To get fed up when people put downer comments on lighthearted posts?

[Queenconsult]

Fully expecting those Debbie downers to get funny about this.

It happens so often on here, someone posts a semi light hearted post usually about things your husband has done that have annoyed you, straw that broke the camels back, things that gave you the ick or the family ones - what made you realize your childhood was a bit weird etc.

Most people get it’s a bit of fun then you always get the Debbie downers that put ‘I got the ick when he raped me after I came out of the shower’ or ‘I knew my childhood was not normal when I realised no one else slept naked with their grandparents’

key example is earlier on the DD made to hug her grandad post, of course on the first page there is someone telling their life story of the uncle who molested them, no one asked, no one cares, it’s also not relevant.

It’s just so unnecessary and a bit attention seeking tbh. It’s just annoying seeing some funny posts be hijacked by the depressing ones as people can’t read a room.

All of this. Plus, some of the 'lighthearted' posts are far from it anyway.

Agree with you OP, I just roll my eyes and skip downer posts, but it does make you wonder about the lack of awareness some people have.

In real life, you probably know if your colleagues dog just died and (hopefully) you'll try to be sensitive about it. On the internet, you've no idea if anything is true and I suspect sometimes people who post tragic stories on lighthearted threads are just trolls who are making stuff up to get a kick out of peoples reactions. I tend to ignore them rather than take the bait.

A problem shared is a problem doubled, tripled with luck. God forbid people should have an enjoyable thread.

And yeah. Nobody cares. The thread for caring and support is down the stairs and along the corridor.

This place is depressing these days. Some of the replies on this thread have proved that.
There is no light-heartedness here at all Amy more. Everyone is so angry.

poor Nigel, it’s billy no mates here, maybe they can be friends.

...it's like the cat fishing thread where the op is trolling the scammer. Quite the giggle for the majority...and along come the warnings NOT TO ENGAGE, tales of MY SEN MOTHER LOST HER MILK MONEY and the hand wringing THOSE POOR SCAMMERS ARE TRAFFICKED INTO IT AND WILL HAVE THEIR TESTICLES SINGED.

Nobody cares. Troll the fucker and share the laughs, thanks

Because people like to find something to be offended about.

YANBU OP. It's really annoying.

It’s like some people don’t understand what the word lighthearted means. Being asked to relay a lighthearted story and then you see a post about someone’s traumatic assault etc.😬 I avoid any threads with titles like ‘what’s the worst thing ….’ because I dread to think what stuff might be in those ones!

Well isn’t that the point of this thread?

No really, no.

Many people come on here for an escape possibly from their own shitty lives, why should people be able to come and trauma dump on a funny, chatty thread where people might be enjoying themselves just to bring it down?

For all they know, those people might have been victims of CSA, SA, DV etc and just be trying to have a bit f a laugh and an escape.

Not everything needs to be doom and gloom and about the miserable fuckers with problems all the time. As said upthread, people need to read the room. Just because some people are having a nice time doesn't take away from their trauma, but they need to know when to keep it to themselves IMO.

As for the whataboutery of 'but I'm autistic etc' I'm sure those peopel can see what a conversation is about and if its about nice things, coming in and dumping a load of shit about CSA etc is not appropriate.

Be Kind is in the past

I found the whole 'be kind' hashtag more often or not a thinly veiled 'shut up' often trotted out be the very people happy to join in on a social media pile on.

Yep, ‘be kind’ = shut up and agree

YANBU OP. Every sodding time!

It happens a lot on lighthearted threads about pets! People will be telling funny stories about their pets and then someone comes along with some tale of horrific cruelty or suffering. I can think of two off the top of my head that have stayed with me, but won't recount them here for obvious reasons. Just why?!

Look, I’ve been through plenty of abuse and trauma, do you know where I bring it up? In therapy. Sometimes to my husband or a close friend. Very occasionally in a relevant internet thread (ask me about EMDR, I will sing it’s praises!) Not on a jokey thread about “the biggest mistake your parents ever made” or whatever. There’s a time and a place!

Also I don’t actually want to read about other people’s traumas myself when I’m on something lighthearted

I totally agree. It's trauma dumping and it is very weird behaviour.

@claudiawinklemansfringetrimmer Exactly that!

I have never felt the need to trauma dump on a lighthearted thread. There are many other boards on mumsnet where people can post about trauma and abuse, boards that are specifically designed for that.

I agree.

i started a thread a few weeks ago asking about weird things peoples’ in-laws do- idea being you didn’t grow up with their peccadilloes, so it was easier to identify other families’ “weirdness” as an adult.

Some of the replies being affronted on random posters’ in-laws behalf were bonkers. Looking for offence on what was clearly a light-hearted, jokey thread- I don’t get it?

Yes, this. OP criticising women with a term like this.

YANBU OP. MNet has quite a few Mood Hoovers who suck the atmosphere out of any thread where people are having a laugh.🙄

How very domestic vacuuming appliance phobic.

Its even worse when so many are shared a light hearted post then gets a trigger warning added by MNHQ. Totally changes the vibe and takes everyone to a darker place

Well yes, im criticizing miserable women - it’s the whole point of the post