Colleague going to same hotel

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Last year my colleague (male teacher) went to Cape Verde during the Easter holidays. We're both in our 50's. He's a great colleague and we have always got on being similar ages.

I talked to him about his holiday at the time and he said the hotel was great and he'd recommend it. So my DP and I decided to book it for the 2 week Easter school holidays, as we wanted to go to Cape Verde and the reviews, plus the personal recommendation swung it.

We booked it last year, a good 10 months ago.

Yesterday my colleague asked me when we were going and I told him and said how much we were looking forward to it.

He then told me that he and his wife have also booked a last minute weeks break to the same hotel.

Initially I found this quite amusing (as did many of the other staff) but now I'm a bit annoyed.

I know he's within his rights to book what ever holiday and hotel he wants to but this has really put a dampener on my holiday and will make things really awkward.

Friends have said I should change hotel, but why should I?

I never felt the need to consult colleagues when booking my holiday. Fortunately most of them would not share my tastes.

Yeah but it’s only very specifically because he already knew she was going there that week!

Just don't get drunk and dance naked on the tables

I love this. You basically copy his holiday (same place, same hotel, same time of year) and then get annoyed he is going again this year.

Classic

Did he? He only asked her yesterday when she was going and then said he'd booked a last minute there for that time, too. Could not not have been as part of the same conversation? It reads like that, to me.

So OP you are the colleague going to the hotel at the same time. They recommended it, so there is no reason to they might not be there in their time off.

This is such an odd post.

I would've thought as you're a teacher you'd have anticipated that this would be a possibility. What exactly is your concern?

If you want privacy then moving forward I'd book a villa.

The hotels in Cape Verde are absolutely massive. There’s usually more than pool, too, so the chances of you bumping into each other are quite slim, tbh.

I feel like there is something going on here about different types of people and their approaches to holidays

I’ve travelled a bit and gone on a few holidays, as you do. So many of them I’ve enjoyed and would recommend the area and hotel/accommodation to others.

However I have literally never been back to the same hotel twice. Most of my friends are the same – the fun is in discovering somewhere new. So I would take a recommendation from a friend without it occurring to me that they might be going on the same holiday again and again.

I’m aware that some people stick with one place and return every year, but I suppose I associate it with an older generation. And I don’t think (in the OP) the colleague said they go there every year.

But I wonder if this is why so many people on the thread see it as obviously ‘the colleague’s place’ and think it was really expected he would be there the same week again the next year, where for the OP, she never expected that he would be returning to the exact same hotel having recommended it to her for her holiday 🤷🏻

Yeah they’d obviously discussed already that she’d booked it but maybe she just said ‘for next year’ or something, which could have been any of the half terms, summer or easter. Or even Christmas. In which case OP is BU, as the colleague wasn’t to know she was already going at Easter, and it probably only occurred to him it could have been a possibility after he booked.

Between this thread and the 6am flight thread, people are quite spoiled about holidays. Sorry but you're being really precious.

I wouldn’t like seeing a colleague on my holiday but you probably wont really see them if its a very large hotel. Personally I wouldn’t ever book a hotel if I knew a colleague was going there at the same time, but if he raved about it, I guess theres a high chance he would go back (and you’re teachers so limited times to go in the year).

yabu, it was 'his' Hotel first.

Oh, don't be so silly. 😅

Shocked that OP hasn’t returned 😂

I completely agree!

I had to read it twice as I thought I must have got it wrong 😁

OP YABVU

If you don’t want to bump into colleagues, perhaps avoid places you know that they love and there’s a good chance they’ll visit.

If it’s the swingers’ hotel in Sal, you’ll probably need to lay out expectations before you go. Assuming you aren’t planning to play with your colleague, just remove yourself from a public play space when he arrives, or don’t engage in public play at all.
if I’ve misunderstood and it’s not the swingers hotel, you don’t need to worry.

This must be about the dynamic between the two of you. You hate him; you fancy him or he fancies you; you've already shagged each other? In which case YABVU to have booked a hotel he recommended!

In all other cases, YABU to be annoyed that he's exercising his free will to book a holiday he knows his family will enjoy.

Riu Touareg? Absolutely massive, you'll hardly see them. I was there at the same time as a vague acquaintance and didn't see them until the last night.

Hysterical. You've deliberately booked yourself onto a holiday in the same resort and the same hotel he has previously been to and recommended.

And you now feel annoyed that he's going to be there. He's the one who should be irritated at having a colleague around for the holidays. You've muscled in on a place that is clearly a favourite of theirs to go to for Easter and have the nerve to feel 'annoyed' at them.

Be grateful it's just a colleague. My friend has just found out that her ex and his new partner are booked for the same hotel at the same time as her and her new partner

Ooooof @curlycat !

We often go back to the same place the following year if we like it. He's probably the same. You could have checked whether he was going then.

I (teacher) remember staying at the same hotel as the headteacher., but by pure accident. 😂 omg.

To be fair, it was "his place" first...

If anyone's got a right to be a bit annoyed, it's him.