Is this grandma ish?

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Just that really. Looking at this duvet.. but js it a bit "old"?

Ah.
So you don't really think your comment was reprehensible.

Can someone please explain? I know what internalised misogyny and ageism is but I cannot see how that fits in with a question about bedding possibly looking like something your granny would have liked.

I already have, several times, earlier in the thread. At this stage, I think I'd rather hit my head against a wall.

HNRTFT but as a Grandma I think it looks really tired and dowdy.Did think title pretty thoughtless TBH.

@TheShellBeach it's not 'reprehensible'. Get a bloody grip!
As for 'pointing it out wherever it appears', it's your opinion, which isn't universally shared.

You're fully entitled to hit your head against a wall but I wouldn't recommend it.

Yes, you've made several replies stating that you didn't like the words used, they were ageist and sexist but you also said (about the OP):

I knew she was using the term negatively. She wasn't using it as in 'is this grandma chic?' she was using it to mean 'yuck, old'.

How did you know this? Or was this possibly just what you thought she meant?

I didn't take OPs post to mean this. Is it just a case of interpretation? The way I read it, OP was looking at the bedding and asking if it was old fashioned / something like your granny would have i.e. Granny-ish. She was calling the bedding granny-ish. She wasn't going on a rampage calling all women over 50s old hags/witches/dried up barren old prunes.

I just can't get offended at someone calling bedding granny-ish.

Does that make me inferior to you because you are offended and feel you know more about internalised misogyny and sexism than everyone who doesn't share your view? Because that's how you are coming across on this thread.

I’m a grandma (just). I don't like it, it’s too floral and chintzy for me. I like ThevWhite Company or Cologne and Cotton bedding.

I’m an old person and I think it’s ghastly. Does that help?

I absolutely was not mocking the duvet cover - I was considering buying it?

I've bought things before, a shower curtain with a similar pattern springs out to mind.. and MIL and DH both said it was a bit granny ish. I've been brought up and around it as being a phrase, that's all.

I've apologised again and again and again for fucks sake, and I'll be more aware of terminology I use in future.

But I can absolutely assure you I'm not sexist (I too am a woman, who will I hope to god have the privalage of growing old) nor ageist, racist or any other ist you may accuse me of being.

I'm a 35 year old mother of 2, who simply asked if a duvet cover I was considering buying would maybe look a bit too old fashioned.

That's it.

I'm going to hide this thread now as it's gotten way out of hand.

Don't worry about it OP. There are always posters who take any opportunity to put the boot in, over some tiny thing.

It was obvious that the first post meant "I think I like this duvet, but is it actually grandma-ish? Because if so, I'm obviously having a huge lapse in taste and I won't buy it".
So "grandma-ish" was used as a synonym for "bad".
(Sorry OP, this isn't aimed at you, just trying to explain why some of us felt the wording was a bit off).