To not want to share my inheritance equaly

[Anonymouslyasking]

My half brother who I love dearly wants me to share my inheritance with him, he says my mum told him she would share it half half. That's not what she told me. Mum had passed away so we can't clarify now.
He received an inheritance from his mum that he didn't share.

I'm happy to give him a share but I feel half is too much. I don't want yo fall out with him but I feel it's unfair. AIBU?

He won’t be satisfied with 25%?! Greedy fucker. Wills and death bring out the worst in people.

But they didn’t die in a different order. And nobody really knows what would have happened if they had.

Well, neither your mother nor your father inherited anything, so their discussions are irrelevant.

If your dad doesn’t have mental capacity to manage his own affairs, then a) why on earth would you consider his opinion on your inheritance, and b) why are his debts your problem? His debts will come from any estate he leaves.

Absolutely they do. I’m a solicitor and see this from a professional viewpoint too. The behaviour of some people over wills and inheritance is truly astonishing.

But it's not even your mother's money, it was your gran's and now it's yours.

How much are you talking about? Hundreds thousands, millions?
I might buy him a gift if I felt so inclined, but wouldn't give him 25% of my inheritance.

Well, her next door neighbour or her hairdresser could say that couldn't they? heck, I could say it!

if it was so important to her it should have been written down. Thats why we have laws.

Don't share it. He didnt share his did he?

Assuming this is all true, did your mum leave a will stating her wishes? Did she state her money was to be left to her husband, you, your brother?

Something about people assuming the worst of others...
no I'm trying to not reveal too much details to remain anonymous should someone who knows me see this...

Bye!

My parents were not married and there was no will

You can offer him half of your mother's estate if that's what he wants, which is a big fat 0. Your grandparents' money is nothing to do with him.

I worked in a law firm (I’m not a lawyer) and saw the same. One of the worst was a single man whose will was contested but he had lots of investments etc. God knows how much got eaten up in legal fees.

It’s a pity you told him about it at all. How does he know how much it is?
he is a leech.
Don’t trust your dad either.

Whatever you give him you won’t be thanked, and he will probably disappear so you may as well blow it all on hats and at least make yourself happy.

I wouldn’t give him a penny. It’s your mother’s wishes for you to have it all.

You're kidding, right? The amount of women who have taken men for every penny they have (both posted here and seen in real life) shows your sexist statement is nothing but absolute nonsense.

I'm a man, and I don't 'feel' entitled to my wife's money - neither I should, aside from shared bills it's hers.
You can't tell everyone that all men feel something (especially when it's absolute nonsense) - can you imagine the fallout if I started telling you that all women 'feel' something as heinous?

Off you pop then!

What did your dad say when your half brother inherited from his mothers family? Was there any suggestion that he should be sharing half his inheritance with you - or is it just you that comes under this pressure to 'be kind' and give away the money left by your mothers family?
Does it matter what they discuss amongst themselves? - your half sibling legally has no claim on the money you have inherited (as far as I understand it directly from your grandmother after the your mother predeceased her? - with no will or direction from your mother about her wishes) So no
Please don't let their emotional manipulation pressure you into acting against your own interests , especially in a time of grief and bereavement,

I wouldn't give him anything! He didn't speak to your mum for 20 years, ignored her and comes out of thebwoodwork now money is around. Fuck that. He isn't owed anything. Ask him where your half of his mums estate is.

Even if she did leave a will, those wishes would only have covered what she owned at the time of her death, and given that she pre-deceased her own DM, the OP’s inheritance wouldn’t have been part of her estate.

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

Did your mum die quite suddenly? If there was a chance she wanted to prepare a will (including something for your brother) but didn't get around to it, I might consider sharing a bit... very much depending on your relationship with your brother.

Only you know if your bro is generally a grabby CF as a general rule, or if he is usually trustworthy and decent.

You've lost your mum and the situation with your dad is difficult : if your brother is generally a nice good person, you might want to protect that relationship.

Half sounds a bit much though.

You're kidding, right? The amount of women who have taken men for every penny they have (both posted here and seen in real life) shows your sexist statement is nothing but absolute nonsense

You mean those women who raised the children and put their careers on hold whilst the husband was free to earn whatever he wanted? yeah- totally out of order 😂

Don't be a mug. He'll vanish as soon as he's got your money. Don't give him a penny. What would your granny want? You know she would want you to have it. It was her money. Respect her wishes. Your waster mum's view does not come into the equation.

But did he share what he inherited from his own mum with you?
Apologies if you've answered this and I missed it.

@Anonymouslyasking
Please stop being so subservient, he's trying it on because he thinks you're a soft touch.
(And you are being a soft touch or you wouldn't be here asking us this question)

Assuming she would have told him before that...

He doesn't have a leg to stand on ( my dh recently inherited form estranged father who died intestate )
Did your mum inherit from your shared Dad is that why he thinks he's entitled?

No it wasn't even a question but his mum didn't raise me