DH's scruffy friend

[ScruffinessIsContagious]

Mostly lighthearted but I'm also curious.

For the past 6+ years, we’ve been a group of 5. A few months ago, one of DH’s childhood mates came back to oz after spending a couple of years abroad, and we’ve since been a band of 6. We all just got back from a week-long city break, and looking through the photos, her scruffiness is apparent and it actually really bothers me. I know the reasons definitely aren’t financial so I was wondering why.

Her “uniform” (even when not on vacation) consists of chino shorts, oversized tees, and sandals. That’s it. She wore that to museums, walks around the city, fancy cafes, and even restaurants??!! I’m not a fashionista but surely there’s a time and place for a nice dress, some slim-fit trousers and a fitted top, or even a button-down linen shirt to go with her shorts? She’s very slim so surely it’s easy to find clothes that fit? Saw her after work once and she wore a tee, oversized “parachute trousers”, and huge sneakers so it’s not just us she doesn’t smarten up for!

AIBU to wonder why someone would choose to be like that?

That makes a LOT of sense! In looks, clothes, work hours, home presentation.. Damn.

By ''Scruffy'' I was assuming dirty and unkempt, not someone wearing loose, clean, comfy clothing.

YABVVVU.

Are you jealous that your husband has a female friend? The fashion at the moment is the oversized look so perhaps she is more of a "fashionista" than you.

Is she actually dirty? Unwashed clothes? Greasy hair? Stinky pits?

If not, you are being very unreasonable. She is wearing what she is comfortable in - and good fr her.

Oh, mate...

Are you also uncomfortable with men who dress casually? Or is it just women?

OP, she sounds uncouth! Just leave her outside with a nosebag next time you go out for a meal. She's really letting the side down.

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Good god. Get your head out of your arse. A lot of us wouldn't be seen dead in a "nice dress". I wouldn't, I'd feel like I had to shave my bloody legs, to avoid comments from judgemental cows like you!
I'd much rather hang out with her than you, maybe your husband feels the same? Can't help but think that's what your problem is.

You sound like one of those 'mean girls' from school OP.

I always find it weird when I head grown adults complaining about other peoples fashion choices.

What a weird post.

If she is wearing clothes she finds comfy I do no see the problem

But then that is me you are pretty much describing cos I live in shorts and T-shirt and hoody due to sensory issues. As I get older I really do no care as much what other peoples think maybe

OP seems to have gone missing....

aussie mumsnetters, please can you look out for a lady wearing slim fit chinos and tops/linen button downs? be especially suspicious if they have a particularly sour look on their face as if they are chewing on limes

My ex housemate also spent a year in Aus, when she got it back unless it was cold or raining or an occasion she was permanently in leggings, flip flops and T-Shirt/Hoodies.

She always looked happy and comfortable and it was a nice thing that rubbed off on me too. I envied her relaxation towards clothing.

I dress badly most of the time. It's because I don't at all value using clothes to perform some sort of social expectation. Hope that helps.

I would like her as a friend

You don’t sound very nice…

She dresses for comfort, not to impress other people.

She sounds great. Have a think about why this bothers you so much? Are you generally insecure?

She could have sensory issues and sticks to what she knows is comfortable for her.

Do you realise how unpleasant you sound OP?

@ScruffinessIsContagious
L.o.l 🤣
are you the famous Samatha Brick fame from several years ago,

Just 🤔 wondering,

Title of Daily mail 📰 🗞 article new paper article,

Why my female friends are so jealous of me cause i am so pretty,

Created a media frenzy at that time

#teamdhfriend

Why does it matter?

I wear jeans and a nerdy t-shirt at all times because that's what I feel comfortable in. Short of a job interview or a wedding / funeral you ain't getting me in anything smarter.

I'm comfy, I waste precisely none of my life wondering what to wear.

It never stopped me finding a romantic partner, I'm in a decently paid high level position at work, and the kind of people who wouldn't take me seriously because of the way I dress aren't people I want to talk to anyway.

I'm sure there are people who look ate and think "What a scruffy fucker", but they're the only ones experiencing their negativity so what do I care?

She just sounds like she's an engineer or works in tech.

You’re in Australia? And its summer in Australia currently.

Shorts/t shirt/loose fitting clothes sound fairly sensible to me 😆