To get fed up when people put downer comments on lighthearted posts?

[Queenconsult]

Fully expecting those Debbie downers to get funny about this.

It happens so often on here, someone posts a semi light hearted post usually about things your husband has done that have annoyed you, straw that broke the camels back, things that gave you the ick or the family ones - what made you realize your childhood was a bit weird etc.

Most people get it’s a bit of fun then you always get the Debbie downers that put ‘I got the ick when he raped me after I came out of the shower’ or ‘I knew my childhood was not normal when I realised no one else slept naked with their grandparents’

key example is earlier on the DD made to hug her grandad post, of course on the first page there is someone telling their life story of the uncle who molested them, no one asked, no one cares, it’s also not relevant.

It’s just so unnecessary and a bit attention seeking tbh. It’s just annoying seeing some funny posts be hijacked by the depressing ones as people can’t read a room.

The vindictivness on that thread was something else, even for this place. You could just feel some posters' joy at giving a dig and trying to bring the poor woman down.

I liked her bag too. It was a nice summer colour and would look nice if you were wearing white.

I find this to be something that is much worse on mumsnet than just about any other forum or social media that I use.

I bet they wouldn't dare be as unpleasant, at least.

The number of apologists that cropped up on that thread though 🙄

That's something else, you get a thread where someone's behaviour has been terrible by any standard and there's always someone ( or several) who either miss the point totally and/ or go on about how the situation isn't that bad.

Doesn’t anyone, including @Queenconsult, see the problem with the OP’s whole premise?

How absurdly flawed it is to argue about this, in THIS forum?

AIBU means “Am I being unreasonable?”

Well no, because she's asked an AIBU question!

And this happens in Chat threads too, all the time (I see you've backtracked a bit in your first post now, but I'm still going to emphasise this).

I think it’s a little naive to take a thread like that at face value?
Come on, the Gucci bag and oysters at the airport thread was deliberately designed to incite the reaction it did.
If people suspect a wind up for entertainment, they will respond in a similar non serious vein.

Some of those posts weren't 'non-serious', they were downright nasty.

I remember that thread / post and thought "Nah. I'm not taking the bait."

Why do some posters on here take umbrage at a ‘lighthearted’ thread, even going so far as to say how dare someone tell them they shouldn’t post heavy, traumatic stuff on it. There are plenty of other options to post heavier topics on. And no one is telling you what to find funny or lighthearted, but no one is going to consider abuse or violence those things are they.

It would be like a thread saying, tell me something you found funny today and someone says they found a dead body. That’s not funny is it!

There was a lighthearted post about bad things you did as a child. I may have not got the title right but that was the theme of it it was funny. But sure enough there were "this is a horrible post" and "why would you think this is funny" "this is abuse" etc

Maybe some people did over-emphasise their point; but to be fair, there are some truly nasty things that are still recalled with glee and hilarity on that thread.

Surely it was the people chuckling at some really horrible actions who stopped it being lighthearted, long before the 'fun-spoiling' people came along to react to them?

I know the thread title was a giveaway, in that they were indeed awful things; but it also said 'as a child'. People in their 30s, 40s and older who were still laughing at shocking things that they/others might not have realised the seriousness of as children was rather unpleasant at times.