To be put off bloke for silly reason?

[SmellyFrenchyBum]

Been seeing someone for a few weeks, we went to cinema at weekend and at the end of the film he stood up and clapped. A few people were staring at him and laughing - I was mortified and I know it’s a stupid reason but it’s really given me the “ick”. I don’t know why it’s got to me so much. I guess I’m being unreasonable? In hindsight there have been other examples of him drawing attention to himself and I just find it really embarrassing and it makes me uncomfortable. I’m extremely introverted which obviously doesn’t help!

I remember once in the 80’s (good films back then!) I went to see Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom in Brighton. The cinema was full of foreign students, I have never been to a film showing with so much audience participation. They were all whooping, cheering, whistling and stamping feet everytime Harrison Ford did any remotely heroic stunt and full on standing ovation at the end It was bloody brilliant, never been to anything like it since.

A one man standing ovation, no. Get rid.

Definitely YANBU! Went on a cinema date once, and the guy I was with was VERY into the Indiana Jones film we (well, more him) had chosen to see. So much so that he would comment out loud or cheer. First time he did it, I thought 'ahh bit embarrassing but kinda cute?' By the time the credits rolled I knew there wouldn't be another date 😂

He's annoying

If it was Dune 2, I’d would have stood up and clapped as well.

Well, sometimes that’s fun. I was once at a student Singalong Sound of Music where an entire faction of girls dressed up as Brown Paper Packages Tied Up With String decided to cheer for the Baroness throughout, deciding she’d been ill-used, had lovely clothes, and couldn’t be blamed for not being interested in the children, as Captain Von Trapp hadn’t been either. She got massive cheers every time she appeared, and Maria got hissed more than the Nazis, the filthy minx.

@Cheville 😂 😂

Bail out now. It won’t get better

Why?

Clapping at the end of a movie in a cinema is very strange, the actors etc aren’t even going to be aware of the applause….at the end of a theatre performance it would be understandable …. Is he continually doing odd things

If he's American or it was live streaming of a theatre performance (like NT live) I wouldn't mind.

Otherwise I'd find it a bit odd. I don't like clapping in aeroplanes either.

Only film I’ve been at where literally all the audience clapped was Jagged Edge back in the 80s

You'd hate me then! I love the cinema. At the end of One Love me and my daughter danced our way out singing and clapping. Sometimes at the end of an amazing film I clap or hug myself. I do it to release emotion, not to applaud the actors/director/sound engineer etc

But if something your date does gives you the ick absolutely drop them.

My hubby was embarrassed by my cinema antics. He stopped going to the movies with me after year 1.. 20 years later and he still hates the cinema. Different strokes, but no ick.

It is even stranger on a date with someone you do not know well, reeks of showing off.

I would have been out the cinema before he stopped clapping

I'm struggling to see the silly reason here. he behaved like an utter tube. That is an incredibly valid reason for being put off him in my book. Add to that, if he can be a complete throbber in the very early days of you seeing each other, just think what's to come when he feels more comfortable around you.

I do not think any reason is silly if you are put off by someone on a date.

If they ain't for you then they ain't for you

If it was either of these… I’d happily let this go… just this once mind!!

Just wanted to say your post made me laugh out loud, and I’m still sniggering when I think of the colourful way you describe him as ‘an utter tube’ and ‘a complete throbber’. Even laughing now as I type this. Don’t know why, just thought you should know !!

I remember going to see fatal attraction. The audience applauded when Alex was shot in the bathtub !!

Sounds familiar, I used to want the ground to swallow me, cudnt understand why a grown man would want to draw attention to himself, or shouting across a shop, being overly loud in ques, I'm introvert an suffer with anxiety I couldn't do it very long made me hate leaving the house with him I'd cringe every time we went anywhere. Move on ..... X

In the early 1990s I went to see The Crying Game in London with an Italian friend and when the Big Shocking Reveal happened and the whole audience gasped and went silent, he said (quite loudly) "What is wrong with the British? Have they never seen a transvestite before? It was so obvious!" This caused such outrage (though not from me, as I was too busy laughing) that we left the cinema and had to go back to see the end.

On another occasion he found something in a film so utterly ludicrous (it was meant to be serious) that he actually fell out of his seat trying to suppress his laughter. I wish I could remember what that was. Needless to say, 30 years on we are still close friends.

Too right!

I was one of them 😂

Yeah find a middle ground, probably just like the confused.com
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if it's a good play or music show then that's alright , otherwise yeah talking is a bit much especially with a movie .

Getting Scottish vibes here. My Glaswegian friend called people 'tubes' , although more extreme cases were relegated to 'duck egg'.

Guilty as charged. Don't live there anymore but to paraphrase an old saying "you can take the boy out of Glasgow but you can't take Glasgow out the boy".