DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Why did you scream? Not criticising just trying to understand

Surely you can help screaming.

You screamed at the Michelangelo? Screamed?

I get the overwhelmed by emotion (maybe small tear in eye) but if you're weeping to the point people need to comfort you it does seem a bit OTT...

Erm. Screaming at stuff is weird yes.

You screamed in the Sistine chapel?? I think you should seek professional help, it sounds as if your DH has tried to be supportive but can no longer cope

Did you mean "streaming"? Because if you screamed at it, you definitely are a liability lol.

Plenty of people are moved by the arts. Nothing wrong with that.

What the hell. Sorry but your post really made me laugh. I'm with your DH, you need to get a grip.

Ok, I was with you on this, I cried a little at the coliseum too, but more at Pompeii. Until I got to the screaming bit, did you mean to type screaming?

I would suggest a bit of counseling to find out why you cannot control yourself in public.

Screaming at the MA? Really?

I'm sure there's some deeper issue here, and it's not "just who you are", there are loads of very sensitive people out there who manage to keep themselves together in public, so I would encourage you to explore that with a licensed counsellor or therapist.

I’m sorry OP I’m sure you’re lovely but reacting like that would piss me off too

Yes, that's a bit ott.

I would let you go round alone and meet you at the exit once you'd composed yourself tbh.

Well it was almost a scream. I was totally blown away by it and ended up wailing. DH said I was screaming but he's probably exagurating.

Oh dear. Sorry, OP, but that made me laugh. Screaming at the Michelangelo???? Lord.

If you were bad enough for 'a number of tourists' to intervene, you must have been pretty embarrassing.

Sorry. I can see your dh's point. It's normal to be moved by art, and perhaps even to shed a few tears at one particularly wonderful piece, but to constantly be weeping at everything you see? Sounds OTT.

WTF screamed? Sorry, whilst I understand to a point getting a little teary at times, fucking screaming at an artwork is attention seeking shite, and of course you can control it.

Well ehrm, from what you've written yes it all sounds a bit over the top and I'd be embarrassed too. Is there some typos. Screaming at Michael Angelo isn't sensitive it sounds a bit unhinged.

To be honest, I’d be really embarrassed by someone screaming at the MichaelAngelo.
I understand emotion, maybe a quiet tear, but crying to the extent that strangers had to console is OTT.

Yup, agree with your poor dh - it’s dramatic and attention seeking to cry at paintings, especially to the point that strangers have to look after you. Either pack it in, or let your dh enjoy these things without you.

Oh my god I couldn't go anywhere with you. You need to get a grip.

Right-o
Your poor DH.

you screamed?!? Blimey, I would be embarrassed if my DH just started screaming at a painting or something. Why on earth did you scream? I can understand crying at musicals or ballet, I cry at films all the time.. screaming is a new one though.

Sorry, I can't stop laughing at the image of someone screaming at the Michelangelo. I can understand the rest, as I sometimes find stuff upsetting, but I have never felt the need to scream at or near a painting.

If I remember correctly, they have a policy of silence in the Sistine chapel. A few tears, fine, but you're publicly humiliating your husband.

Sorry OP, but if you wailed at a piece of art and had a bunch of tourists trying to console you, I'd probably walk away too.

Are you sure you and DP are really compatible?