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To be put off bloke for silly reason?

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SmellyFrenchyBum · 04/03/2024 06:51

Been seeing someone for a few weeks, we went to cinema at weekend and at the end of the film he stood up and clapped. A few people were staring at him and laughing - I was mortified and I know it’s a stupid reason but it’s really given me the “ick”. I don’t know why it’s got to me so much. I guess I’m being unreasonable? In hindsight there have been other examples of him drawing attention to himself and I just find it really embarrassing and it makes me uncomfortable. I’m extremely introverted which obviously doesn’t help!

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Willmafrockfit · 04/03/2024 08:42
Blush cringe
Grimchmas · 04/03/2024 08:42

determinedtomakethiswork · 04/03/2024 07:40

Was it all of us strangers? I know people were clapping that. Or Vanya?

Have they been? I've seen All of us Strangers, and I find it so weird that people might clap. The mood it ends on is of reflection, not one that inspires applause, IMO!

The Barbie movie is the only one i can think of that I might make an exception for - although it would also be even more cringe if it was a solo male clapping for that, but at least in that film I would have hoped that others might join in. But since that's no longer showing in cinemas...

AliceAforethought · 04/03/2024 08:45

Oh my god no, that's not a silly reason! I'd have cringed myself inside out if I'd been with him!

And as others have said, you'd be forever nervous, waiting for the next mortifying display.

Loubelle70 · 04/03/2024 08:48

🤣🫢 sorry OP but i did find it funny way you put it across.
Was he doing it seriously or as a laugh?

RenoDakota · 04/03/2024 08:59

That is not a silly reason, OP. I have the ick for you!

Willmafrockfit · 04/03/2024 09:09

did other people join in?

DesignForLife01 · 04/03/2024 09:12

He didn’t have to stand up did he? I’ve never seen anyone do that in the cinema! Some people love drawing attention to themselves.

CuriousWhy · 04/03/2024 09:13

I would be the same OP. You can’t get past this.

IncompleteSenten · 04/03/2024 09:13

It's not a silly reason.
He's shown you he's an idiot.
Nobody wants to date an idiot.

phoenixrosehere · 04/03/2024 09:18

KrisAkabusi · 04/03/2024 07:55

Is be American? That's normal behaviour there.

It is highly dependent on the movies.

If there is a monologue that really resonates, there maybe clapping, or if it was one of the big blockbusters and people really loved it, they will clap and leave. It is not an every movie thing.

LegoNinjago · 04/03/2024 09:39

Is he related to MN poster who screamed in the Sistine Chapel?🤣

Moveoverdarlin · 04/03/2024 09:42

You’re entirely justified, that would put me off.

Cuppachuchu · 04/03/2024 09:47

LegoNinjago · 04/03/2024 09:39

Is he related to MN poster who screamed in the Sistine Chapel?🤣

I've never read the Sistine Chapel thread, can you give me a link?

Cuppachuchu · 04/03/2024 09:48

OP, it would put me off too. What film was it?

CaramelMac · 04/03/2024 10:29

There are no silly reasons to be put off someone, trust your gut, he’s not the one for you.

BippityBoppityFuck · 04/03/2024 10:32

Is this the same guy that did a toe jabby run in the supermarket?

ChristianHornersGlisteningFinger · 04/03/2024 10:33

A few weeks? At that stage in a relationship, if his hands at the end of the film were anywhere other than all over me, ready to make a quick exit for the nearest bed for a shag, I’d be doubting it had a future.

I have a fond memory of going to the cinema once with a new squeeze and not even making it past the opening credits 😀.

I so what to know what film this was..

EmmaEmerald · 04/03/2024 10:35

determinedtomakethiswork · 04/03/2024 07:40

Was it all of us strangers? I know people were clapping that. Or Vanya?

I was thinking the exact same thing!

fortifiedwithtea · 04/03/2024 10:46

Maybe its the norm where he grew up?

Whenever Fatal Attraction was the The Film to see in the 1980’s I was dating a man from Surrey. We watched the film in Ewell (I think it was). Anyway at the end of the film 2 things happened. 1. A standing ovation at the end of the film. Baffled me , I was thinking why the actors can’t hear the appreciation. 2 The National Anthem played and we all stood in silence. Coming from Essex it all seems bizarre to me.

Or maybe , OP the film stirred strong emotion in him and he expressed it by clapping?

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SmellyFrenchyBum · 04/03/2024 10:56

It was Dune. And no, nobody else joined in. Mortified.

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JonVoightBaddyWhoGrowls · 04/03/2024 11:01

You can end a relationship for whatever reason you like. The entire point of early dating is to get to know someone, starting with the superficial. And if you aren't even superficially compatible, what's the point of going further?

WandaWonder · 04/03/2024 11:04

Well if it is OK for him to stop seeing you because he doesn't like the way you hold a fork or doesn't like the colour of your car type reasons then sure go with it

Chunkycookie · 04/03/2024 11:07

Oh dear God.

I would have broken a leg running to get out of there.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/03/2024 11:11

I hate drawing attention to myself. Before I knew what I was doing, I leapt up and clapped wildly at the end of a fantastic play.

Felt like such a dick. Didn’t know what to do then so continued until everyone else stood for main players at least a minute later.

So, I’d give him another chance.