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Colleague going to same hotel

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BG2015 · 28/02/2024 07:12

Last year my colleague (male teacher) went to Cape Verde during the Easter holidays. We're both in our 50's. He's a great colleague and we have always got on being similar ages.

I talked to him about his holiday at the time and he said the hotel was great and he'd recommend it. So my DP and I decided to book it for the 2 week Easter school holidays, as we wanted to go to Cape Verde and the reviews, plus the personal recommendation swung it.

We booked it last year, a good 10 months ago.

Yesterday my colleague asked me when we were going and I told him and said how much we were looking forward to it.

He then told me that he and his wife have also booked a last minute weeks break to the same hotel.

Initially I found this quite amusing (as did many of the other staff) but now I'm a bit annoyed.

I know he's within his rights to book what ever holiday and hotel he wants to but this has really put a dampener on my holiday and will make things really awkward.

Friends have said I should change hotel, but why should I?

OP posts:
Skiphopbump · 28/02/2024 07:14

Why will it make things awkward? Surely if you cross paths you can just say hello and carry on with your day.

BendingSpoons · 28/02/2024 07:15

I understand your annoyance, as I wouldn't want to be bumping into a colleague. However he went the same time last year, so it's not unreasonable to go back again.

YouTulip · 28/02/2024 07:17

What, did you think that he was obliged to never go to a place he liked in case you went there too? I can imagine you’d prefer someone from work wasn’t going to be your holiday destination, but ‘annoyed’ seems a bit strong, as you’re the one copying him…?

iwiporangi · 28/02/2024 07:17

Does the hotel only have 2 rooms?
Otherwise, what is the issue?

NotStylishOrBeautiful · 28/02/2024 07:18

YABU. You can’t expect him not to go back to a hotel you know he likes 🤷🏻‍♀️

SaltySoo · 28/02/2024 07:20

BendingSpoons · 28/02/2024 07:15

I understand your annoyance, as I wouldn't want to be bumping into a colleague. However he went the same time last year, so it's not unreasonable to go back again.

I agree.

He went to the same hotel at the same time previously so it's unreasonable to assume he would not go back this year.

Perhaps he's annoyed with you!

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 28/02/2024 07:20

You booked the hotel he recommended though - why on earth wouldn't he go back to somewhere he liked and enjoyed?

Sirzy · 28/02/2024 07:20

You have booked to go to somewhere he went the same time last year and enjoyed but your annoyed he is going back ?

Star81 · 28/02/2024 07:20

Maybe he sees it as you copying him and going where he likes ! The world a small place these days you always bump into someone who has been / is going to same place as you have been/ are going too. Plus as teachers your holidays are limited so more likely to overlap with colleagues or pupils surely !

ClutchingOurBananas · 28/02/2024 07:21

You’re teachers. You will always have the same Easter holidays. It’s not like he could have booked the month after is it?

PieAndLattes · 28/02/2024 07:22

Well, he liked the hotel well enough to recommend it to you and teachers are limited in when they can take holiday so it’s unreasonable to assume he wouldn’t go back. That said, it’s easy enough to avoid them. I’m sure they have no more interest in spending time with you than you do with them. A cheery good morning when you do see them should more than suffice.

NashvilleQueen · 28/02/2024 07:22

I wouldn't like it either OP. Presumably it's mainly a beach/pool holiday and there's no way I'd want to be chatting to my colleagues in a bikini. Same hotel on a city break where you're out and about day and night is fine but you're likely to see him all the time.

However it's 'his place' rather than yours and there was always a risk this might happen. As such you'll just have to make the most of it. I'd be checking out the excursions!

user1494050295 · 28/02/2024 07:22

This happened to colleagues who both inadvertently booked the same hotel same week. I think they met for dinner once and said hello whenever passing. It was taken very good humour

baubletits · 28/02/2024 07:22

It's a bit ridiculous you're annoyed at him for booking the same hotel that you already know he has been to and enjoyed.

Is every colleague meant to double check where you plan to go on holiday before they book there's?

Vegetus · 28/02/2024 07:22

Did you not inform the hotel when you booked that they had to close to others apart from you that week? I'd write a strongly worded letter to the hotel with your complaint.

fluffi · 28/02/2024 07:22

YABU You took his recommendation! Why would he not go back to a hotel he has recommended to others. Given your both teachers it’s not like you can pick and chose your weeks off and he can chose a different week!

There are limited choices for good weather in early April short haul … Cape Verde is one!

GreyCarpet · 28/02/2024 07:23

Tbh, he went on holiday past year, liked it so much he and his wife booked it again for this year.

You liked the sound of it and booked at the same hotel.

If anyone has a 'right' to be irritated by this I would say its him not you. After all, you're the one who's 'copied' his holiday!

BeakyBlinders · 28/02/2024 07:24

So he only asked you yesterday when you were going and told you he's also going, it's not like he knew your dates. These things happen. Did you want him to never go again just in case you happened to be there?

Jessforless · 28/02/2024 07:25

If it’s similar to the hotel I went to in Cape Verde it will be huge with many pools restaurants and you won’t have a chance of bumping into each other…

ColleenDonaghy · 28/02/2024 07:25

GreyCarpet · 28/02/2024 07:23

Tbh, he went on holiday past year, liked it so much he and his wife booked it again for this year.

You liked the sound of it and booked at the same hotel.

If anyone has a 'right' to be irritated by this I would say its him not you. After all, you're the one who's 'copied' his holiday!

Edited

Agreed!

Just avoid each other and it'll be fine.

TokyoSushi · 28/02/2024 07:27

OP! You actually booked his hotel!

saraclara · 28/02/2024 07:27

If anyone has a 'right' to be irritated by this I would say its him not you. After all, you're the one who's 'copied' his holiday!

That! In his place I'd be kicking myself for talking up the place and ending up with now having to share my favourite place with a colleague when I really wanted to escape any thoughts of work.

I remember once extolling the virtues of a place we went to every summer, and my late DH kicking me under the table to try to shut me up, for this reason.

KrisAkabusi · 28/02/2024 08:04

Initially I found this quite amusing (as did many of the other staff) but now I'm a bit annoyed.

You copied him, not the other way around!

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 28/02/2024 08:06

iwiporangi · 28/02/2024 07:17

Does the hotel only have 2 rooms?
Otherwise, what is the issue?

Its one room, bunk beds and a sofa bed!

Londonrach1 · 28/02/2024 08:08

It's his hotel not yours. Yabu. He returning to a hotel he liked enough to recommend to you. Limited holidays for teachers. There be enough space to avoid him