To say F** OFF!!

[zunchie]

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

really really hoping mumsnet doesn't delete this thread...

Does she give vibes of not liking you? If so, stop hanging out with her.
If she is a friend, see it with kindness and don't assume she was trying to be insulting

Thank you, I have just sent her a message on whatsapp. She hasn't read it yet.

What did you say? What did you say?

It sounds as though you may have drawn attention to your appearance in the past (teeth and lips) and she's got fed up of it. Maybe you have come across superior as you have already implied that you are more attractive than her and you think she's jealous of you.

If you are always pulling faces when out she is trying to find a way of letting you know it bothers her. She is being silly by making digs instead of just saying it's annoying her.

I don't know why you are friends

How do you pout when talking?

OP, maybe she thought you were being embarrassing. You can have a good time without pulling faces.

Raspberry. No, that's the trifle, not the noise I'm making at you.

Why were you pouting at her?
If one of my mates was pouting at me, there is no way I would say "oh you have nice lips".
I would likely laugh and say "are you alright mate?"

Why on earth would you anticpate her saying that she wants filler?!

You are coming across as very odd.
I imagine your friend has had a gutful of your performative gurning.

This is hilarious, it's like a sketch by the late, great Victoria Wood and Julie Walters.

I'm so tempted to ask if your teeth were still in your mouth when you stuck them out (whoops, sorry OP) 😆😆

Seriously does nobody here make jokes with their friends?

Well, yes. Don't you think she could be teasing you? In which case it isn't such a big deal is it? Your being very sensitive. Could have just poked a bit of fun at yourself and carried on but instead your stewing and angry - that's a choice you've made.

I must admit this thread has got slightly funnier now.

Im loving how the main character takes herself and all comments so seriously, like everything is all about her. Very good 😂

Not necessarily. Some adults make funny faces. It’s part of their sense of humour.

OP - trust your instinct. If you think your friend is making digs at your expense, she probably is. Don’t second-guess yourself. Jokes that treat someone else’s appearance as a reference point are tacky and nasty. If she is otherwise a good friend, have a quiet word. Explain you’d rather she didn’t make remarks like that. Otherwise, stop spending time with her.

Big hugs and good luck. 💓💓💓

Shamelessly hanging on for the friend's response

31 going on 13...

OP try not to pout and bare your teeth the next time you see her and she probably won't comment
You're probably embarrassing her and she's trying to diffuse the situation
(Or is it a sort of 'interpretive dance' to showcase your tweakments? 🤔)
All in all
It's all very strange!

👀

I unsent my old message and sent a new one and she's read it right away but hasn't responded.

Are you jealous of her?

It sounds like it.

It sounds like you don’t even like her so I don’t know why you’re even ‘friends’ with her.

You admit you were the one pouting your lips etc and drawing attention to them, so I can’t see why you think she’s trying to have a dig at you.

If you did think she was being a bitch and having a dig/being rude, then surely you would have called her out on it/asked what she meant by it.

Well, there's a friendship that won't see Easter...

I'm really hoping this is a wind up now. If not I can't believe you said that to her.

#punchupintheplaygroundtomorrow

Where's the part of the message where, in the interests of transparency, you told her that 88% of voters on Mumsnet think you're a nutter?

No you’re not getting it! I’m not being nasty and I don’t think she was! If you’re pulling funny faces, just seeing your teeth maybe made her think of the dentist! Doesn’t mean anything against you… it wasn’t like she was saying ‘my god your teeth are awful, I must get mine checked!’ Sounds like you’re insecure.

😂😂this is going in classics, surely!

The OP should go for lunch with the Sistine Chapel Screamer

I hope the friend is an MNer.