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Colleague going to same hotel

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BG2015 · 28/02/2024 07:12

Last year my colleague (male teacher) went to Cape Verde during the Easter holidays. We're both in our 50's. He's a great colleague and we have always got on being similar ages.

I talked to him about his holiday at the time and he said the hotel was great and he'd recommend it. So my DP and I decided to book it for the 2 week Easter school holidays, as we wanted to go to Cape Verde and the reviews, plus the personal recommendation swung it.

We booked it last year, a good 10 months ago.

Yesterday my colleague asked me when we were going and I told him and said how much we were looking forward to it.

He then told me that he and his wife have also booked a last minute weeks break to the same hotel.

Initially I found this quite amusing (as did many of the other staff) but now I'm a bit annoyed.

I know he's within his rights to book what ever holiday and hotel he wants to but this has really put a dampener on my holiday and will make things really awkward.

Friends have said I should change hotel, but why should I?

OP posts:
GreyCarpet · 28/02/2024 16:47

Overwhelmedmum1 · 28/02/2024 15:28

I (teacher) remember staying at the same hotel as the headteacher., but by pure accident. 😂 omg.

Edited

What happens in the hotel, stays in the hotel. Right? 😅

Overwhelmedmum1 · 28/02/2024 19:28

GreyCarpet · 28/02/2024 16:47

What happens in the hotel, stays in the hotel. Right? 😅

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🤣🤣🤣

Pumpkinpie1 · 28/02/2024 19:54

mountain Out of a molehill springs to mind

Clafoutie · 28/02/2024 21:05

OP, options are to change hotel, or put up with it! What other solutions are there?!
By saying ‘but why should I’ it sounds like you think he should change. Surely you can see that would be completely unreasonable and absurd, he ‘found the hotel! 🤔

5128gap · 28/02/2024 21:13

Given you both have restricted AL, and its a hotel he has already been to and liked, it's a bit much to expect him to have avoided a last minute opportunity to return just because you were going so its U to be annoyed with him. I do get that it's potentially awkward though, especially if it's a smaller property and you'll be seeing him in the dining room, round the pool etc. I'd be concerned it might seen rude not to be a bit sociable with them, have drinks etc especially if you get on well, and I wouldnt want that.

user1478112490 · 29/02/2024 18:07

As long as you don't sunbathe topless then it will be fine!

Retiredfromearlyyears · 29/02/2024 18:15

Swap hotels if it troubles you that much. He might not want to see you every minute of his break either! Could be worse! It could be a child you teach and their family! Now that would be a drag!!! 😆

NatM70 · 29/02/2024 18:58

BG2015 · 28/02/2024 07:12

Last year my colleague (male teacher) went to Cape Verde during the Easter holidays. We're both in our 50's. He's a great colleague and we have always got on being similar ages.

I talked to him about his holiday at the time and he said the hotel was great and he'd recommend it. So my DP and I decided to book it for the 2 week Easter school holidays, as we wanted to go to Cape Verde and the reviews, plus the personal recommendation swung it.

We booked it last year, a good 10 months ago.

Yesterday my colleague asked me when we were going and I told him and said how much we were looking forward to it.

He then told me that he and his wife have also booked a last minute weeks break to the same hotel.

Initially I found this quite amusing (as did many of the other staff) but now I'm a bit annoyed.

I know he's within his rights to book what ever holiday and hotel he wants to but this has really put a dampener on my holiday and will make things really awkward.

Friends have said I should change hotel, but why should I?

If you're going to the hotel I think you are, you'll have no trouble avoiding each other, it is a huge hotel.

HappyDaysKeepSmiling · 29/02/2024 19:04

I totally understand how you’re feeling about this.
There’s no doubt you will bump into them a lot and feel obliged to make small talk and possibly have dinner / drinks together.
Your husband doesn’t know the colleague or his partner, the colleague’s partner doesn’t know you or your husband. I hate having to make small talk on holiday and more-so I’d cringe bumping into someone I knew, while wearing a bikini!
When recommending the hotel, had the colleague mentioned that they might be going back again, then you would no doubt have booked a different hotel.
Having said that, it sounds like it was a last minute decision for him to return.
Up to you if you want to change hotel, you need to balance the cost against how much it would spoil your holiday “bumping into them daily”.
let us know what you decide.

Globules · 29/02/2024 19:11

Be thankful it's a colleague, not a pupil.

I turned up at a hotel in Greece to find a pupil and family there. They had no clue to leave me be.

So annoying.

Suchasonganddance · 29/02/2024 19:15

And you are responsible for educating children?!

Ilovecleaning · 29/02/2024 19:29

I don’t understand how posters don’t appreciate that people don’t want to holiday in the same hotel as people they work with. I’d find it a total PITA.
You want to escape bloody work FFS.

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 29/02/2024 19:47

It will only be awkward for him if it turns out to be a terrible hotel!

OldPerson · 29/02/2024 20:21

What are you objecting to? If you don't want to stay at the hotel he recommended then change your booking. "But Why should 1?" Because you're the one with the problem.

Kittythecutest · 29/02/2024 21:31

So he went to a hotel, you booked the same one at his recommendation, and now you’re annoyed he’s going back? Maybe he’s annoyed with you!

LlynTegid · 29/02/2024 21:34

I'd not be happy being in a hotel with a work colleague when on holiday. I don't want to think about work when away and I am sure their mere presence from time to time would lead to more thoughts about work.

MrsPositivity1 · 29/02/2024 21:40

You copied him

Mama1209 · 10/05/2024 18:15

Do you feel he’s recommended it and has purposely orchestrated it so you would be on holiday together? Like in a creepy way? Otherwise I don’t see why you would mind?!

if it was me I’d like that a colleague I got on with would be there and probably suggest we have a meal together one night

Mercurial123 · 10/05/2024 20:55

Mama1209 · 10/05/2024 18:15

Do you feel he’s recommended it and has purposely orchestrated it so you would be on holiday together? Like in a creepy way? Otherwise I don’t see why you would mind?!

if it was me I’d like that a colleague I got on with would be there and probably suggest we have a meal together one night

You're sounding paranoid.

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