Colleague going to same hotel

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Last year my colleague (male teacher) went to Cape Verde during the Easter holidays. We're both in our 50's. He's a great colleague and we have always got on being similar ages.

I talked to him about his holiday at the time and he said the hotel was great and he'd recommend it. So my DP and I decided to book it for the 2 week Easter school holidays, as we wanted to go to Cape Verde and the reviews, plus the personal recommendation swung it.

We booked it last year, a good 10 months ago.

Yesterday my colleague asked me when we were going and I told him and said how much we were looking forward to it.

He then told me that he and his wife have also booked a last minute weeks break to the same hotel.

Initially I found this quite amusing (as did many of the other staff) but now I'm a bit annoyed.

I know he's within his rights to book what ever holiday and hotel he wants to but this has really put a dampener on my holiday and will make things really awkward.

Friends have said I should change hotel, but why should I?

I’m actually amazed that you’re annoyed about this.

You booked a hotel you knew he likes going to. In the Easter holidays at that. Then you’re annoyed that he’s going to that hotel in the Easter holidays.

And you’re teachers. So the holidays are set.

This is the logic of a small child, not a 50-something adult.

I meant, if the hotel only has 2 rooms, it's an issue because you'll run into colleague..
If not, what is the problem?

I'd be happy to have another couple to have a few drinks and dinner with tbh.

He will feel the same way, he won't want to be around you all the time either.

This must be a wind up. He's not your personal hotel checker.

I know! I was being ridiculous 😆

I dunno. He booked it after he knew the OP was going there. Why not book a different place or different week? There’s plenty of places in the world he can go. I think it’s a bit intrusive and thoughtless.

I can imagine that he and his wife have had a conversation about this tbh.

Probably along the lines of, "Why on Earth did you tell them which hotel it was?"

"Well, because I didn't expect her to book the same one for the same week. Won't be making that mistake again!"

"No, I bet you won't! 😅"

Tbh, I'd probably have given him the heads up when I booked to avoid this happening. But even then it would have been their choice whether to go at the same time or not.

You're an adult, OP. You don't get to 'bagsy' holidays.

@MyGooseisTotallyLoose 😂😂 this is why writing as opposed to conversation can be tricky!
Enjoy your day!

He even asked you when you were going, he's booked the hotel he has stayed in before and recommended to you, it's coincidence it's the same time. I don't remember when friends are going away.

Is it one of the Rius? They're huge and you'll be fine. Beach is lovely, too. Just enjoy ☺️

@Fulshaw

Sounds like he didn't even remember when she was going.

Well, this.

YABU and ridiculous.

No he didn't. He asked the OP yesterday when she was going. He and his wife had already booked before he knew the OP was going.

This is either a reverse or a wind up.

You booked a hotel that was recommended by said colleague, so it makes sense he would book somewhere he know he likes. Why should he change hotels just because of your issue?

Friends have said I should change hotel, but why should I?

Because you're the one who is bothered by this.

He has a favourite hotel, recommends it freely, likely to go there again and not bothered if there are people he knows at the same place.

You seem however to be taking it personally (and I think YABU for that) so the remaining option - if you want to do something as opposed to just having a whinge - is to change.

I know it’s been said already, but you’re the one going to his hotel! He found it, and he told you it was great. You’ve copied him! Yet you’re annoyed he’s going to the same place again. And as teachers, of course you’d be on holiday at the same time.

And what’s him being male got to do with it?

This must be some sort of reverse.

This is why you should never tell anyone exactly where you go on holiday.

I'd be curious how much he's paid for the same holiday as you.

Why?

I think is both not want to know but also be a bit intrigued by whether he saved much money by booking much later.

It’s hardly last minute at this point though. If I’m going to play chicken with package holidays, I’d be booking to fly in the next day or two.

Why would it be awkward?! You stole his favourite spot! Being teachers your holidays will coincide and you both like the same spot.

Yep. I never do that now. I'd only ever recommend a hotel if I knew I was never going back.

Anyway all the recs and reviews are online these days, who even bothers asking for a word of mouth?!

I vote for it being reverse