Is this grandma ish?

[dontgetscarednow]

Just that really. Looking at this duvet.. but js it a bit "old"?

Nothing faux about my
offence thanks
im
not offended
just fed up of this place tolerating ageism

I think it's old fashioned

My DD who is 23 would love it.

Exactly.

I like it, my Mum who is a Granny doesn’t. So in our house not grandma-ish

Old fashioned yes
Grandma ish no

Does that help? And no, I’m not faux offended.

If you like it does it matter what anyone thinks? Who is going to see it anyway?

Only on Mumsnet could a thread about a duvet cover be ageist!!!🤣

I know right 😂😂

I am not offended, faux or otherwise

Absolutely spot on. I think it’s hideous but then I only like white bed linen.

Thanks everyone.

Yes it was not meant to offend anyone - my mum - who is a 56 year old Grandma - uses the phrase! If we're out shopping she'll often say "it's a bit old granny ish" and she is a granny!

It was quite literally a turn of phrase that I didn't even think about before posting. I'm definitely not ageist (we all get old) or sexist (I'm very much female) it was just a phrase and sorry for any offence caused. It should've said "old fashioned"

I think it's maybe a bit busy so I might go for something a bit more subtle.

Well, I'm grandma age and I don't like it - but then I think all bedding should be plain white! If you like it, OP, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - have confidence in your choices!

@CurlewKate Exactly 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

Do you regular show people your bedroom or post pictures on Facebook? Do you like it?

Agree

You either like it or you don't. What age and sec you are is irrelevant.

Well they are selling it so someone obviously likes it. Its not to my taste but if you like it buy it. Develop your own taste.

It just goes to show how ingrained ageism that not only do many tolerate it but get annoyed when it's pointed out.

It's not about the duvet cover, it's about the language used to describe it. There's a world of difference.

You may not be offended. But plenty of people are, it is an objectively ageist (and sexist) statement.
Just because you personally aren't offended doesn't make it any less actually offensive to plenty of people.

That's just an excuse to keep making stupid offensive statements. MN should be a place to learn - and OP (and others) might like to learn that this kind of blanket (pun intended) statement is "old fashioned" and should go the way of the (poor, lamented) dodo.

FWIW: my bedcovers are striped green ones, and when they get changed at the weekend) they may well be a cover I'm making out of our old tour t-shirts.

I'm not sure that's the case - I think I was being more "stereotypical" than ageist. The same as I would say does something look too boyish, too girly, too young for me etc. all phrases that shouldn't be used anymore but it's just things you say without thinking.

Again apologies for any upset caused 🩷

I think it looks nice

Yes it was not meant to offend anyone - my mum - who is a 56 year old Grandma - uses the phrase! If we're out shopping she'll often say "it's a bit old granny ish" and she is a granny!

you do know that things like internal misogyny are actually A Thing? And that you can be an ageist grandma even if you are - shock - an actual grandma?

Ps you know you can't say anything on here with getting gunned down in flames for being "offensive". Even if it's a light hearted comment someone will kick off 😫

I’m a grandma and it’s hideous.

do you understand that we used to use the n-word and it was ok and it was only a little figure on a jam jar? etc etc.

The bed cover is not to my taste, but i can imagine some people might like it. using stereotypes is offensive, and thoughtlessly used stereotypes are in some ways worse because they mean people aren't thinking about what they're saying.

And MN is hugely and overtly ageist. And posters getting their backs up about not being allowed to be ageist are telling on themselves.

The word is traditional or classic here in stead of grandma-ish, it's a standard print without any of the more contemporary twists that make a thing current. It's a nice print.