Husband coming home late after drinks on daughter's birthday

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It's our daughter's 5th birthday today. I picked her up from school earlier (left work early to do so) had cake at home with her and played with her new toys. DH was due to be home around 6.30/7 so should have seen her for bath and bed. He's just arrived home after having some drinks at a work lunch and falling asleep on the train... He won't accept that he should apologise for missing bedtime

He’s a nob.

Hopefully just a one off but …….. maybe take it as a wake up call that
he doesn’t prioritise his family as he should

My daughter would be utterly heartbroken and my dh could never ever do that to her.

Wow. Putting a random work drinks above his own little girl. That's grim.

I mean - that means HE didn’t make it a priority to see her on her birthday…………………….. he didn’t want to

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What a bastard.

Her birthday just wasn’t that important to him 🙁

Hes an idiot, but it’s pointless arguing about it now while he’s drunk, leave it for tomorrow.

She's 5, he's an absolute arsehole. Prioritising drinks with colleagues over his young childs birthday? I'd be putting this one in the bin.

He's an arse and I wouldn't buy the sleeping on the train. He stayed out drinking

You had cake without him?

Did you talk about it before and set the expectation that he should be home early/on time today?
Are drinks afterword his normal routine?

I flat out refuse to travel for work over my children's birthdays. It makes me look bad as when they were younger my job required travel. But they are the priority.

He obviously doesn't prioritise his child. By age 5, both of ours would have been upset if either of us weren't there in the evening on their birthday.

@Mumof2teens79 is her five year old supposed to miss out on her birthday cake because her waste of space dad couldn’t get his arse home to see her on her birthday, instead opting for a piss up with his colleagues? Wow.

He is an adult, he shouldn’t need his wife to set expectations to come home for his daughters birthday. Most dads want to be there.

That is totally inexcusable. I would be livid. If he can't make a tiny effort for his own child in their birthday, there's not much use for him.

What a arse!

Your poor baby girl and you xx

Prick 100% needs to apologise

If you have to "set the expectation" for a grown man to be present on his child's birthday, I have to wonder what the fuck is wrong with you that you would be in a relationship with such a horrendous, daft twat.

You'll get nothing out of him now when he's drunk.

Give him the hangover from hell tomorrow though.

How's your wee girl? Did she have a good birthday?

'Set the expectation'
Is he the one who is 5?

100%
Mums check list-
party
birthday outfit
decorations
guests
gifts
wrapping paper
party food and drinks
cake
candles
games
a whole day of making her daughter feel special, on top of a million other things she might have done

Dads check list-
not get fucking rat arsed, lie about falling asleep on the train, and miss his daughters entire birthday. Except OH NO! Her mother DIDNT SET HIS EXPECTATIONS. It couldn’t possibly have been his fault!!! 🙄🙄🙄🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

No, but the OP says she finished work early, they had cake, OH wasn't due home till bath/bed time.
So that sounds very much like she chose and planned to have cake without him....meaning he was always going to miss a key part.
And she already has new toys so they either did presents this morning or he missed that too....because he was at work.
So there was no discussion or request for him to come home early. Did he even know there would be a celebration without him?

OP says he had a drink at "lunchtime" so then went back to work?...perfectly reasonable?
Then fell asleep on the train so guessing had to double back
I have missed my junction before and taken twice as long to get home.
Obviously I would apologise but it's not a case of not prioritising my family.

They might have done the cake this morning. Getting drunk at work and missing your daughters bed time on her birthday is a dick move whatever way you try and excuse it.

Poor kid. She won’t know it yet, but other children have dads who would’ve moved heaven and earth to get home for her little birthday. How sad that she is growing up with such a selfish prick as a father.

Please show him this thread so he knows what a shit he is.

I'd be suspicious of him claiming he was boozing with colleagues tbh.

Sorry OP, but that’s really bad.

I don’t know a single Dad who’d do this.

All the Dad’s I know are the exact opposite. Moving meetings, leaving work early, watching games and performances, managing teams. The list goes on and on.

Being at their birthday? I mean, this is top of the list.