not only does she have to book her own Mother’s Day meal, it’s her responsibility to check what footy is on, and not his?

YABU to have not have adjusted your expectations knowing he hasn't bothered for the past 7 years.

He seems completely useless.
Just go out with your kids.

So I guess he also doesn't look after the children either because of the football

I'm not saying it's her responsibility but it might have helped her if she'd known.

I fully agree that he should have known and made it clear from the outset that watching the match might conflict with the proposed booking.

I can fully understand why he doesn't want to miss the biggest match of the season but yes, he should have known long ago.

@jennylamb1

men can cook too

I'm so sorry you lost your Mum recently. You must be feeling very raw dealing with the grief while pregnant as well.

Your husband is behaving very selfishly and not giving any thought to you at all but this seems to be how he is anyway so I suppose you're not as shocked as you would be if this were out of character.

I would definitely carry on with going out for that meal tomorrow and ideally ask someone else in his place. If not, just go out on your own and leave the children with him for the day.

Dad’s can cook too, can’t they?

@Winniethepooh88

invite someone else & go.

Prince of men can feed himself.

its bad enough he does nothing on behalf of your children for MD, but telling you he's not going to something you've had to organise yourself is awful! But telling you that you can just cook a roast, beyond dreadful.

im a little unsure why you had more than one child with this twat, oh & im sure he wasn't 'all that' before you even had the first.

you can't go back in time, but you can do something about your future.

I am amazed at people suggesting she should have checked the fixtures before booking the table. What sort of wetwipe can't cope without watching one single match?

OP, I would find yourself something lovely to do on Sunday, and leave the children with him while he watches his stupid match. Make sure they have loads of haribo for lunch as well, so they are stoked up on sugar. I can't stand pathetic man-children.

This isn't any random match though. Liverpool v City is a very important match in this year's title race, even for fans of other clubs.

So I guess there may be lots of disappointed mothers because of this match

I don't have any mothers' day obligations but I wouldn't be missing this match for anything short of sudden death or medical emergency.

He should have known that it was likely to conflict with plans for mothers' day though.

And although it's his responsibity not hers in her position giving his generally uncaring attitude I'd have checked it out simply so that I'd be aware of potential pitfalls

Wtf. Why can't he cook. Its not ready steady cook, he can't just turn up with the ingredients for a roast and tell you to cook

I didn't ask for sympathy I asked for an opinion.

Thank you and yes we are married but since my mom passed away I've not been dealing with grief very well as she was (is) still my best friend. I've noticed a shift in our marriage because I'm not my usual happy self, I never expect anything for Mother's Day but because this is my first without my mom I thought a meal out (what I booked) would be more important then a football game.