To not want to share my inheritance equaly

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My half brother who I love dearly wants me to share my inheritance with him, he says my mum told him she would share it half half. That's not what she told me. Mum had passed away so we can't clarify now.
He received an inheritance from his mum that he didn't share.

I'm happy to give him a share but I feel half is too much. I don't want yo fall out with him but I feel it's unfair. AIBU?

Buy him take away. Job done imo. My dc have different df's and I would never expect them to share monies... Ds's df died last year. He wasted the lot as was his right...
If your dm meant him to have a penny she would have left a will. He is a chancer.. Bet if you have him any you wouldn't see him for dust after that.

I don't understand why you are making a drama of it? He didn't share his, so don't share yours? What's your issue?

Why? Just why?
She was your Mum and Gran not his so he has no claim on it. I wouldn't give him a penny!

What sort of amount are you talking about?

I assume your Grandmother would not have wanted you to share the money.

I'd probably give my brother a bit of money as I would want to share something with him. You say you love him dearly so I assume a gift from a potentially large windfall wouldn't be strange.

It’s irrelevant whether or not your mother promised him half. It’s an inheritance from your grandmother and she has left it to you, not to him. Did she even know him?

Well if you love him and it's a lot of money give him a generous gift.

Surely your grandparents updated their will when your mother died and therefore that's pretty watertight.

If they didn't speak for 20 years then exactly when did she tell him about getting half. If the inheritance is actually coming directly to you from your maternal grandparents then it was their decision who it goes to and that is you. How would they feel about some of it ending up with their step grandson, what sort of a relationship was there between them?

I’m confused about the tumultuous relationship between your mum and half-brother with them not speaking for 20 years and then your mum promising half the inheritance to him. That doesn’t quite add up. My feeling is that he’s just made that up.

OK, I’m baffled now.

Your dad left only debt, but is now telling you what to do with your money?

Your half-brother is claiming your mum told him he’d get a share of her money, which she didn’t actually have as she pre-deceased your grandmother?

Why you you give him anything?

Easy for me to say from here, but just put the money away, don’t give him anything.

tell him in being processed and you won’t have it for a few years and see then what his reaction is.

if your mother wanted him to have it, she would have made a will. Like his mother did.

You should do what your mother wanted.

He didn't share his, I wouldn't share mine.

I think it's more like he feels it's payback from my mum's mistreatment

Was he aware that your grandparents were going to leave money to your Mum?

Call me an old cynic but his re-appearance was very well timed. Could your Dad be supporting his claim because he wants to get his hands on some of the money?

Inheritance is one of the best ways to find out what your family relationships are really like.

Is your dad alive? You said in pp that "he left nothing but debts".

Your mum was not his mum, and they didn't speak for 20 years - why would you give him anything?

gotcha

Nope. Don't be a mug.

Yes basically, he says she told him that when she inherited from my gran she would give him half

Why would you give him any?!

Honestly women are their own worst enemy 🙄

Your mum and grandparents wanted you to have it, they would have said in a will if they didn’t.

Men feel EXTREMELY entitled to women’s money, don’t take their entitlement as a right!!

So you haven't actually inherited this money from your mum, but from your maternal grandparents? It was never your mum's money, and has nothing whatsoever to do with your half brother or your dad? If so, neither of their opinions are relevant.

You say you feel inclined to give him something, but you'd be foolish to do so. He was not inclined to share with you, so why give him the benefit when he wasn't willing to reciprocate?

Do you have children? Would you rather give to your half brother a their expense? A half brother who didn't speak to your mother for 20 years? It's madness to even consider it and your dad your be ashamed for encouraging this.

He’s lying.

I thought you said he was dead. As in you said he only left debts.

what everyone else has said.
Dont give it another thought.
”I’m following my mums wishes, as you did with your mums inheritance. Pls don’t make this uncomfortable or about you”

So.........is your Dad alive or not??
He can't be dead and have left nothing but debt then you say he's telling you to share some of the inheritance with your brother. Am I missing something?

Op has also said her dad has an opinion and they've discussed this, so sounds like he's still alive.

I see, it's one of these threads. Where we have to tease the story out of the OP because it's all about drama and attention.

Not for me thanks <closes door quietly on the way out>