Is this grandma ish?

[dontgetscarednow]

Just that really. Looking at this duvet.. but js it a bit "old"?

I’d say more 90s than cottage. The print is too big, looks like something that would suit a bed in an 80s build rather than 1800s.

Well I'm a grandma and think it's horrible

Exactly. Nothing wrong with granny-ish IMO....it's back in fashion anyway!

If your granny is in her 80s maybe!
my mil would prob like it, but I’m in my 50s and it’s a no from me.

I can understand what someone means and also find it offensive. In fact, it's precisely because I know what she means that I found it offensive. It's a very lazy shorthand. The assumption that 'grandma-ish' is negative, rather than a quality to be celebrated, is offensive. It's ageist and sexist and it's precisely because people excuse it as 'just a turn of phrase' that it's so problematic. Turns of phrase show how embedded prejudices are within our culture. They make the problem more insidious and worsen it, not lessen it.

I'm sporting a mum bun today because I didn't have time to wash my hair, should I call it something else?

Ageism against older women is sadly still socially acceptable - Karen's, Grandma-ish etc. There isn't the same equivalent for men.

Younger women, remember you will be older soon so try to support each other!

If anyone rather likes the notion of granny-ish decor - knock yourself out:

https://www.houseandgarden.co.uk/article/granny-chic-homewares

DM is 82 and she would love it! Depends on your decor. It’s country garden!
Not to my taste. Poor OP only came to get some bedding advice 😆now rocking in a corner crying I expect.

Personally OP I'd go for some of Joe Brown's prints, although people might find them garish https://www.joebrowns.co.uk/homeware-home/bedding-and-curtains

Or possibly La Redoute stuff https://www.laredoute.co.uk/alt/bedding.aspx

Well said. The lectures the OP is being given make the lecturers sound ludicrous. They have little to worry them if the status of a duvet is an issue for them.

I'm old.
Why is it acceptable to write ageist posts on here?
It's distressing.

I love this!

I can't decide whether this thread is exhausting or hilarious...

I've been a grandma since I was 37 and I love it.

Both 😂

I really, really dislike this trope of deliberately belittling people's concerns. It's bugger all to do with the duvet but to do with the OP's casual use of 'grandma' and 'old' as negatives. And to be fair to the OP she has apologised several times and taken on board much of the criticism.

I have many concerns in my life. I have many problems to deal with, several of them made far worse by the ageism and sexism I encounter in daily life. So when I find women, on a female-dominated website, excusing the use of ageist language, I'll pull them up on it, whether it's about bed linen or international politics. There's no need for it and unless we question engrained beliefs, we won't change them.

I like it. Probably wouldn't have the pastel pink wall though, I'd team it with a sage green.

Speaking as a 75 year old grandmother I think it's hideous but then I've never liked floral prints and never understood the whole Laura Ashley thing either.

What does it matter what other people think? If you like it OP then buy it.

I imagine there might be a lot of things in my house you wouldn't like. I've decorated my house to my liking and have never given any thought to whether other people like it or not.

Looks like the second set of covers my Grandma got made for her 60s suite, in the 80s.

But, if you like it, then go ahead. I've been selecting my choices eclectically from different eras (and I don't just mean duvets!) for a long time 😆

OP didn't say "granny chic" though. It was clear she didn't mean to evoke one of those Tiktok aesthetic trends. She said "grandma ish", as in "Is this nice and ok to have in my home, or is it totally ugly and tasteless?"

This. How depressing to see this shit on a forum primarily for women.

Oh and it's not a very nice duvet cover either.

I'm a granny and I always have white bed linen.

So am I and so do I.

Yes.