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To not want to share my inheritance equaly

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Anonymouslyasking · 08/03/2024 13:00

My half brother who I love dearly wants me to share my inheritance with him, he says my mum told him she would share it half half. That's not what she told me. Mum had passed away so we can't clarify now.
He received an inheritance from his mum that he didn't share.

I'm happy to give him a share but I feel half is too much. I don't want yo fall out with him but I feel it's unfair. AIBU?

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coxesorangepippin · 08/03/2024 13:00

He can go fuck himself

Itslegitimatesalvage · 08/03/2024 13:01

Of course he is going to say that, but he had an inheritance from his own mum and you’ll split whatever your dad leaves evenly. The money from your mum is yours. Why would it have anything to do with him?

She wrote her will the way she wanted it. That’s the end of it.

PenCreed · 08/03/2024 13:02

She wasn't his mum, why should you share it at all, let alone half of it?

2Rebecca · 08/03/2024 13:02

If he didn't share the inheritance from his mum why would he expect you to share yours? I'd tell him that.

Floppyelf · 08/03/2024 13:02

coxesorangepippin · 08/03/2024 13:00

He can go fuck himself

This. I think. Unless your mum atleast said this verbally.

JustOneFootInFrontOfTheOther · 08/03/2024 13:03

2Rebecca · 08/03/2024 13:02

If he didn't share the inheritance from his mum why would he expect you to share yours? I'd tell him that.

This is what I was thinking.

PlumbersWifey · 08/03/2024 13:03

Sounds like he is trying it on. Unless he goes 50/50 with his mums inheritance it would be a big no from me.

ohdamnitjanet · 08/03/2024 13:03

coxesorangepippin · 08/03/2024 13:00

He can go fuck himself

Well quite!
Presuming she left a will naming you, I wouldn’t give him a PENNY.

doitwithlove · 08/03/2024 13:04

No way should you share it. Tell him to jog on.

Olika · 08/03/2024 13:04

I would not share anything with him. He got his inheritance from his mum and didn't share so forget about it.

wubwubwub · 08/03/2024 13:04

Don't give him any.

hettie · 08/03/2024 13:04

How about saying "that's not what she told me, that's not what's written in the will and that's not the precedent you set with your mum's inheritance" ?

Paradiddlediddle · 08/03/2024 13:05

Did your dad leave everything to your mum? Which now means everything your dad has has done to you, disinheriting your brother?

DysmalRadius · 08/03/2024 13:05

Did your mum inherit from your dad and that's why he thinks he should have a share?

Anonymouslyasking · 08/03/2024 13:06

There wasn't a will but I'm the sole beneficiary as I'm the only descendant.
Apparently she told him she would leave him half.

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SugarPlumRoar · 08/03/2024 13:06

Unless your father passed away and left everything to your mother prior to her death then I'd categorically say no to your brother. He inherited from his mother and didn't share.

However if your father did pass away and leave everything to your mother who has since passed away then I actually would think half would be fair.

Anonymouslyasking · 08/03/2024 13:06

DysmalRadius · 08/03/2024 13:05

Did your mum inherit from your dad and that's why he thinks he should have a share?

No, she inherited from my grandparents.

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HemlockSoup · 08/03/2024 13:07

Cheeky fecker. Don't hand over a chunk of your inheritance just because you're scared he'll fall out with you otherwise.

LindorDoubleChoc · 08/03/2024 13:07

Some pretty uneducated responses on this thread already Hmm

OP, where did your Mum's money come from? You obviously have the same father as your half brother - is he dead and where did his money go in his will?

WhizzWoman · 08/03/2024 13:08

Hhhmm, it depends on the details. He shouldn't normally expect any of your Mums wealth but if her wealth includes a lot of your Dads wealth then he could reasonably expect a portion of that.

For example, if your Mum was penniless when she met your Dad and you Dad was a multimillionaire and died leaving all his money to your Mum then I think, morally, you should share the inheritance more equally.

QueenOfTheLabyrinth · 08/03/2024 13:08

Where is the father you share in all of this?

Iloveshihtzus · 08/03/2024 13:08

LindorDoubleChoc · 08/03/2024 13:07

Some pretty uneducated responses on this thread already Hmm

OP, where did your Mum's money come from? You obviously have the same father as your half brother - is he dead and where did his money go in his will?

She’s already answered- not from the dad.

Anonymouslyasking · 08/03/2024 13:08

Paradiddlediddle · 08/03/2024 13:05

Did your dad leave everything to your mum? Which now means everything your dad has has done to you, disinheriting your brother?

It's all from my grandparents on my mums side

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sherridan · 08/03/2024 13:09

Is it that your dad had already passed, so he feels entitled to what you dad might have left him? Maybe he's reasonably entitled to 25%. I.e. half of your parents' estate comes to you from your mum, and half from your dad is split between you?

aSofaNearYou · 08/03/2024 13:09

You shouldn't share any of it with him - remind him that he inherited from his mum and in the absence of a will and her having said what she wanted to everyone, this is fairest.

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