To say F** OFF!!

[zunchie]

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

Being goofy with your mate is cool but talk about an overreaction on your part OP. Is she one of those "friends" you don't actually like?

Well, I've heard rumours...but let's keep quiet for OP's sanity 🤫

One interpretation OP, is that you are highly critical of yourself, and others, but don't realise/won't admit that about yourself, and so you attribute all the judgements you notice to others and declare them the judgemental person. Does that sound plausible? It might be worth investing in some therapy. Your worldview can't be very nice for yourself (or others) to live with.

Pouting and “sticking” teeth out across the table to your mate isn’t part of a normal adult interaction though. It’s what children do.

Was the trifle* *strawberry or fruit cocktail?

You can say 'lesbian' on here btw

Or M&S chocolate trifle?!

No facial expressions = no talking? Even celebrities who have over botoxed their faces manage to use words. Most of us use our mouths to talk rather than pout or pull teeth. Have you tried just talking without pulling faces?

But they aren't normal facial expressions though, are they?

I know you e had a good ribbing on here but your expressions seem odd.

The only thing I can think of is that you'd put your phone camera on selfie mode and did that silly thing that so many young people do these days, which is to pout while ruffling your fringe and hair. It's such a daft look and utterly vain and I wish it would stop.
The other thing I think you did was to pull your lips back to check your teeth for spinach etc...

You really don't need to do these things and I expect that your exaggerated faces just jolted these reminders to your friend.

The only other explanation is that you keep doing these vanity checks and she is , no so subtly , trying to tell you to stop doing them.

What did she do wrong? I don't get it 🤷‍♀️

Can't everyone?

But accurate?

They do have a certain...look

We don’t know OP was talking… it could have just been silent faces, like a really bad AmDram Matinée

Stop messing with people’s heads, it’s not fair. Everyone, back off the ledge. There is no such thing as l*sbians. Be cool.

I think the friend may just have a sarcastic/dry sense of humour rather than being mean. If this is real

It sounds like your friend is probably trying to communicate something to you through her responses/behaviour. If it’s not clear what she is trying to tell you, ask her. How about saying something like “I’ve noticed a few times now that when I’ve made my usual expressive faces during our conversations, you have immediately mentioned it’s reminded you to do something related to your own face (maybe give the examples here if she’s not sure what you mean). Does seeing me pout genuinely remind you to put on chapstick, or are you trying to hint at something or tell me something? If it’s the latter, I’m not sure what you are trying to let me know and I would appreciate you just telling me straight. We’re too old to be playing guessing games”.

The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips

Why were you doing that? Were you taking selfies?

This thread really is hilarious. Thank you for the laugh and jokes ladies. I’ve not laughed so much in ages.

I also think this is about you, not your friend op. How you see yourself. The fact you’re criticising her looks is an indicator.

I don't know?

Lesbian lesbian lesbian lesbian <awaits spontaneous combustion>.

I don't even know what that means but when you talk you don't just sit there like a robot. You move your face around and actually have a conversation. Its not a charlie chaplin film.

I'd be telling you to fuck off to be honest if I was sitting opposite you 🙄

Becuase im moving my face a bit? And I'm the one with 'anger issues'

Thank you, I have just sent her a message on whatsapp. She hasn't read it yet.