To say F** OFF!!

[zunchie]

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

You do sound weirdly sensitive. To me it sounds like your friend has a dry sense of humour, and was just teasing a little.
Best response is a wry smile, which will no doubt remind her to book a top lip wax. 😂

Is this a joke? You sound bonkers.

OP, are you in a group of friends? Or just you two?

She has been typing for the past 20 minutes

OP I do like people like you. However, you too are just not compatible and that is okay.

People who exaggerate facial expressions generally don’t get along with those you are very serious/who look down on others and vice versa.

Two^

You’re extremely defensive - why?

Have you actually thought OP that maybe your lip filler and Turkey teeth don’t actually look so great, you seem very assured of your own superior good looks is there a chance you might be wrong, you’ve been very insulting about your friend.
And that message !!

👀

Why are you sitting in a cafe pouting your lips?

This is called a duck face.

Be careful OP, your friend may shoot you 😉😁

Well this oughta be good.. 🍿

I am waaaaay too invested in this...

OMG

You need to grow up. You sound absolutely unhinged!

I hope your friend fucks you off, drama llama or what!

On the surface of it it does appear that Op's mate's remarks could be completely harmless HOWEVER we were not there and facial expressions (the friend that is 😂) give a lot of context. Only the OP knows if she is being honest and rational with herself.

Your first mistake was posting on here at the weekend, when mumsnetter’s have a lot of time on their hands.

Your second was tearing your friends appearance down, but still expecting her to fluff up your ego.

If this isn’t a wind up then you sound incredibly insecure and high maintenance. Maybe think about some introspection and possible therapy.

Youth and beauty standards are very fleeting, concentrate on building the foundations of your personality so you can be a kinder friend.

Can you tell her to hurry up, The Great Pottery Throwdown is on at 7-45

Jesus Christ, I'm not surprised. She won't know what to reply to your absolute craziness 😂 she's probably laughing to much to type a coherent reply

But not to you I expect..

Me too!

I just need to know if this is a wind up.

Why is the text signed off as "you"

I'm way to invested.

You are aware that the app shows typing in general not whether it is being typed in response to you specifically?

Please stop obsessing over this, stop looking at your screen and take a walk.

The Drama triangle springs to mind. See link below. Whether intended or not, the accusation/assumption of jealousy or “having a problem with you” has changed what could have been a “neutral/curious enquiry” into an accusation/attack (moving around the Drama triangle, you’ve shifted yourself from the “victim state” to the “persecutor state” rather than stepping out of the Drama triangle altogether and engaging with open, adult communication). I’ll leave this here along with at outline of different communication styles. And then I’ll back off because I can feel myself being drawn into taking the “Rescuer” role (I’m owning that internal response because it is mine) and that wouldn’t be helpful for either of us (e.g. it could cause you to shift yourself back into the “victim position”rather than step out of the Drama triangle for yourself)https://www.gtcs.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/use-of-the-empowerment-dynamic-drama-triangle.pdf and https://www.brightnetwork.co.uk/graduate-career-advice/world-of-work/communication-styles-in-the-workplace/

@MrsLeonFarrell I didn't know that.

She could be typing to another friend about the message asking what they thought.

This is a brilliant thread for a boring Sunday evening! I know you're having a laugh op and I'm enjoying your responses. Can't wait for your 'friend's' reply🤣