To threaten my H with divorce if he ever takes my kids to see MIL again.

[HooversBrokenAgain]

He took them "out" today. All day so I could have a break, he said nothing about going to see his mum.(I don't trust her and have never wanted our children left with her) He comes home looking sheepish MIL has only f gone and pierced my baby daughters ears.

I have been screaming at him for almost 3 hours and am still fuming with rage.

He keeps telling me to take them out if I am so bothered.

I am going to show him this thread so if you all flame me he'll think he is off the hook.

BTW can anyone tell me if it's ok to take them out, they are very bloody and I'm so worried she is mutilated for life

Agree with blood poisioning and A&E visit.

My DH has said he would divorce me if i pierced DD's ears without her and his consent.

am leaving this open for him to see. Going to wake her.

Mus go. Thank you.

Janni - presumably your toddler's piercing was done with a proper gun though? and baby earrings not adult ones?

Poor you and dd. My mum always asks if it's ok to do things with Tom, even asked if it was ok to but him an easter egg. She, or my MIL would never dream of doing something like this.

Good Luck Hoovers!

id also go to a and e,tonightjust incase.take your h along to so he knows just how serious a thing he and his mother have done.

No- urban the MiL did it herself, with an old pair of earrings

I would phone NHS direct before going to a+e, they will be able to advise you

A&E right now really would be the best thing, Hoover. There's nothing to be gained by waiting but everything to lose.

goodluck.

I think what your DH and MIL have done is disgusting as they don't have your permission.

I am totally outraged and support you 100%and have just checked with my dh and he is the same.

Good luck

You are right to take her to A&E. Hope she is ok.

Hoover - best wishes for you and your dd. so so so and for you and her.

and MRHOOVER if you are reading this, you need to WAKE THE FUCK UP and realise what it is you have done to your baby. your dd is the same age as my own son. if my husband allowed someone to stick manky nails needles earrings into him i'd kill him.

imagine if you took her to the park, and saw that she was playing with needles, or nails. what would you do? just let her get on with it, i suppose.

what a tit.

If your dh knew what his mother was doing, he has betrayed both you and his daughter. Many women on here would divorce their dhs for allowing their MIL to cut their dc's hair, let alone mutilating them.

oh hoover what a terrible thing to happen to the wee one

do let us know how you get on

she's an inconsiderate evil selfish cow and he is frankly no better for defending her and not realising that this is mutilation of a BABY

regardless of whether or not people do this in other countries/cultures - you made it clear it was not happening to YOUR child and he should have respected that even if his 'mother' couldn't

silly silly woman

agree with previous post re piercing something of his just so he has some experience of what the wee soul went through

its just all very

I would hate to have woken either of mine for a trip to A&E when they were asleep and this would make me hate my MIL even more. I have had several piercings over the years, nipple, belly button and tragus and all 3 became infected even though I treated them properly and they were done in reputable licenced studios. Good luck at A&E, I hope its not too horrendous and the outcome is a good one.

Just told my D abouth this thread, "that's abuse!!!" he said.

And he's right. It is.

Urbandryegg - to be honest, I don't know how it was done and I'm not AT ALL saying to the OP to not seek medical attention. I'm just saying that if the earrings come out now the holes will heal - she was worried about that.

If HBA goes to A & E to get this dealt with, wont they have a duty to report this to Social Services?

What will be the repercussions of that?

Unfucking believable.

I'm sure that all will be OK with your DD. I really hope that your DH sees hwo wrong it was for his mum to do this and for his initial attitude and that you are able to work things out.

And I think you can tell from all the responses on her that you most certainly are not being unreasonable!

A&E tonight, definatly. Don't take the risk.

VVVQV - it depends whether they believe that the MIL did it. I can't see any reason why they wouldn't tbh. but yes, it is something to think about. Hoover - if you're still there, think clearly about what happened, get events straight in your mind. they probably will want to question you and your husband.

Janni - no i completely agree, i was just curious.

VVVQV - have no idea if will report to social but good on them if they do - if the staff don't I would consider phoning them myself if OP

might make stupid cow (MIL) think twice before doing something similar as obviously the baby's mothers opinion wasn't enough for her not to so it

Unfortunately although it is technically assault all she has to say is that there was implied consent from the child's father. Which there fucking was, wanker.