To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

[Rosebyanothername19]

I wfh full time and have to juggle picking up DC and taking to after school clubs etc. So don't have a huge amount of time for shopping/cooking delicious home made meals from scratch.

I managed to do a quick weekly shop the other day but was running out of ideas for dinners and grabbed a packet of something on offer that you just chuck all the ingredients in a bag and cook so it's nice and easy to prep and I can leave cooking while I do other stuff. We have had a couple in the past and my DH has said he didn't really like them, but this was was more Italian based which we eat a lot of so hoped it would be OK.

So tonight he sits down to dinner and just pulled a face and said I'm not eating this. I'll just make a sandwich. This caused my DC to say I don't want it either!

I managed to convince my DC to eat it and they enjoyed it, but my DH just sat there with a full plate and a face on.

I've gone to take DC to bed and he has gone to the shop to buy a pizza.

AIBU: I shouldn't have cooked it if there was a chance he wouldn't like it, forcing him to get his own dinner

Or

NBU: He should have eaten it and said maybe don't get that again?

Someone has gone to the effort of making a meal for you
Put on a brave face and eat it with a smile and a compliment for the cook
It's called manners and not thinking the world revolves around you

This

Just get gousto or hello fresh etc. Let everyone pick the meals on it each week and then since it has a recipe to follow and it's all pre measured he can cook it without moaning.

They taste like shit

As in that's his issue. I personally don't mind them

Tell him as he's not liking your choice he's now free to do 50% of the family meals here's the shopping list add your ingredients for the dishes you want to cook.

I would be furious if any adult behaved like this in front of my DC let alone their father.

Not every meal has to be enjoyed or even eaten but it does need to be appreciated and the person who made it respected.

This.
He can plan, shop and cook for every other night from now on.

@Rosebyanothername19 maybe because DH has told you previously that he didn't like this sort of meal (although it was a different flavour or meal or whatever this time round) he probably felt you dismissed his expressed dislike. Could it be that the whole 'cook in a bag' thing is the issue...so regardless of different meal choice, it's the concept itself that he doesn't like???

I was brought up in a house where you ate what you were given, and you ate it all up. I have bad memories of chasing cold peas around a plate, unable to leave the table until I had finished. Shudder. I still harbour some feelings of guilt that will see me "try" a meal even if I don't like it.

DH also has issues with food from his childhood but he has taken the opposite stance, whereby he is "now an adult" and can therefore refuse to eat food if he doesn't want to, whether he likes it or not, it's his choice.

I've learnt to live with it. The one thing I will never do is turn mealtimes into a battleground. And I now encourage DH to do most of the cooking, so at least there's a good chance that he'll eat it!

Sorry, duplicate post!

It is very disrespectful to the chicken

I was brought up in a house where you ate what you were given, and you ate it all up I believe current thinking is we should listen to our bodies more

Does he work the hours to avoid life or is it really needed?

I would not cook another meal for him until the landing, shopping and cooking was evenly shared.

My god another thread about a man who doesn't pull his weight around the house. When will they end?

The meal sounded fine, all food groups represented. It's not fine that he's treating you like a household slave though.

He's being ridiculous, I've had those maggi bag meals and whilst they're not the most exciting thing I've eaten, they are perfectly good for a quick no fuss evening meal served with sides.

Op I think know the type of all in one bags you mean.

Can I say in our house we don't like them when we put all the veg and things in with the (normally chicken) BUT the chicken in the bag with the seasoning on its own it's bloody lovely. I find the veg in the bag too makes the whole thing a bit watery and dulls down the flavors.

He can make his own fucking dinner in future. It’s not a restaurant, there’s no menu choice.

Ugh. I call that being deceptive and lying. It always bites you in the arse because then the person who cooked it for you will cook it again and again and when you finally crack and admit it’s like pig slops to you and you can’t stomach it, they will be understandably hurt about being lied to over and over by your smiling, complimenting fakery previously and then they will wonder what else you have lied about and gaslit them into thinking you like, when you actually hate it,

Honesty is the bedrock of a relationship. Without it, there is no real trust.

Tell him next week he's in charge of cooking and shopping, you'll do the week afterwards.

@Lovebeingamummy2

I don't put veg in either, I roast the veg separately then mix with the couscous with juice and zest of a lemon

Tangent, but I always worry about what crap leaches out of these plastic bags when you cook them. Is it just me?

Anyway, back to the point...

I don't really get his issue
It's a quick meal, we can't eat our favourite food every day but it's hot and edible so I would just eat it and say thank you and then after maybe say I wasn't too keen on it

It's not like you gave him a weird combination of food or something he absolutely couldn't eat
I've cooked stuff for myself before that hasn't turned out the best but still eaten it as couldn't afford to waste the food

He will just have to lower his working hours next week then since he’s dinner dad. My Dh and I would both work longer hours than we do. But we have kids and unlike your Dh we accept that means parenting them. Not expecting your wife to be your service human and work full time while looking after the kids and the house and him like she’s a sahm. I like this man less and less. In my house he’d have had his last meal cooked and his last sock washed decades ago.