To say F** OFF!!

[zunchie]

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

OP scratches her crotch:

”Ooh, that reminds me - my flaps are desperate for a waxing”.

Yikes! I think this is about to explode a whole lot more than lip fillers!

This has to be a wind up. This can't be a real thing.

@MadAntonia Not necessarily. Some adults make funny faces. It’s part of their sense of humour.

It’s just pure childish though, it isn’t humorous. Especially in a cafe when two adults are trying to have coffee/lunch.

If I was out for lunch with an adult friend and they started randomly pouting/gurning mid conversation I’d be confused.

How do you even begin to respond to a message like that out of the blue?!!

She'll either be:
a) Laughing her head off
b) Worried about mental health
c) Genuinely taking you seriously and will be hurt

I'd be wondering if you were on glue.

That message is 😂but also totally 😬

You're coming across as more than a little self-obsessed, OP.

Why do people who criticise you automatically have to be jealous? It's a weird stance to take. Have you even considered that you might have been annoying her?

I can't be the only one who's been sat here pouting and gurning to myself trying to work out in what context you'd be doing that mid conversation?

I did it as well
My DD walked in the room and asked me if I was in pain

Are you a horse?

Neigh

OP I can only imagine you’re a very insecure person and very jealous of this woman.

It sounds as though this woman saw you as a friend and it’s quite a shame for you (possibly not for her) that you are ruining a friendship over your insecurities and jealousy of her.

Yeah right so she kept doing this and I was like wow and she was like what and I was like no way and she was like yeah and I was like woah!

Sorry but she's a weirdo and needs to sort herself. If you really are a good friend, just tell her (nicely)

I dunno if it's just because I've had a glass of wine but that made me lol

The message you sent your friend is out of order.
if it were me, I’d ignore you and never talk to you again!

I'm afraid you are mad, or at least slightly paranoid. Sorry love, have a think x

OP could you please post pics of you pouting and showing your teeth.
We will all be able to see how hilariously amusing you are.
We will all be in hysterics.

You are being very misunderstood on here.
ATB.

You can't equate her needing chapstick with her thinking that you need chapstick (I presume this is why you're upset). You just pouted your lips ergo what goes on lips? chapstick/lipstick/lip gloss.

Your message you sent was rude and sounds like you are trying to stir up some shit

Good point. Unless she was taking selfies?

Too - many - responses....

Could she not have seen your lips and reflected that she needs to apply her chapstick as hers are lacking your sheen, same with your veneers - the fact you've taken offense to it seems to suggest some deep insecurities on your part, which is sad but nothing to do with her being jealous.

Duckface and Chapstick

Sounds like 2024 version of Cagney and Lacey

I mean, did she REALLY say "Oh that reminds me, I must put on my chapstick/call the dentist". Who even talks like that? It reads like the clunky dialogue form a really badly written, Year 8 school play.

You are at pains to tell us that you were havng a laugh and pulling faces OP. If you were, then why not just ask her "Oi cheeky - what do you mean by that?"

I can't get my head around the drama about nothing