Handbags In Tables

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AIBU to be really wound up at women putting their handbags on tables in the restaurant?

it’s a real bug bear of mine. I find It extremely rude

Basic etiquette? Says who?

My bags don't go on floors. Many people on here have said the same.

Even at home they live on shelves. Why would I put a bag on the floor of public transport? Why wouldn't you just put your bag on your lap? I can't think where or why I would put a handbag or shoulder bag on the floor.

Giant tote bags would go on some floors (in houses. In an office) but not on pedestrian parts of floors and never on public transport or toilets. They also live on shelves at home

Filthy commoners are unlikely to have spend thousands on their bags. It's the upper middle classes who would have the sorts of bags that would never go in a floor.

ON a floor*

What insane person puts handbag on toilet floor🤢

Surprised at the posts where ‘handbags on restaurant tables’ had found nothing on google. I just googled it and every site says ‘no’! It’s unhygienic and causes clutter.

I get more offended at people changing their baby on a restaurant table than a handbag.

A few restaurants I’ve been to bring over a little handbag table to put it on next to you.

Or change your search terms 😊
https://www.google.com/search?q=is+it+rude+to+put+your+bag+on+the+table&oq=is+oit+rude+to+put+your+bag&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqCQgBEAAYDRiABDIGCAAQRRg5MgkIARAAGA0YgAQyCAgCEAAYFhgeMggIAxAAGBYYHjIICAQQABgWGB4yCAgFEAAYFhgeMggIBhAAGBYYHjIICAcQABgWGB4yDQgIEAAYhgMYgAQYigUyDQgJEAAYhgMYgAQYigXSAQk3MjQ0ajBqMTWoAgCwAgA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

As a restaurant worker, I don’t care where you put your bag as long as it’s not in the middle of the floor with the straps hanging out such that I trip over it and drop your food everywhere!

Apparently they go on the toilet floor though. Hence why the OP doesn't want them on the dinner table.

I've been doing some reading up on crime, and apparently it was already pretty 'commonplace' in the thirteenth century. So I have no idea when you have in mind as being 'before crime'.

I don't often carry a bag, but if I do I will hang it off my chair, although this is asking for robbery, because my phone and cards are all on my person. I dislike trying to talk to someone over the top of an enormous handbag if they are sitting at a two person table opposite me and have dumped something the size of a cargo vessel on the table.

Depending on the bag, I either put it behind my back on the chair (not hanging off it), gripped between my ankles not touching the floor, or beside me on the bench or other chair if available. In the loos, it either hangs from the hook or is gripped by my double-chin while I get sorted.

I had dinner out with two girlfriends plus a friend of one of them, quite a few years ago. Probably just when expensive handbags became a thing. We had two tables of two pushed together, with a banquette facing two chairs. We were also in the corner.

The friend of a friend made a beeline for the banquette next to the wall (so, in the corner, the spot farthest away from waiters/plebs). She had a new Birkin. I was in the spot next to her. She sat down and put her bag next to her. I went to sit down but there wasn’t enough space, so I asked her to move her bag. She refused to put it on the floor or on her feet penguin-style. I don’t think it occurred to her to put it between her and the wall, because then she would have been encroaching on my quarter of the table frontage. No, it had to go on the banquette between us. The tables weren’t wide enough for two people to sit side by side with a Birkin between them (it was a bistro-type place in Paris), so once seated next to her with her bag between us, I had the corner of the table digging into my rib cage.

After looking at her in disbelief for a few seconds, and her spluttering about how expensive the handbag was and she couldn’t risk it getting scratched or dirty, I asked the waiter for a third chair and sat perpendicular to my table. She was so pleased. A spot for her, a spot for her Birkin, and two of her dining companions squished together with their plates and stemware jostling for space. The waiter knew instantly what was going on and he was very accommodating of my requests, and extremely Parisian-style rude to the Birkin owner.

First and last time I saw her. Our mutual friends still stays in touch with her, we’re in our 50s now. I gather she’s still struggling to find a partner. I don’t think it’s bitchy to presume this might be because of her priorities in life, and where she sees herself, her handbags and other people in life’s pecking order.

I wonder what possible reason people would have a problem with a clutch bag on the table. They are small and never go on a floor.

I guess it's not common to use a clutch during the day

Personally in place it behind me in between my butt and the back of the chair but this would obviously only work if it fits

In Portugal it's considered very odd to put a handbag on the floor. I do it when I go to the hairdresser and it's always picked up within moments to be put on it's own chair next to me 😃

Perhaps try getting the fuck over yourself? Might be useful for you.

I dont think its rude

I think its WAY ruder to say "Google it"

Calm down Hyacinth

Perhaps trying to learn basic manners would be useful for you. Have a good day

I have more than “basic manners” when it warrants. How about learning not to dictate where people place their belongings that are absolutely of no concern of yours? I would say that’s falls under the umbrella of basic manners too myself. Have a wonderful day. 🌞

I gather she’s still struggling to find a partner. I don’t think it’s bitchy to presume this might be because of her priorities in life, and where she sees herself, her handbags and other people in life’s pecking order.

Meow.

I obviously have far better manners than you and I am intelligent enough to know what basic manners are and I don’t need to swear

Considering you’ve written “Handbags In Tables” as your OP title, I’m going to hazard a guess that you are nowhere near as intelligent as you’d like to think you are. You believe you’re polite, but seek to control others. That is the height of emotional unintelligence. You must have low self-esteem and be extremely insecure. Consider your moral high ground well and truly snatched. “Handbags on tables?” - there, fixed it for you. You’re very welcome. Respect is earned, not automatically given and you come across as extremely arrogant and short-sighted throughout your thread so I saw no reason to depart with pleasantries. Your pathetically smug response to me here proves my point really. I won’t be engaged in any more conversation with you, you’re just not educated enough for me to waste my time on. Goodbye. 👋

Obviously a mis type. I take it you put your handbag on the table