To threaten my H with divorce if he ever takes my kids to see MIL again.

[HooversBrokenAgain]

He took them "out" today. All day so I could have a break, he said nothing about going to see his mum.(I don't trust her and have never wanted our children left with her) He comes home looking sheepish MIL has only f gone and pierced my baby daughters ears.

I have been screaming at him for almost 3 hours and am still fuming with rage.

He keeps telling me to take them out if I am so bothered.

I am going to show him this thread so if you all flame me he'll think he is off the hook.

BTW can anyone tell me if it's ok to take them out, they are very bloody and I'm so worried she is mutilated for life

proving quite difficult to google. but one council website notes: "Public health law requires that persons undertaking ear piercing operate in a hygienic manner in order to prevent the spread of disease, particularly hepatitis and HIV infections.

Premises are generally controlled by means of local bye-laws made by individual councils together with health and safety at work legislation, the standards being enforced by Environmental HealthOfficers."

which could indicate that what I said above might be correct.

Xenia you talk alot of sense, but fuck me, you don't half talk some shit sometimes.

I can't believe that the sound of a baby crying a bit during a nappy change (as they do) would be remotely like a baby screaming in pain whilst having adult earring posts forced through her ears?? So - either he knew what was happening and therefore condoned it, or was too much of a wimp to go and find out what was happening, and therefore challenge his mother.

3littlefrogs, I suspect your last sentence is exactly what happened.

Absolutely shocked. Hope there is no lasting damage.

Which makes me wonder how he will behave in future. As someone else said earlier in this thread, fathers are supposed to protect their children.............

Okay, if he was downstairs and didn't know then I suppose he didn't consent but I doubt the police are likely to want to be bothered with it. If you want to shock MIL then I suppose you could issue a court claim for damages for personal injury. I doubt you'd get much money as the trauma did not last long and the holes will quickly close up but it might shock her and make her realise it was an assault.

Hoovers - I'm off to bed now but I really hope you and dd are ok and that dh wakes up to himself!

Hoovers am off to bed but hoping the wee one is ok and your dh gets a better understanding of his job description as a 'daddy' soon

am not even entering into the job desc for granny as you know what they say, can't teach an old cow dog new tricks

Hoovers, your poor DD, am sobbing as I read this, I simply cannot believe it, how barbaric

I hope everything went ok at the hosp, and she is ok. Thank goodness she is young and so won't (hopefully) remember too much of the trauma of it all as she grows up.

I would, personally, never let mil near the dcs again unless I was supervising, sounds like your dh is terrified of her. And give her the bollocking of the century if the police are not interested.

((((big hugs for you and dd))))

Oh, and force a blunt earring post through sensitive parts of both MIL's and DH's anatomy. I'll help hold the wicked bitch and spineless idiot down.

I think it has all been said. I am so and so I think you've dealt with this so well.

What a cruel evil woman to hurt a child and put their health at risk knowing you didn't agree with it.

And what a weak pathetic excuse for a father. He should be ashamed of himself.

Please let us know how your dd is.

I second A&E for DD.

I second police for MIL.

I suggest boarding house for H.

If my mil did that by god she'd find out what assault was

As a GP, I am shocked by this story and disgusted that your dh appears to have been complicit in it all.

Firstly, get your daughter to medical attention due to the risk of infection caused by unsterile piercing.

Secondly, speak to your GP or health visitor tomorrow about what has happened as there may well be child protection issues arising that need to be dealt with.

Thirdly, speak to the police to get the injuries documented and incident recorded.

Forthly, tell your dh to grow some fucking balls and to stand up to his mother. Allowing the painful, needless mutilation of a child is an utter disgrace. He should be ashamed- I don't care what his cultural background is.

Regardless of the outcome of this, get legal advice and apply for a restraining order against her coming into contact with your children. Depending on your area, there may be a small fee, but at least you will have legal standing to ensure nothing further happens.
I hope A&E have helped, I'm sat here so pale and shocked, thinking of you.

Just off to bed in a mo Hoovers, but wanted to see how things are...hope things went ok at A&E. Will be thinking of you & your DD tonight ((hugs))

Yeah, a restraining order against the crazy old bitch sounds like an excellent idea. It sounds like neither she nor your husband sees it as a big deal, and a restraining order would challenge that perception.

I would also take my husband down to Claire's to get his ears pierced, so he knows how much it hurts even when it's done properly.

If this were my husband, I'd screw him through the divorce courts so hard he'd be sleeping in a cardboard box.

The woman is mad and should certainly never be allowed near your kids again. Personally I would contact the police as I would view it as assault - your poor DD

"i think this is the first time i have actually been shocked to the core on MN."

Agree.

and and

I would go to the police. And to the GP for the earrings to be taken out and a medical report written.

sick sick and more sick

get dd to a dr/hosp THIS MORNING!
Report evil cow bag
knee spineless idiot of a husband in his balls

HBA hope you and dd are ok this morning.

Can't actually believe this thread

How on earth will you ever be able to trust your dh with your dd again??

I would always be worried about the next visit to see granny and whwt else she might do.