Confronted man at drive through?

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So I wanted a coffee and decided to drive now to McDonald’s. Did my order and I’m waiting behind another car who is taking ages.

Car comes up behind me and starts loudly revving his engine at me and then holds his horn down after waiting maybe 3 minutes. The car in front of me is around the bend so not visible to him but you’d think common sense would have told him that.

He then gets out of his car and storms by and looks around the corner and obviously sees the car, waits a few seconds and walks back. Had my window down anyway so I asked him - why did you feel the need to beep at me, it’s pretty obvious I’m waiting to move too. And his response was - calm down and he stormed back to his car and made a big show of each time I moved to the next window that he was as close as possible behind me.

Probably a none event and I’m not confrontational at all but how aggressive he was to me for literally doing nothing really annoyed me.

Was I being unreasonable to have said anything or should I have let it go?

I used to be very outspoken when meeting people like this. Now I have kids I rarely challenge as they’re usually with me - but when I do, it’s usually some man who has said/done something. If I was six foot tall and six foot wide you can guarantee they wouldn’t say shit to me. Always fun seeing how much they underestimate me. Small willies indeed!

They'll do it to the wrong driver one day .

Many years ago ( and I had my primary school aged DC in the car) I stopped for petrol. The driver behind me kept beeping and yelled "Can't you bloody move " (to the pump in front)

He speed round me and reversed in.......to find the pump in front was completely out of action. All nozzles , he couldn't see the yellow covers as my car was taller and he was in a sports car .
He sloped off to join the queue again

He’s a nasty twat, that much was immediately obvious. Therefore I would have avoided saying anything to him, particularly something that would piss him off. It’s dangerous to get into any sort of disagreement with someone who’s clearly aggressive and can’t control themselves.

Yeah that's different. Stop excusing male aggression.

People do seem to be getting more aggressive it’s scary !!
welldone for speaking up I bet he felt a tit !
I parked in a disabled bay the other day popped my blue badge on dash ! A bloke pulled up and parked behind me got out of his car came to the front of my car checked badge muttering and I said what’s the problem well my wife is more disabled I laughed in his face I have a disabled badge how do u know she’s more disabled than me 🤣🤣🤣 what a tit I just laughed at him and walked off

How do you know it was different? We don't know if that was a normal day for him or like me he was on his way back from a parent's death bed. I think the man I turned on would say it was female aggression, I'm just glad no one was recording me as it wasn't my finest moment.

This doesn’t work unfortunately 😂 You don’t get a receipt and the orders are read off the car numberplate 😔

Yes, we get it, every aggressive man is just having a shit day, it’s just one snapshot into his life, he didn’t mean it, women need to be kinder to men.

Go sell this crap to someone else, no one here’s buying it.

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Your comprehension isn't great is it? I said that might be how he is normally or he might be having a day like I did. We don't know.

@Londontown12 that’s actually so bizarre that it’s hilarious. Disability top trumps?!? 😂

The combination of fast food and high blood pressure will get him in the end. Worry not, OP.

This did make me chuckle!

Seriously, though, I don't know what's wrong with people. I've had people do this to me in queues when there is very obviously someone in front of me and absolutely nowhere for me to go. It's like- WTF do you expect me to go? should I fold my car up (as its foldable clearly) and just scuttle away so you can move one place up?

I realise its not wise to challenge people like this but since I've started peri menopause its like a red mist descends and I act in ways I wouldnt normally. One time something similar happened (some mouthy bloke) and I lost my rag and started swearing like a sailor at him- I used words I didnt even know that I knew. He actually looked terrified and muttered sorry and got back in his vehicle. Maybe it helps that I am 5'10"? 😂

I've had similar. I live in a rural area where there are a lot of single lane roads, so you may have to reverse and they can get jammed. Approaching a corner, I could see a van ahead of me with its brake lights on. I waited, knowing that spot and suspecting that the road was jammed. The van driver behind me evidently thought I was sitting there for shit and giggles and came past me - that bit of the road is wide enough, it's further down round the corner it narrows to one lane. Then he got to the corner and saw the jam. I think at that point he expected me to reverse for him so he could move to the left and let traffic through. But I sat there and waited for him to reverse back past me and move back to where he would have been.

I had considered putting my hazard lights on, but thought that might make it look even more like I was waiting. He could have got out and had a look or asked me why I was waiting, but he just shoved past, glaring at me. Men assume women are stupid and that they can push us around. Sometimes I'll take them on but most of the time I wait until they come to the realisation that they're the stupid ones.

That was exactly my response too! 🤣🤣🤣

Oh yes, karma is a bitch! 🤣🤣🤣

I once became the third car behind the first two who I didn't realise but we're having a road rage/brake slamming incident. I kept nearly going into the back of the second one as I didn't realise why he kept slamming his brakes on. When we got to a roundabout I leaned on my horn. Next thing I know he jumps out of his car and pulls my drivers door open. I shit myself and he could have killed me. I could be a cheeky person when pissed off in my twenties, but it taught me a valuable lesson.
Footnote: got revenge - memorised number plate, reported to police when got home. They gave him an unexpected visit. Hope he shat his pants back.

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All that beeping would have made me terribly indecisive over what I wanted to order.

That doesn’t make OP unreasonable

I’ve had this with boyfriends and DB sitting next to me! Once my DB was scrabbling round trying to find a CD and some twat lost it at me, the man’s face when my ripped big brother sat up was a picture! Brother didn’t have to say much either!

Wish I had a wand to zap their cars.
Id keep the AA busy

People are so aggressive now. I see people kicking off nearly every day about nothing or at worst very minor inconveniences. They can't all be newly bereaved or similarly stressed. I had a man drive alongside me blasting his horn for a few 100m over me not giving way to him (it was not his right of way as he was joining a roundabout and i was already on). He eventually got his rage out of his system and roared off ahead. I hope the speed camera was up there 🤣

I think he was horrible but i would have let it go. I would never antagonise a strange angry man because you really don't know what they would do.

No you did nothing wrong, I'm sick of drivers these days being aggressive and impatient over every little thing!

I wouldn't have. I've met enough psychopaths in my life to know that being right isn't enough to keep you safe when a bigger, stronger person wants to hurt you.